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by ratperson
Wed Jul 01, 2015 9:55 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Five Years Ago (getting some perspective)
Replies: 6
Views: 4665

Re: Five Years Ago (getting some perspective)

Five years ago, I thought I was going to be a vet tech, but I wasn't sure, because horses still seemed like a good option. But I was also not succeeding in the horse-riding respect as much as I would've liked (didn't know at that point that I have anxiety, and that was a huge part of my lack of succ...
by ratperson
Sun Apr 05, 2015 6:29 pm
Forum: Site Help & Service
Topic: Endometriosis
Replies: 2
Views: 7917

Re: Endometriosis

Awesome! When it's done, I'll probably share it all over the various Facebook groups I'm in where it's relevant, because then people can distribute it to their friends as well, particularly those with children with uteri who need this sort of information. :D It's something that's quoted as 1 in 10 w...
by ratperson
Sun Mar 29, 2015 7:19 pm
Forum: Site Help & Service
Topic: Endometriosis
Replies: 2
Views: 7917

Endometriosis

Just a quick question - will there ever be an article about endometriosis? I'm finding that a lot of women in Facebook support groups started having symptoms in their teens, and this site does a BRILLIANT job of explaining most things, like when and how to get help, so I feel like a scarleteen artic...
by ratperson
Tue Mar 24, 2015 12:55 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: Curious about gender binary
Replies: 3
Views: 4306

Re: Curious about gender binary

Thanks so much for your answer, it's really helpful. I'm not sure if I'm questioning my gender identity or whatever (I don't even know what I'm questioning...) or if my brain has just been thrown by a loop by going from 'wait I'm ADOPTED???' to 'wait I'm autistic too?????' in about eight months, and...
by ratperson
Mon Mar 23, 2015 9:25 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: Curious about gender binary
Replies: 3
Views: 4306

Curious about gender binary

I've been wondering for a little while if it's possible to be both non-binary and cis. I know a few people who identify as non-binary and trans, but I wasn't sure if it's possible to be cis and non-binary, and anyone I've asked (tumblr) assumes I'm cis and takes the 'die cis scum' mentality, refusin...
by ratperson
Sun Feb 22, 2015 10:49 pm
Forum: Pregnancy and Parenting
Topic: Testing, testing!!! (Pregnancy Test)
Replies: 2
Views: 6116

Re: Testing, testing!!! (Pregnancy Test)

My first pregnancy test was done by blood test along with a CBC and other blood tests because it was for a pre-surgery workup. I spent a few days panicking because even on two birth control methods I was just worried because it was the first pregnancy test, and if I was somehow pregnant they couldn'...
by ratperson
Tue Feb 17, 2015 9:44 pm
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: You're not afraid anymore! Wahoo!
Replies: 3
Views: 3586

Re: You're not afraid anymore! Wahoo!

I have three of these. First, my fear of pregnancy. That one was a paralyzing fear: I never knew I could go without sleep for four days straight because of an IBS flare (going to the bathroom every half hour all night until my gut was empty) caused by panic attacks! Eventually, I started to realize ...
by ratperson
Tue Feb 17, 2015 9:37 pm
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: What do you struggle with around self-care?
Replies: 2
Views: 3605

Re: What do you struggle with around self-care?

I struggle with running out of spoons. As a college student, I have to go to class, socialize with friends, go to meals (and dealing with the loud, crowded dining hall usually costs more spoons than the food gives me), do homework, study, and somehow find time and spoons for self-care. It's very dif...
by ratperson
Wed Jan 21, 2015 11:35 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Freaking out a little
Replies: 7
Views: 4861

Re: Freaking out a little

Okay, thanks for clarifying! Things like this are why I'm glad the doctor put me on both to treat my endometriosis (I'm lucky - it's on my ureter, and that's one of two places, the other being a vein or artery wall, where it can't be removed), because i get the suppression of bleeding which relieves...
by ratperson
Tue Jan 20, 2015 9:38 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Freaking out a little
Replies: 7
Views: 4861

Re: Freaking out a little

I have a question just because I'm curious, i searched the old boards and the main site and didn't see a situation like mine. I know since I'm on the depo shot I'm protected no matter what happens to my pill. I was switched to lo loestrin fe and I'm taking it without placebos along with the shot, an...
by ratperson
Thu Jan 08, 2015 5:59 pm
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: The Fault In Our Stars
Replies: 11
Views: 9538

Re: The Fault In Our Stars

I loved the book and the movie. I have endometriosis and it's been discussed as 'the closest you can get to cancer without having cancer', because it spreads but won't kill you directly. Because of that, I really liked how day-to-day life was described - having to move slowly and rest a lot, being a...
by ratperson
Thu Jan 08, 2015 5:50 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Family Gathering Survival Guide
Replies: 5
Views: 3844

Re: Family Gathering Survival Guide

I have a really stressed relationship with my bio-mom who comes around for holiday meals so I've come up with a fair few. First, my boyfriend is pretty much always at the gatherings with me, so he comes over early enough for us to get immersed in something like youtube videos or reading funny sites ...
by ratperson
Thu Jan 08, 2015 5:43 pm
Forum: Pregnancy and Parenting
Topic: Where You Came From
Replies: 5
Views: 7171

Re: Where You Came From

I heard two different stories since I didn't find out I was adopted until last summer. The story I grew up with (I'm 20 now) is that I was unplanned, my parents had been together for about a decade but not yet married and when they found out I was coming they planned to get married. They got married...
by ratperson
Tue Dec 30, 2014 8:54 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Can you get PMS while on Birth Control?
Replies: 2
Views: 25379

Re: Can you get PMS while on Birth Control?

If you're on a tricyclic pill (it sounds like you are, since it's Tri-Sprintec, I'm on Trinessa which is a tri-cyclic one), the third week has the highest levels of hormone. It's set up so that the first three weeks have increasing amounts of one hormone (first week has x level, second has x+y level...
by ratperson
Tue Dec 30, 2014 8:50 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Anyone else here on the aromantic scale?
Replies: 3
Views: 4928

Re: Anyone else here on the aromantic scale?

So far I *think* I'm heterosexual (not completely sure but that's a whole can of worms I'd rather not get into, no reason to explore sexuality when I've found 'the one'), and heteroromantic as well, though I know I have trouble defining the line between friend and more-than-friend especially with ve...
by ratperson
Tue Dec 09, 2014 11:32 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: The First Time Boy/Girl Expectations So Sucked
Replies: 7
Views: 12811

Re: The First Time Boy/Girl Expectations So Sucked

This isn't the first time, but it's a quite recent and somewhat troubling thing. There has been a trend in groups I'm part of online (chronic illness groups) toward 'making a change' by shaving hair short. Every time I mention it to...anyone, really, I'm told things like 'girls don't shave their hea...
by ratperson
Sat Dec 06, 2014 9:54 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: YAY!
Replies: 20
Views: 21373

Re: YAY!

I'm slowly getting over my phone anxiety because of so many doctors office calls. I know the doctors office part isn't the best, but I've had awful phone anxiety and the past few times on the phone I haven't had panic attacks or gone somewhat nonverbal because I was having difficulty. I think this w...
by ratperson
Sun Nov 30, 2014 9:52 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: When love doesn't happen in a straight line
Replies: 7
Views: 5386

Re: When love doesn't happen in a straight line

Some soap operas have different progressions, where the woman initiates the relationship or they take breaks to explore other options, but again there's a lot of heterocentrism and once they're together it's a relatively linear progression. One example I've seen that wasn't linear was The Fault in o...
by ratperson
Sun Nov 30, 2014 9:46 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Tonne of questions about periods and what affects them
Replies: 60
Views: 28991

Re: Tonne of questions about periods and what affects them

Just popping in - periods can be irregular even on birth control. Mine start or end on different days depending on things like stress level, diet, and just whenever they feel like it. Bodies really aren't machines, and there's so much happening that we can't even tell is going on (digestion, how the...
by ratperson
Mon Oct 27, 2014 10:53 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Annoying , Cliche narratives
Replies: 5
Views: 3327

Re: Annoying , Cliche narratives

I really hate the stereotypes where a girl has sex and it 'changes' her. Sometimes sex changes people for good. But in these, it's usually that she dresses more provocatively, gains a bad (rebellious) attitude, becomes the kind of person her parents 'didn't want her to be', etc. It's incredibly irri...
by ratperson
Mon Oct 27, 2014 8:22 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Bio-mother related question
Replies: 7
Views: 5291

Re: Bio-mother related question

I might try talking to my mom about the situation because I don't want the dinner to turn into everyone being angry, that wouldn't be fun at all. My dad doesn't really care if I have a relationship with bio-mom or not, so I'm sure I could persuade him to let my boyfriend and I help him with the food...
by ratperson
Sun Oct 26, 2014 5:44 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Bio-mother related question
Replies: 7
Views: 5291

Re: Bio-mother related question

No, you were fine. :) I've discussed that with mom and she wants me to at least be polite to bio-mom. (Dad doesn't care either way and just wants whatever causes the least drama.) Unfortunately, it seems that 'being polite' and 'ignoring' aren't the same thing.....yet 'if you can't be nice to someon...
by ratperson
Sun Oct 26, 2014 4:35 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Bio-mother related question
Replies: 7
Views: 5291

Re: Bio-mother related question

I really want no relationship aside from seeing her at holidays until I've moved out from living with my parents, and then possibly an internet relationship *might* work, but I'd prefer nothing closer than that. It's not just adoption-related, she has other issues that I really can't tolerate dealin...
by ratperson
Sat Oct 25, 2014 5:43 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Bio-mother related question
Replies: 7
Views: 5291

Bio-mother related question

Over the summer, I found out I'm adopted. To make the story short, my biological-mom (who I was raised to think was my half-sister) was pregnant with me at 18; my parents didn't get to visit until I was three months, and found that my bio-parents were selling formula to buy alcohol and thus giving m...
by ratperson
Sat Oct 18, 2014 9:13 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: Guys & Consent
Replies: 6
Views: 6755

Re: Guys & Consent

I've identified as female and been raised as female my entire life, but the things I've heard about consent were largely female-centric. Women should give consent, men should ask for consent from women, etc. It's all very heteronormative and related to other misconceptions, such as the idea that men...