So, pregnancy scare again (I think?). And you don't need to remind me of the rules of the forum, I'm not going to waste your time. But I need help. (I've had to return to my home country for health reasons, so the fear of being unable to obtain an abortion is no longer my chief concern.) I am not ac...

I am thinking big picture here. I guess it might seem like I'm not because I've only told you about the parts of my life that are within the scope of this site, plus necessary context. The big thing in my life right now is not this relationship, it is my health. If I have to break up with him until ...

I guess I've got a lot of thinking to do.

I just really want this thing to work, because I am happy. I don't want to make avoidable mistakes.

I'll respond to your comments and concerns in order. First of all, there is no postage system in his country, so that isn't an option. Secondly, I don't see how him sharing the computer with his sister is asking a relative for money. He and his sister share all the expenses of everything, food, elec...

Okay, let's start whether or not you two are both in a place where you feel like you can be in a relationship. In terms of your own illness, how are you feeling? And have you had the chance to talk to him (even with the language barrier, it sounds like you two can communicate) about what he's feeli...

FYI I'm not looking for someone to replace a counsellor here, I have an appointment with a counsellor on Wednesday. The mental health information is critical context in my opinion. I'm looking for relationship advice from my peers and the experts here at Scarleteen. My boyfriend and I are receiving...

I just got my period! I have never felt relief like this before.

Thank you again for the support, it really made this whole experience easier to deal with.

Thank you Heather this really does help to know.

Sorry for the double post. I also wanted to add: part of why this is so scary for me is because abortion is illegal in the country I am in. So I would have to leave the country at high expense to go have an abortion. I go home in two months though, so would a later term abortion be legal in Canada? ...

Hi Sam and thanks for the reply. I'm really relieved that I wasn't violating the policy and I promise not to do the things you said would violate it. As much as I would love to use Scarleteen as a replacement for a pregnancy test just so I could know NOW, it is impossible for you to know, you're not...

I have had a pregnancy risk and now my period is late. I took EC but waited a long time (36 hours). And the waiting two weeks for a test to be accurate is killing me. I cried so much today. I have support from friends. But what I am hoping you can help me with is: do you have any advice on how to no...

Well I didnt exactly get an explanation about why he said something so big when this is still barely even a relationship yet, but I did get him to say he won't say it yet, which is something. And yeah, I get how it's totally xenophobic and uncool to assume he's seeking citizenship. I think this is t...

Things with this guy have gotten, for lack of a better word, loco. He has told me he loves me. It is not possible for him to even love me at this point, we have only been seeing each other for a week and have known each other a month. Yet for some crazy reason, perhaps a reflex, I told him I love hi...

Yes I'm having a good time with this, a great one to be exact. I guess nothing is ever easy, I just need to accept that this relationship, if I choose to continue pursuing it (which I do want to), will have some unique challenges.

Thank you for all the advice!

I guess the biggest issue is that I have so much that I want to say to him and find out about him and I just don't know how to do all that without putting it into a translator, which is really tedious and doesn't always translate right.

I'm glad to hear you don't think this is ill-advised though.

Hi everyone, long time no see. So I'm on exchange in a Spanish speaking country and I speak only a teensy weensy bit of Spanish. I've quite recently started sort of dating someone here. I'm quite into him and he seems to be quite into me. The big problem is that he doesn't speak English and that I h...

Yeah, suggesting an actual activity sounds like a good idea. I'm not sure what kind of activity to suggest though. Maybe going on a walk and/or going out to dinner. Certainly not a movie though, that's just sitting next to each other not interacting, which is what we did today that I disliked so much.

Thanks for the reply Sam :) . In terms of this specific guy, I don't really know what I want to do. I'm going to hang out with him again whenever he has free time that lines up with my free time, and see how that goes. I think I might give it the month, but that's really going to depend on how the n...

I am disappointed. And sad. Hanging out with him was a total flop. He had homework, so all he wanted to do was that and I basically sat there doing nothing until I got my own homework. I was so excited, it was all I was looking forward to and then it just was no fun. I totally got way too invested i...

I think that I am able to do that. And the only way I'll figure it out is if I try.

So can I maybe check back in here once I see him again to get a second opinion on how I'm doing in terms of whether or not it is a healthy interaction?

So, it looks like I have some big thinking to do about whether or not to walk away from this, I really don't want to, but sometimes we have to do things we don't want to. I think, though, that I will wait, perhaps that month to also see how this plays out. After all, I can always walk away from this...

Also, I will absolutely give that book a look and read a preview of it on my ereader to see if I want to purchase it.

I can totally do the one month thing, that sounds like a really smart idea. I can see how I might not be seeing my best self and how that means I won't put my best self forward, so how do I correct that? How do I see my best self and put that self forward? Because I want to attract awesome people, b...

I'm already getting out and doing stuff. I resolved to start taking myself on dates a while ago, and it's been one of the best things I've ever done.

I hear what you're saying and I really appreciate it. Don't worry, you're giving me plenty of space here. I'm already getting counselling, and I'm part of a support group, so maybe I'll bring this up in one of those places. So are you suggesting I not pursue things with this guy? Because that is not...