Hi, Apologies for this being a long post, this situation has evolved over around a year and has connections to basically every part of my life. I have 2 (maybe 3) close friends. For the sake of privacy, I’ll call the one I’m talking about in this post A. I’ve known A for about a year at this point. ...

Hello, sorry for this response taking a while.

Yeah, that makes sense.
I’m not in any sort of rush, so I’m just going to take things slow.
I really appreciate the advice, I’ll probably be back with more questions in a bit.

Hello everyone, it’s me again. I was telling yet another person (I’ll call them B) that I had a little bit of of a crush on them, and to my delight and surprise, they said that they also have a little bit of a crush on me. While I was talking with them, I felt totally safe and comfortable (with just...

Hello, I thought I’d give a little update: I told Q about my feelings for them, they weren’t interested in dating me, but we are still friends, so that went great. I haven’t talked to N yet, but I’m hoping to at some point. It was definitely scary taking the chance of telling them, but it worked out...

Thanks, I appreciate it!

Now is when I’d usually say to close the topic or something, but it seems like topics are left open here. (I don’t mind that at all, I’m just not sure how to indicate that I don’t feel like I need any more advice.)

I think I’m being dismissive, what I am experiencing definitely fits being allosexual, although it doesn’t feel very strong.

Sorry.

Yeah, that makes sense. It was a very rapid realization, so I think I kinda overreacted, instead of just thinking what you said. Although, I do think I have felt like this throughout my life, so perhaps I am allosexual, just in this way. (To be honest though, I don’t have all that much experience to...

Yeah, I think that’s the best way for me to proceed, probably starting with talking to Q, because I know them better.


Thanks for the help!

(I’m also wondering if any of you have thoughts on this, or maybe some ideas that would help me process this.)

Hello again. In one of my previous posts, I said that I was allosexual, but now I’m not sure. Now that I consider my various crushes, none of them have strong sexual elements, mostly romantic and platonic. I know that there isn’t always a hard line between those, especially for romantic and sexual, ...

Also, on the platonic snuggling with N thing, I already knew that I had romantic feelings for them when they suggested it, so it was more of a combined platonic/romantic skin hunger.

(I know the binary isn’t great, but I don’t feel like I have better terminology to explain.)

Thank you, I really appreciate the quick reply! Do you have any ideas as to how to begin this kind of conversation? If they’re interested, it could feel like a let down if I say something like “I’m not sure if I want to go on a date.” I could probably think of a better way to say that, but maybe you...

More on this: I think I feel somewhat constrained by ideas that intimacy only occurs in romantic (which often really means, romantic and sexual) relationships, but I also genuinely desire romantic relationships, I also seem to just generally get along better with girls and nonbinary people, who are ...

“How do you think you would handle Q or N expressing mutual feelings for you?” One of the complicated aspects of this is that I don’t know if my feelings for them are actually sufficient for an enjoyable romantic relationship, even if they had strong feelings for me. I have never been in a romantic ...

Sure, my concern is basically that I don’t know if the people would be happy to engage in the same physical intimacy if they were aware of my romantic interest in them, and I’m concerned that I am deceiving them by not telling them. I feel comfortable talking to one of them, (I’ll call them Q), and ...

(Hello, I’m a new boards user and this is my first post, so I’m kinda nervous.) My question is: is it wrong in some way for me to seek out physical intimacy (hugs, snuggling, etc) with people when those people are not aware that I have romantic interest in them? I’m in two platonic relationships (I’...