Hey oteboog, it's good to hear that you've talked several times about boundaries and comfort zones. I just feel bad sometimes thinking other women might have sex with him while I can't. Considering that this seems to be a condition of this relationship, is that something you are willing to accept? I...

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Hey terezichen, Glad to hear that the stressor of waiting for those test results is out of the way. Since you say you would be comfortable making appointments with your therapist if you had their number, have you considered getting their number? For instance, if you know their name, the name of the ...

Hi Cloudnine, I have answered your post here: http://www.scarleteen.com/bb/viewtopic.php?f=21&p=38240#p38240 which answers your questions about the effectiveness of the combined pill. In the future, and as per our policy, please make only one thread about each topic, as it easier for us to keep ...

Hi Cloudnine, Effectiveness rates for any method of birth control are based on one year of usage, not on any specific incident of sex. For the combined pill, this does include times when a partner ejaculates inside of you. These rates are based on using one method alone, and do not take into account...

Hey terezichan, you mention that you are often nervous and anxious. Are you currently getting any help for your anxiety? If so, what are some of the techniques you have learned that you find helpful to deal with other anxiety-inducing situations? Since right now, all you can do is wait, you may find...

Hey Spiderman,

As long as the condom didn't change position during that one thrust then that is unlikely to make a difference, so the information you got from everyone else is still the best answer to your question.

Glad to hear you're getting started on doing things that need doing, In terms of the nursing home, the only thing I would suggest adding to what you're going to say is the word "volunteer", since it is one of those key words that can often get people really excited. If, of course, you're l...

Hey TheNiteHawk, Visiting nursing homes is a wonderful idea, from personal experience, I found it incredibly rewarding and I found it helpful when I was feeling isolated. If you'd like like some help figuring a strategy out for approaching retirement/nursing homes, let me know. When you say that a l...

Hey ThatGuy, welcome to the boards! If I'm hearing you correctly, you're having some feelings of guilt around sex and masturbation. One of our articles, Undoing Sexual Shame , addresses this topic. How about to start you take a look at that article? I or someone else here would be happy to discuss i...

Great topic Sam! One of my all time favourite books is The Long Way to a Small Angry Planet by Becky Chambers. It's not super heavy on the queer aspects of the book, but it does have (SPOILERS) two female characters who enter into a relationship, and I particularly enjoy that there's no huge deal ma...

Hey :). I'm going to keep this short and sweet. I just wanted to drop in to let you know that I did get to speak with him, and although our conversation didn't ultimately lead in the direction of a relationship right now or maybe ever, it was better. It was a very good conversation, that really made...

Hey everyone, I didn't want to drop this into my thread in case it got lost, so I hope that this is the right place for this. I have always wanted to volunteer with Scarleteen, and now I am finally in a position to do that in terms of time and ability to commit. I'd love to discuss how my experience...

Great sex -- oh, who am I kidding, even just good sex, or having a good time in a sexual encounter -- can really spin your head. It's not just you, I absolutely promise. :) Thank you, because I was really thinking that it was something wrong with me. So to hear that it isn't just me really helps. I...

Thanks Heather, those are all really good points, especially about being vulnerable and living in the same common spaces. I will take your suggestion. I guess I struggle not to have a lead foot when thinking ahead on these things, if that makes any sense at all. I mean that I jump ahead too far and ...

Oh, he did actually text me back. We must have sent our messages around the same time. I am going to stay there in a few days for what I have to do in town, and when I see him, try and have that conversation. Sorry if I didn't make that clear. Until I see him I'm only going to send one text back to ...

Hi Heather. Happy New Year back at you, hope you've been well. Oh boy, what do I actually want out of this situation? That's a really good question. I want to talk about the sex and get a sense of what it meant to him, tell him what it means to me (to me it means that we might be in the early stages...

Hey Sam W, Thanks for your reply. I did hear back from him and I will be staying there soon when I have to go into town. So I will try and have a conversation with him. Do you have any tips about what I should say? I'm thinking something along the lines of: so, we had sex and since we are going to b...

Hello everyone, it's lovely to be back. So I'm in a good-news/bad-news/what-to-do-because this-is-complicated-news sort of situation. Recently I've started hanging out with someone whom I am really into. I've known him less than two weeks, and we met through a mutual hobby. We've spent a good amount...

Thank you both. Coming back to the boards is like coming home. I get to see people who matter and say hello, even have a chat. And those people love me, because we have known each other for a while, and have mutual respect and caring. You, Scarleteen, are part of my chosen family, and my community. ...

Hey Mo! It's wonderful to see you! Since Tuesday, I have made great strides in my mental health that have had a trickle down effect on the rest of my life. I am finally on a therapeutic dose of my medication, I have seen my pdoc who is cautiously optimistic about my health, and I have been able to b...

Hello wonderful people. I'm back and this time, like most other times, I need some advice. A little context first: right now I'm facing an episode of my mental health condition. I have returned home by necessity to the open arms of my parents. Unfortunately, we live in a small and closed minded town...

It's awesome that your aunt and uncle are being so supportive! You mention you sent them some information. Do you feel like that's something you've be able to do with your parents when you're ready to come out to them? In other words, do you think you'd be okay setting a boundary where you're happy...

Thanks for the reply Mo. Yeah I might be the first trans person, binary or otherwise, that my parents ever encounter outside of the media. Most certainly the first genderqueer person my parents ever meet (I'd be shocked if they were even aware of identities like that) will be me. So there will be so...

Update: I've got a name and I've started using it!