right now im doing lots of the things listed in the "frenemies" column...i started feeling really guilty when i was reading them...think im ready to fix that.
Thank you so much

hahaha i opened that self care page and it was awesome. i think i know how to do that stuff, when i was younger i had to work really hard on improving self image and i know i love myself and am capable of taking care of myself, but it feels like its been a while since ive remembered to do it, especi...

Thats a good point and i need to start doing that. Hurting like this is really crappy, Im not sure if i ever have felt something this bad before. Im not sure what I need but I think time with friends and time away from this madness might be a good start. Thank you very much for your help, i have a h...

basically i know i need to accept that it is what it is and i cant help him anymore, but i took out commitment as friends and as partners very seriously, ive never just walked away from a friend, even though he is doing that to me.

it still sounds pretty desperate but even if he doesnt want to be friends, i was still his best friend for a long time, and im having a hard time just walking away from that. because i love the real him, or what was the real him (if change can cement that fast) and still worry and want to help, whic...

That sounds like a good plan. Alot of this change happened rapidly in him, the whole breakup and everything came as a shock. He had a big breakdown before we broke up and he self harmed and carved my initials into his arm and broke down in front of me and it was scary. But all i wanted to do was be ...

I think the space thing won't be an issue because when I was freaking out and texting him alot because i needed him, he was the one to ask for space. for him i think he just wanted me to stop texting cause he found it annoying and was thinking about himself and not that i needed him or was hurting. ...

I don't know how to ask about figuring out who to talk to, since it involves knowing people in my life, but if you have ideas id appreciate that. also if you have advice about setting boundaries that would be very helpful. he keeps doing alot of fun things with my friends and ive felt really left ou...

also if i need to talk about this with other friends who i havent already talked to, there is alot of explaining to do. with emotions and relationships i tend to be very private and not share much, even when the relationship was wonderful i didnt talk about it alot, so id have to start from the begi...

i want to do that, and i know its a good idea. but most of the friends that i feel comfortable talking to about this situation are very good friends with both of us. they are supportive of me and great friends but also are there for him and supportive of him. we also see each other all the time beca...

Im not sure where i can go with this. talking to him is like a brick wall, and i know i cant make him pay up but i really really want to (or sometimes, when i get really worked up, i would love to give him a big punch in the face honestly). i feel like i deserve something, and he doesnt agree, i thi...

is it selfish of me to call it assault or abuse or rape then? i guess im the only person who can decide, but i tried to tell him how i feel and it got him mad and he said that i pushed it too, which i maybe did way back when i was feeling desparate and asking to be friends with benefits, but still e...

and if its about for my own want to define it that way, is that unfair or untrue, or mean it wasnt rape or whatever im thinking? does any of this make sense?

what does that make this situation then? is sex plus coercion mean rape? because thats how i have been thinking about it. at first i didnt want to think about it that way, but now i feel almost inclined to, and i dont know if its because i feel wronged and upset and want to have a scary title attach...

I believe that if i had asked to stop then he would have stopped. but what does it mean that looking back on it i feel like i was persuaded into it? earlier that day i had told him it was a bad idea. i shouldve stuck to my guns and went with it, but i faltered. i feel like it wasnt my fault though, ...

sorry that it is super long im just super overwhelmed and have been having a really hard time and needed to get some stuff out and clear stuff up, ive never posted here before so idk if this is like a normal okay thing

hi...so i just had a breakup recently and things have been pretty messed up since then. My boyfriend, and best friend, of almost two years broke up with me and things havent been alright with me. At first i was desperate and wanted to do anything i could to maintain a connection. i even told him i c...