hi! i’ve taken a break from trying but i’m still scared to try again. are there any like little steps i can take to ease myself into putting a finger or a tampon in there? i’m just wondering if i can just go step by step to make things feel less weird or sudden and scary, but i don’t know how. but a...

yes, that does make sense. i’ll take a break from trying for a bit, but also i want to be able to have normal sex when i’m older, and i want to be able to do all the normal things, and i know i must be capable of it, it’s just hard because i can’t do it, no matter how much i try.

hi again! i think my fear must be what makes it hurt so bad, but i genuinely can’t get over it. as soon as i sit down and think “okay, i’m gonna do it,” this feeling hits me of complete dread and anxiety and i just feel like i never ever want to try, but i know i need to. also, i’ve sort of had this...

hi, sorry it took me so long to respond. so i still haven’t been able to get anything inside of me at all. i did in fact get my mom to try to help me out a tampon in about a month ago, and she said she got it in me a little, but it hurt SO bad. she tried a second time, but before she even got it in ...

hi again, i tried what you said and used a mirror to look while trying to put a finger in, but i just can’t see a hole. when i try to put a finger there, i can’t put it in anywhere. i don’t know if that makes sense but yeah. it’s feels like i don’t even have one, but obviously i know i do because i’...

i read the article, and it kind of made more sense. but when i look at it in a mirror, i see a slit, but then there’s like this pale thing where it looks like the hole is deeper inside. i think it’s my hymen, i’m not sure though, but i can’t put a finger in because of it. is there any way to change ...

hi, i understand what you mean, but my main problem is that i don’t even know where my actual hole is. like i’ve looked at it with a mirror a lot of times but i can’t find the actual hole. i don’t know if it’s higher up or lower down or in the middle, etc. whenever i try to put a finger in, i can on...

that makes a lot of sense. but i also want to be able to put in a tampon, (which really hurts when i try) because i’ve heard it’s easier to use once you get the hang of it. i’ve been able to put half of my pinky finger inside, but then i’m not able to put it in anymore. i can’t even tell if i’m putt...

hi! i read most of the article you sent me, and i found a lot of it helpful. however, i still tense up when i try to insert something into me. i have tried to relax, but for some reason i can’t. also, the biggest reason i really want to is because in the future when i get a boyfriend, i’m scared the...

hi again! i guess it does kind of feel like a release of pleasure in a way, but only sort of. but i’ve tried a lot of times to put a finger inside of myself and i just can’t put it in. i also can’t get a tampon in for some reason.

thanks for responding Sam W you asked how it felt before and after the drop of pleasure, and what happens is that it starts to feel really good, but then right after the peak of it, i don’t feel any pleasure anymore. you could be right that i may actually be orgasming and just not know it, it is kin...

i am 13 and whenever i try and like touch my clit it just doesn’t feel good no matter what. i can masturbate by like humping a pillow but whenever it gets to the highest pleasure it just suddenly goes away and i can’t orgasm. i also have never been able to like put my finger inside of my vagina eith...