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by Jay27
Sat Apr 06, 2024 3:34 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Do other lesbians practice safer sex? Will it be weird for me to ask?
Replies: 10
Views: 711

Re: Do other lesbians practice safer sex? Will it be weird for me to ask?

I hope so! I feel like people talk so much about using condoms but protection for sex that doesn’t involve a penis is so unknown and stigmatized. I already get anxious about sex and using barriers lowers the anxiety.
by Jay27
Sat Apr 06, 2024 5:03 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Do other lesbians practice safer sex? Will it be weird for me to ask?
Replies: 10
Views: 711

Re: Do other lesbians practice safer sex? Will it be weird for me to ask?

There’s nothing I can do to 100% prevent getting sick again in any sense. My body could even develop another chronic illness for no reason. I’m still gonna take precautions but the desire to make connections with other people and let my gf do the same outweighs that. Sometimes I feel like no one els...
by Jay27
Fri Apr 05, 2024 1:14 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Do other lesbians practice safer sex? Will it be weird for me to ask?
Replies: 10
Views: 711

Re: Do other lesbians practice safer sex? Will it be weird for me to ask?

Ok that’s good! I have health anxiety and I worry about getting another illness. But I think that’s outweighed by how much I want to date other people. And it’s really unlikely that I’ll end up dating someone who’s never had any partners before like my current relationship. So there’s always some ki...
by Jay27
Fri Apr 05, 2024 1:02 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Do other lesbians practice safer sex? Will it be weird for me to ask?
Replies: 10
Views: 711

Re: Do other lesbians practice safer sex? Will it be weird for me to ask?

Does the HPV vaccine make it less likely to come back irregular? Also my mom never got anesthesia for hers, are you also american?
by Jay27
Fri Apr 05, 2024 12:58 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Do other lesbians practice safer sex? Will it be weird for me to ask?
Replies: 10
Views: 711

Re: Do other lesbians practice safer sex? Will it be weird for me to ask?

I have healthcare through my college health center and there’s a planned parenthood very close by, so I would be able to get treatment if I had anything. I don’t want to keep myself or my girlfriend out of experiences with other people. Like if either of us makes a great connection with someone else...
by Jay27
Fri Apr 05, 2024 5:38 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Do other lesbians practice safer sex? Will it be weird for me to ask?
Replies: 10
Views: 711

Do other lesbians practice safer sex? Will it be weird for me to ask?

I’m interested in nonmonogamy. My partner and I have been practicing safer sex and we’re only sleeping with each other at the moment. Our practices include: Dental dams every time, nitrile gloves most times (or washing hands right before if we’re not using gloves). We haven’t used toys but we’d put ...
by Jay27
Wed Apr 03, 2024 1:00 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How do I become less scared of talking to people?
Replies: 5
Views: 786

Re: How do I become less scared of talking to people?

That all sounds good! I can try to see when the queer student group meets next. I really want to meet like minded people.
by Jay27
Sat Mar 30, 2024 9:48 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How do I become less scared of talking to people?
Replies: 5
Views: 786

Re: How do I become less scared of talking to people?

I feel like I don’t know how to start conversations. I’m on the autism spectrum so I’ve been made fun of before for not acting “normal.” I worry about that too.
by Jay27
Fri Mar 29, 2024 1:57 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How do I become less scared of talking to people?
Replies: 5
Views: 786

How do I become less scared of talking to people?

I like the idea of ENM and starting to casually date a second person but the thought of it makes me anxious. I wrote about this on the boards several months ago. My gf and I decided that each of us could date other people if we wanted to. I’m very happy with her, but she’s ace and I want the experie...
by Jay27
Sun Mar 10, 2024 12:31 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: The way my friend talks about sex makes me uncomfortable. How do I bring this up?
Replies: 3
Views: 489

Re: The way my friend talks about sex makes me uncomfortable. How do I bring this up?

Could I say something like:
“I know we think about the definition of sex differently and we’ve had different experiences, but I feel invalidated when you say that PIV is the only ‘real sex.’”
by Jay27
Sat Mar 09, 2024 9:45 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: The way my friend talks about sex makes me uncomfortable. How do I bring this up?
Replies: 3
Views: 489

The way my friend talks about sex makes me uncomfortable. How do I bring this up?

My friend and I are both in college. She’s bi and I’m lesbian. She’s only had one partner before, who was a cis man. She and her (now ex) boyfriend did everything but PIV intercourse. My friend said a few times that she’s “never had real sex” and that she’s a “technical virgin.” I don’t know if I’m ...
by Jay27
Fri Jan 19, 2024 7:42 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Depressed on birth control
Replies: 17
Views: 6444

Re: Depressed on birth control

I can do that. I’m seeing my psychiatrist in a few days. Hopefully he’ll find something but I’ve just kind of given up. I recently read about someone whose friends stopped inviting her on trips because her periods were irregular and they’d cause such bad pain that she couldn’t do anything. It remind...
by Jay27
Mon Jan 15, 2024 1:43 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Depressed on birth control
Replies: 17
Views: 6444

Re: Depressed on birth control

I feel like there’s always a stressful situation. This past fall was just a combination of bad things: new job, long distance relationship, losing a 2 year long friendship, family problems (including being harassed by relatives over my politics and needing to block them),questioning multiple aspects...
by Jay27
Sun Jan 14, 2024 5:50 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Depressed on birth control
Replies: 17
Views: 6444

Re: Depressed on birth control

Yeah I think I’d like support in talking to providers. I also want support for my anxiety about the future. I wonder if I’ll always have to put up with a level of unhappiness to fix my pain
by Jay27
Sun Jan 14, 2024 8:15 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Depressed on birth control
Replies: 17
Views: 6444

Re: Depressed on birth control

Yes, switching psych meds. It would be hard because I’ve already tried so many and got horrible side effects. My current meds are the ones I’ve been on for 3 years. I don’t have any side effects from them but I feel like they stopped working. Idk if there are options left.
by Jay27
Sat Jan 13, 2024 11:53 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Depressed on birth control
Replies: 17
Views: 6444

Re: Depressed on birth control

He thinks it’s a combination of stressful situations and the possibility that the hormones in the pill may be increasing my anxiety and depression on their own. I’ve maxed out the doses on all my psych meds. Idk if I should switch.
by Jay27
Sat Jan 13, 2024 11:40 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Depressed on birth control
Replies: 17
Views: 6444

Re: Depressed on birth control

There are definitely other things causing stress in my life. I also increased the dose of my antidepressant on this pill which didn’t do anything. I increased my anti anxiety med dose right before getting on the pill and it actually helped but as soon as I got on the pill, it basically stopped worki...
by Jay27
Sat Jan 13, 2024 10:14 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Depressed on birth control
Replies: 17
Views: 6444

Re: Depressed on birth control

We had an appointment a few weeks ago but I was only able to talk to her for a few minutes. I have a follow up appointment in May. We just talked about the breakthrough bleeding and my iron levels. I’m bleeding a lot less and I started iron pills so she wants me to get my levels checked again. I als...
by Jay27
Sat Jan 13, 2024 8:29 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Depressed on birth control
Replies: 17
Views: 6444

Re: Depressed on birth control

Yep I’m on the same pill since last August! I can’t use the ring or the patch because I have a high blood clot risk. If I got the IUD, I’d have to be under sedation because my obgyn couldn't even open the speculum all the way during my Pap smear because it was so uncomfortable. I have anxiety and I’...
by Jay27
Sat Jan 13, 2024 7:36 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Depressed on birth control
Replies: 17
Views: 6444

Depressed on birth control

I know I’ve already complained about my pill a lot on here. But I’ve realized for the past couple months, I never really feel happy. I used to have bad mood swings during my period and the week before but feel pretty good the other two weeks of the month. Now I’m just always kind of sad. If 1 is the...
by Jay27
Sat Dec 02, 2023 7:21 pm
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Birth control pills gave me iron deficiency anemia
Replies: 4
Views: 5431

Re: Birth control pills gave me iron deficiency anemia

I really hope so! My primary care doctor just refused to write me an accommodation letter for school so I’m just going to have to hope my psychiatrist can do it instead.
by Jay27
Fri Dec 01, 2023 8:11 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Birth control pills gave me iron deficiency anemia
Replies: 4
Views: 5431

Re: Birth control pills gave me iron deficiency anemia

It’s really hard to deal with :( Breakthrough bleeding is a very common side effect on this pill. At first it just felt like an inconvenience to buy menstrual products all the time, but as the weeks have passed, the fatigue gets worse and worse.
by Jay27
Fri Dec 01, 2023 7:29 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Birth control pills gave me iron deficiency anemia
Replies: 4
Views: 5431

Birth control pills gave me iron deficiency anemia

I’ve posted on the boards about breakthrough bleeding and fatigue on my birth control pill (been taking it for 3 months). My doctor finally found out what’s causing the fatigue! It’s iron deficiency anemia caused by the bleeding. Even though I’m not losing a lot of blood each day, because I'm bleedi...
by Jay27
Tue Nov 28, 2023 8:34 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Brought up an open relationship to my gf, but I’m not sure
Replies: 17
Views: 25397

Re: Brought up an open relationship to my gf, but I’m not sure

Queer friendships can be really messy and undefined. I guess I’ve been questioning what relationships even are.
by Jay27
Sun Nov 26, 2023 2:41 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Brought up an open relationship to my gf, but I’m not sure
Replies: 17
Views: 25397

Re: Brought up an open relationship to my gf, but I’m not sure

I think if I did polyamory at this point in my life, the other partner would have to be low commitment. I’m dealing with enough stress right now. I think my problem is that I don’t have clear lines between friendships and romance. Throughout my life, I’ve had close friendships that look like dating ...