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by suomi
Mon Oct 07, 2024 2:30 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Scared of being attracted to women
Replies: 4
Views: 1516

Re: Scared of being attracted to women

Alright, thank you very much anyways!
by suomi
Mon Oct 07, 2024 1:25 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Scared of being attracted to women
Replies: 4
Views: 1516

Re: Scared of being attracted to women

Another thing is that when the paraphilias were developing as a child, I'd project them onto real life women. I don't do that now because I'm terrified and I'm just really scared that the only reason I don't like women like that is because of my trauma
by suomi
Mon Oct 07, 2024 1:21 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Scared of being attracted to women
Replies: 4
Views: 1516

Scared of being attracted to women

For context, I am a gay man with gynophobia, specifically surrounding women in sexual/romantic situations. I grew up with several paraphilias of which I find absolutely repulsive despite not being harmful at all. I've always hated them and wanted them gone ever since I was old enough to realize it w...
by suomi
Fri Apr 12, 2024 7:54 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I feel like I'm going crazy
Replies: 7
Views: 3731

Re: I feel like I'm going crazy

Ahh I see, thank you for explaining. I'll control myself then.

Thanks to you both for talking to me :)
by suomi
Fri Apr 12, 2024 5:15 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I feel like I'm going crazy
Replies: 7
Views: 3731

Re: I feel like I'm going crazy

That sounds good actually, thank you.

And that's a good idea- I was under the impression that I'd never be able to engage in it at all in real life. I'll try my best to be safe with how I engage in it, thank you again.
by suomi
Thu Apr 11, 2024 3:09 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I feel like I'm going crazy
Replies: 7
Views: 3731

Re: I feel like I'm going crazy

Yeah, that makes sense. Thank you very much for the reassurance. That's true, it's just that keeping it bottled up makes me feel awful. I feel like if everybody knew they'd hate me. I'm also worried for my safety as I've cut myself for sexual reasons before. And I'm worried that if I do somehow find...
by suomi
Wed Apr 10, 2024 10:54 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I feel like I'm going crazy
Replies: 7
Views: 3731

I feel like I'm going crazy

TW cutting, self harm I want to cut somebody or myself, or watch somebody self harm for sexual reasons really badly. I would never do it to another person, and in all my fantasies it's consensual, but I feel like such a terrible person for struggling with this. I've been trying so hard to be attract...
by suomi
Tue Jan 16, 2024 4:17 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Self Harm Fetish
Replies: 9
Views: 7553

Re: Self Harm Fetish

Got it! Thank you so much for talking with me.
by suomi
Mon Jan 15, 2024 8:41 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Self Harm Fetish
Replies: 9
Views: 7553

Re: Self Harm Fetish

That's a good idea! Would it be wrong to lightly cut to the point there's no blood? I also thought of brushing my nails against my skin also. Thank you again for helping!
by suomi
Sun Jan 14, 2024 3:26 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Self Harm Fetish
Replies: 9
Views: 7553

Re: Self Harm Fetish

That's a good idea!

I like feeling being cut or the looks of cuts on another person.
by suomi
Sun Jan 14, 2024 10:08 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Self Harm Fetish
Replies: 9
Views: 7553

Re: Self Harm Fetish

I'm concerned about physically hurting myself, I cut myself before for sexual reasons.
by suomi
Sun Jan 14, 2024 12:32 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Self Harm Fetish
Replies: 9
Views: 7553

Self Harm Fetish

In short, I have a self harm fetish. I haven't been able to get aroused at anything else but self harm. I just want to know if there's any way to get rid of this or if this is even acceptable in the first place. Any responses are welcome, and thank you in advance.
by suomi
Thu Nov 02, 2023 4:25 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Any risks when not douching?
Replies: 3
Views: 2389

Re: Any risks when not douching?

Ahhh got it. Thank you so much for the information!
by suomi
Thu Nov 02, 2023 9:20 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Any risks when not douching?
Replies: 3
Views: 2389

Any risks when not douching?

I only want to do anal fingering, nothing else. I go and clean my rectum with my fingers before fingering. Is there any risks of coming into contact with feces?
by suomi
Fri Sep 29, 2023 7:42 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Disgusted with the feeling of my insides
Replies: 5
Views: 3069

Re: Disgusted with the feeling of my insides

Got it! Thank you so much for your input. This helps a lot.
by suomi
Fri Sep 29, 2023 6:56 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Disgusted with the feeling of my insides
Replies: 5
Views: 3069

Re: Disgusted with the feeling of my insides

That's a great idea actually! Thank you so much for the idea.

And I'm not sure, but every time I even think about the texture (specifically for anal) I get nauseous. I'd like to get over it if possible.
by suomi
Fri Sep 29, 2023 5:43 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Disgusted with the feeling of my insides
Replies: 5
Views: 3069

Disgusted with the feeling of my insides

Every time I try anal or vaginal fingering I get so disgusted with the feeling of my insides that all pleasure is lost. When I use toilet paper to finger myself it feels a little better but it's hard to keep that up. So I was wondering if there was anything else to be used? I'm too scared to put in ...
by suomi
Thu Sep 28, 2023 10:21 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Does this count as sexual abuse?
Replies: 3
Views: 45177

Re: Does this count as sexual abuse?

Yes! That makes perfect sense. Thank you so much for explaining this to me.
by suomi
Thu Sep 28, 2023 8:46 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Does this count as sexual abuse?
Replies: 3
Views: 45177

Does this count as sexual abuse?

He always slapped my rear and touched all around my body. He made sexual comments about me. He had sex with his girlfriend while I was still on the bed with them multiple times. I'm just not sure how to categorize this because I know it was messed up, but I don't feel right calling this anything oth...
by suomi
Tue Jul 11, 2023 5:59 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How to bring up new things to partner?
Replies: 3
Views: 24122

Re: How to bring up new things to partner?

Yes, I'm scared the response might not be genuine.
by suomi
Fri Jul 07, 2023 2:36 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How to bring up new things to partner?
Replies: 3
Views: 24122

How to bring up new things to partner?

I feel like I'd be pressuring them into anything if I try-Since I have more experience than them-And we've been doing stuff they like up until now so I feel like they'd be forcing themself if they agreed.
by suomi
Wed Jun 21, 2023 11:32 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: How to regain pleasure after CSA
Replies: 24
Views: 61152

Re: How to regain pleasure after CSA

Glad to hear!!

It's just lot-Like sometimes I can't walk or talk but it really depends on the day and situation

That's a really good idea actually!! I'll have to ask about what they do, thank you!
by suomi
Tue Jun 20, 2023 8:52 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: How to regain pleasure after CSA
Replies: 24
Views: 61152

Re: How to regain pleasure after CSA

That's a very good idea! They sure push education and having me work. However, I'm not sure how to go about it since it's hard to get out of the house due to differing abilities. I receive virtual schooling so that's difficult as well. It'd be nice to get a job to get away from them but again it's d...
by suomi
Tue Jun 20, 2023 11:25 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: How to regain pleasure after CSA
Replies: 24
Views: 61152

Re: How to regain pleasure after CSA

It doesn't work much and mostly just gets me out for 20 minutes or so.

And the person refuses to come to my house anymore since last time they sexually harassed/touched me in front of them.

And the only transit I have is walking unless my parents agree to drive.
by suomi
Sun Jun 18, 2023 11:27 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: How to regain pleasure after CSA
Replies: 24
Views: 61152

Re: How to regain pleasure after CSA

No problem! Much appreciated!👍 And yes I'd love to :) They're mostly family get-togethers, or sometimes they just make us come downstairs. They're mostly at night/noon and inside. I'm unable to get a job or volunteer due to differing abilities, and only have one friend whose house I can go to. So mo...