Hi oliver-kittycat, I am really sorry that you've been dealing with this! chronic pain/illness like PCOS is especially tough because our society doesn't really accommodate (or even acknowledge) the pain and debilitation that comes with it. I hope we can find some ways for you to continue a fulfillin...

Hi Jlongdong, welcome to the boards First, I want to affirm your right to set boundaries around any sexual activity that you aren't comfortable with. It is a bit concerning that your girlfriend has trouble respecting your physical boundaries, which is not OK . Her sexual satisfaction is not more imp...

I think that's a great idea! Have you spoken with her about your anxiety surrounding the procedure already? It may also be a good idea to have a care plan in place for after the operation. It doesn't have to be to complicated, just some simple comfort activities to look forward to with friends, your...

Hey Sarxzer, For the clothing, are there any shops or organizations in your area which are queer friendly? They might be a good spot to look for clothing. Second hand stores and donation centers are another spot where you might have some luck. Thrift stores are less likely to ask questions or pass j...

Hey Jay, I want to reiterate what others said - this isn't an overreaction by any means and its your right to make decisions about your own body. Going in for medical procedures can be scary and I'm sorry you've had experiences in the past which make it more difficult for you. It might help to have ...

If you're concerned about the mess, do you have towels or spare sheets you can put down to make for an easier clean up? You can even designate certain clothes or fabric for that purpose!

I want to talk about the hyper-sexual label you've adopted for yourself. Often, we find diagnoses online with a couple symptoms that we heavily relate with. It is easy to then adopt that as a significant part of our identity and start analyzing all of our behavior through that lens, like this: Also,...

Hey Hikaru! Does your mom already associated binders with trans people? Even if she does, you can still bring up the binder. At the end of the day, its just a piece of clothing meant for people with breasts, regardless of their gender identity. If y'all are already looking for ways to reduce your br...

Hey MountainMix, I am really sorry to hear that. It is exhausting to be pulled in different directions like this and it sounds like you have been doing a lot of labor for friends who are taking it for granted. And yes, sometimes when we try to help the people in our life, it backfires. It is OK to a...

serek, you're on the right track by acknowledging that these thoughts are draining and not serving you well. holding to that is going to be your friend when these thoughts come up. Go ahead and take that pregnancy test like Heather said. I also suggest finding some other stuff to focus on instead of...

So I think there are two separate things to address here. One is your friendship with Lexi, and the other is the roommate dynamic between your gf and Lexi. In terms of your friendship, I am hearing a lot of your gf's opinions about how Lexi treats you, but I'm curious to know, how do you feel? - Do ...

yea, I do think resisting that urge will be helpful! It will definitely feel difficult in the beginning, which is why it is good to develop some tools for soothing your anxiety on your own or with the support of a trusted individual. This article has a few resources to help you get started on some m...

This fear and anxiety is common and understandable, given the messaging we receive around sex and pregnancy. In these moments, it is important to hold on to what you do know, which is that your actions pose no risk of pregnancy. This is a good opportunity to explore some actions or routines which ca...

Hey Brian, I hear you on wanting to provide good moments for your partner, and I am of the opinion that it is important for you to take care of yourself before you can do something for her. If y'all's sexual activity is causing you distress, I imagine it is impacting her mental health as well. There...

Hey telegram - I'll echo my peers in saying that I am sorry to hear that you are going through this - dealing with parents who don't believe you is extremely frustrating. You said you are scared of what could happen if you talk to your parents again and they still don't believe you. I'm curious, wha...

It is perfectly normal (and healthy) to shift what is and isn't important to you as you grow. I'm hearing that peoples' perception of you wasn't a huge deal in the past, but as you have explored your gender identity further, it is something that matters more. That's good! And it's a part of growth. ...

Hey whitelies,
the sexual activity you described poses no risk of pregnancy, so there is no chance that the blood clots is implantation bleeding.

Too, I'll refer you back to the articles Sam shared about pregnancy in your previous post!

Hey whitelies, welcome to the boards! I have moved your post to it's own thread so as not to detract from the other conversation. Let me reassure you, there is no chance of pregnancy in that scenario. 1) Sperm are incredibly fragile and can't survive outside the body for very long 2) they can't pass...

Hi veronica37111,
Here is the article on effective condom use:

Condom Basics: A User's Manual

And here is one about different birth control options:

Birth Control Bingo

Are there any methods you have heard of or are particularly interested in?

Hey Mika, As you and Kier both said, it is perfectly normal to experience attraction to friends and to have daydreams. And unfortunately, loads of people are taught to feel guilty about experiencing any kind of attraction. As you've said, these thoughts are in your mind, where they aren't harming an...

Hey The17O, I'll reiterate what Latha said in that this doesn't seem like assault and really is just a learning moment. Yes, it is important to be aware of other people's body language and pick up on cues, and reacting to those cues does take practice. Moving forward, this kind of checking in is a g...

Hey Emelyn, I hear you on not wanting to inconvenience other as you explore your identity, and I understand the urge to prioritize other people's satisfaction, even when it means putting our own needs aside. The thing about queerness is, it is almost always inconvenient for somebody. And truth be to...

Hey maxipad101 I understand not wanting to get your parents involved - it can be stressful! However, if the pain continues to persist today, I would recommend a visit to the doctor. An UTI left untreated can turn into a much more serious kidney infection. Cranberry juice is a great method to prevent...

Hey Rain39! Spit is often used as an alternative for lube - it does tend to dry up quickly but it works in a pinch. Some people use oils or petroleum jelly as well, but it is not recommended for penetration as these materials can trap bacteria in the vagina and can irritate the skin. Some clinics of...

Sure, that is a great question - It is possible for sperm on the outer parts of the vulva to make their way into the vagina, but it isn't very likely, especially in this scenario, where the semen was wiped away. It would be more of a possibility if you ejaculate directly onto or near the vulva, or w...