Agh, heck, okay. Was gonna check back in but then life came at me -- I think ultimately I do need to access a therapist, but money is tight right now, and I just need to wait for that to clear up. I have also been learning/uncovering more about some of my own emotions and responses independently, an...

Were y'all waiting for me to get back to you?

Thanks for the update; I have been scheduling some consults with sex therapists in my area. Thank you for recognizing the distress aspect.

That is absolutely reasonable; I am sorry I was insensitive and you did not make me feel bad by saying so. I am also sorry about the delay in getting back to you; I had other stuff on my plate today. Going forward, what is a good way that I can demonstrate that I am keeping the safety of community m...

My only cohabitating romantic relationship involved me going "winter break is coming up and I really don't feel safe going back to my parents' house, would it be possible for me to stay with you" a month and a half into a relationship that started as a chance encounter, and that worked out...

Woof! Busy couple of days. So: It's definitely not all sexual, it's all kinds of quality time. If I'm not living with someone, then opportunities to fuck and cuddle and cook together and watch/listen to shows together and collaborate on creative projects and parallel play and all SORTS of things fee...

I appreciate your thoughtful response; thank you for putting some of my fears to rest. I'm well acquainted with polyamory; the major problem I run into there is transportation and access to partners. Having to schedule time together and coordinate transportation and what we're doing and making the m...

I appreciate the advice and I may well look into a sex therapist with a somatic approach, but I'm not sure if I've entirely communicated my problem? I'm not concerned with any stigma or help managing my emotions , I'm concerned with access . I have tools to deal with resentment and relationship stru...

It does feel like other things that matter to me are getting neglected -- even when I have time to work on creative pursuits or go read at the park or take care of my living space or even just get out of the house and do something, I feel like I end up staying at home and masturbating or messaging w...

Hi Nicole! one doesn't necessarily need to seek out therapy to "fix" or "treat" anything, but rather just have a space to unload. [...] a therapist should not be labeling you off the bat like that [...] do you have any friends or a support system that you can talk about this with...

(Context: I am a 24-year-old trans woman who's unpacking a lot of stuff from her childhood.) So, I finally talked to my mom about sexuality recently -- the parental control software they put on the family computer came up, and it spiraled from there -- and I asked, "what would you have told me ...