hiya! so for some background i used to identify as asexual but i no longer identify that way because i realized that what made me “feel asexual” i guess was all of the sex negativity, sexual shame, and purity culture that was drilled in my brain, and since unpacking all of that i no longer identify ...

i’ll try to explain the best i can because my memory is pretty fuzzy. basically its mainly a lot of “feel bad for me”, “you’re actually in the wrong not me”, acting like nothing ever happened, maybe pretending to care and be nice but im not 100% sure on that, and “i didn’t do that you’re crazy” if t...

uhh i would say its a bit of both. her awful behavior has always been present for my whole life. it did get a bit worse when her bf was here because of all the fights and stuff but in general its a cycle where she’ll be really bad and blow up or act out and just generally really awful but then be al...

yeah i can do that! thanks!!

thanks!! i will!

honestly im not really sure how i wanna approach the conversation

ok thanks, thats a relief. i had a situation almost a year ago when a ex therapist called child services (it was for a dumb reason not anything actually that serious dw) so that definitely made me a lot more worried and paranoid when it comes to talking about this sort of stuff. also yeah thats why ...

oh god now im worried that this wasn’t the best thing to talk about. i dont wanna like get taken away from my family or anything because of this :[

its ok!! i’ll definitely take another look at that article!! thanks! i usually draw but its a bit tricky bc im not the best at posing and anatomy atm. im not the worst but also not amazing at it haha! hmmm im not sure what sounds most intriguing. i guess it depends on what types of things you’re ref...

hi. ive been wanting to talk about this for a while but i’ve been hesitating so i guess i’ll just get it done now. i’ve been going back and fourth on whether or not ive been abused for years now atp, almost everyone i’ve talked to about it has said i have been but idk im worried that im overreacting...

hiya!! i mainly live with my mom and brother. sometimes my sister stays for a bit but not often (thankfully). i guess my concerns about being loud mainly stem from my anxiety as i dont wanna be a bother or have other people hear me being loud and silly. i probably will talk to my mom about everythin...

its just hard bc theres so much and idk which things to do and its hard to find the time to do it everyday :[

hmm i could try that! i usually watch videos or look at nsfw art, so i could look for something different. its tough bc i also really wanna try to learn how to fantasize on my own and stuff im just not really sure how to do it ig.

hi!! so i’ve been struggling a bit with voice masculinization and i need some advice i guess my main problems are that idk how to fit it into my routine, mainly bc i need to do it at a time where i can be a bit loud and stuff, and i also dont know how to make the time to do it. also, i’ve found sooo...

hiya queerlink!! if it makes you guys feel any better, we’re a system too who also uses loads of “contradictory” labels! we can definitely empathize with how hard it is when everyone is treating your identities like they’re the worst thing ever when you’re just sort of chilling. its really tough, es...

hiya! thanks!! i’ll definitely check that out. also, i think writing down things might help, but its a bit hard to remember to do that sometimes. for the second question, i guess its a bit of both. its a bit tricky to add other things, and also find the time to do those things. i guess its just a bi...

oh also i forgot to mention!! its also difficult to like see what we’re into and stuff because we’re a system and we all are into different stuff (or nothing at all) so that makes it a bit more tricky

hi!! thanks! although the link you provided doesn’t seem to be working at least on my end unfortunately :[ i have read a few articles on here about this topic though. its i guess hard for me to remember to try these things and put the time in, partially because its hard for me to switch up my routin...

hi! thank you, i do feel a bit better about everything now.

i could try to take a break from porn, but it’s tricky bc i usually cant really get aroused or anything without it. our brain isn’t the best at fantasizing on its own so we kinda rely on it for that so ig its just tricky.

oo ok thats good to know!! i try to make sure to handwash before and after but sometimes i forget, i hope that isn’t too bad. i did look at my vagina to see if anything weird is going on and it did look kinda lumpy on the inside but also i know that that could just be how it is. it hasn’t hurt or an...

i feel broken because no matter how hard we try we dont like penetration and cant ejaculate. almost every single porn we watch featuring someone with a vulva, they always seem to get so much pleasure from vaginal or anal penetration and/or ejaculate but we dont. it feels weird for us but for everyon...

mhm! but also i would have to tell my mom if anything happens and thats even worse imo

is there anything i can do to prevent anything bad from happening?

ok!! thats good to know, thanks! im just worried bc the last thing i want is to go to the doctor for something embarrassing like this

ok so this was totally a lapse in judgment on my part bc i didn’t research too much beforehand but here we go. so basically i masturbated a little bit ago and alot of the time when i do that i try to penetrate myself bc my brain is like “maybe this time you’ll like it” but thats another topic. so ba...

hiya!! hmm im not sure if she’d wanna explain anything to him tbh bc they’re not on the best terms. i dont see him too often tho. probably like once a month or something also yeah i think it’s probably a good idea to get everything with my lupus and stuff sorted out first. it did kinda suck hearing ...

idk if he would be open to having a conversation, but if/when i do go on t he’ll probably notice my voice drop and stuff and ask wtf is going on.

also i talked to my mom about getting a doc involved and she said we need to focus on the lupus and everything else going on rn first