In one of my posts a few years back I mentioned I’ll have to have an arranged marriage - I’ve been considering my options and know now that I can say no, legally, but just in case I get caught up in a situation I can’t get out of, I’m afraid that my future husband may want to have sex with me immedi...

Hi, I had a question about masturbation and the hymen that I was hoping someone could help me out with! I have heard that the hymen is located at the beginning of the vaginal opening, and I've looked at diagrams but I'm not exactly sure where the vaginal opening starts. When I masturbate using my fi...

Hey everyone, It's been a long long time since I posted here but I just remembered this website and how helpful it was, so I thought I'd jump back on the forums to get some more advice! I don't know if feeling the way that I'm about to describe is normal, or common, or if it's as a result of my upbr...

Hi Redskies, Thanks for the reassurance :) I just try not to think about what happened too much because when I think of it I feel guilty even though I hear your reasons for why it's not my fault. I'm just struggling with ways to move on from what happened. I feel like I need to forgive myself in a w...

Hey, Sorry to bring up this oldish thread again, but I have just been feeling a few things recently that I really want to talk about. For starters I feel like the assaults were my fault in a way. I know I shouldn't feel that way but I still do, because I think now that if I had said no, or pushed hi...

Hi Sam,
That's fine
I think it would be great if we could talk about things to take care of myself while I try not to set off the minefield that is my family, it would help a lot.

If possible, I would really appreciate if we could maybe discuss how to deal with these problems now - more specifically how to stay on my parents' good sides, at least until I begin university and I spend more and more time away from home. Do I agree with whatever they say? They have picked all my ...

Heather~ I agree with what you've said, but to be honest I never thought of it as abuse! I mean, I seriously considered it, but never really thought that it actually was abuse. I hear what you're saying about trying to stay on the good side of my family until I get to university. This is really hard...

Hi, Apologies for the very late reply!! I've been extremely busy with exams. Anyways, in reply to Heather, I was just wondering what I said that concerns you that I am in an unsafe household? I mean I feel safe here, it's just that sometime those things I mentioned can happen. The slaps etc. don't h...

I wish my parents and I could have serious discussions about sex. I wish they treated me like I was mature, and not just a kid who should be kept innocent for the rest of her life. I wish my parents were more open to talking about sex, and I wish they could make me feel more comfortable to talk to t...

Thank you Sam!
Yes I was worried when I woke up and didn't see an answer, thanks for clearing that up

Hey Heather, Yep, I haven't had a real crush since, and I'm sort of afraid to because I might get found out and get in big trouble. :/ Actually with the suggestion of taking a summer trip to India, we do that every two years :) The last time we did it was a few months ago and we got back midway Janu...

Hi Heather, Thank you so much! It would be great if we could talk about some strategies to talk to my parents in little bits over the years about this, especially because they are so reluctant to do so! Also, yes, I would love to hear from your friend to get another perspective on this, especially s...

Thank you for all the help!! I live in Australia, but I'd prefer not to get more specific than that :) Heather - For relationships within my family and who I'm close to, I'd say my mum, or my dad, depending on the day. I'm not very close to my sisters - we fight a lot, and one bullied me :( I only h...

Hi Heather, It's absolutely fine that you don't personally know about arranged marriage and are going from research and friends :) As for whether I would have an arranged marriage whether I had the choice - I would say no, I wouldn't. But I guess because I am having an arranged marriage, it's either...

Hi :) A few years ago my dad told me that I'd be getting an arranged marriage when I was older - at an appropriate age, after finishing school and university. I'm Indian, which means that arranged marriages are a must in my family. This would be fine and all, and I have nothing against arranged marr...

Hi Sam, Thanks so much for answer and sorry for my late reply!! Ok so it's safe to assume that this is sexual abuse then... :shock: Where should I go from here? I don't think there were any long term effects of it, like lots of other people have been saying. Is this normal? I did have (what seemed t...

Hi, So when I was about nine years old, our neighbours moved out and some new people came to live there. We share the same driveway so we were pretty close, and my parents new them pretty well. They had two sons, one who was around 2-4 years older than me, and a brother one year younger than me. One...

Sam, Thanks for the reassurance - yeah, people normally talk about it in a negative way, which was why I was afraid there was something wrong with me. So thanks! Heather, I just checked out the website you linked, and to be honest it's made me feel a lot better! I never knew how 'normal' it is. Than...

Hi Johanna, Phew, I'm really relieved to hear that! Well I just feel that way because most people talk about normal romantic relationships, so I feel a bit weird that I like a different type of relationship. I guess its because most people don't talk about BDSM and its become a sort of 'gross' thing...

Hiya,

I've been wondering about this for a while, but am I weird if I like BDSM? I'm not sure if its normal or if I just have a really messed up mind...
Any advice would be appreciated, thanks.

Ah okay, thanks so much for your answers!

Hi Edith,

Thanks so much for your answer, I'll definitely check the link out
Also, is it normal for your clitoris to be very tender for a while after masturbating?

Thanks

Hi, So I heard a lot about masturbation on Scarleteen and how it's a healthy way of exploring, so I decided to try and it went a lot better than expected - I did it twice, and orgasmed both times. I was just wondering, how many times is it healthy to masturbate (and orgasm)? Is it unhealthy to mastu...