I've tried talking to paid therapist, unpaid therapist, about 4 friends, chatgpt and posting on here lol

I've been caught up on this guy for 2 years *sigh* and the worst thing is he was honest with his intentions from very early on, 2 weeks into talking. Sometimes I wish I would have pulled away in the beginning, but for some reason when he disrespected me the first time and brushed aside my feelings, ...

I am trying to get to know other people but I can't begin to tell you how difficult it is with the quality of men out here. My friends all complain about the same thing *sigh*

I don't intentionally think of him, but as he was my only experience, he automatically comes to mind. I mean it's funny because before I met him, I used to be able to have fantasies which get me wet, but couldn't cum. But now I can cum, but haven't done so in while because x rated thoughts remind me...

Thank you Heather. I am telling myself I deserve better than what he was wiling to offer me and it helps during the day.
But my concern is regarding my thoughts going to him when I'm wanting to think sexual

Yes it was mainly physical, but he comes to mind if I start to think about s3x, so then I feel sad and no longer in that mood.
Will this just take time to go away?

Well I think what helps is him messaging as he does it because he's having x- rated thoughts about me, so in a way makes me think he's not being the most loyal of guys. But my concerns are whether I'd be able to orgasm as much as I used to before finding out he's dating someone. I mean even then it ...

The big issue here is I am still struggling to accept that he has moved on. Even though he's been with her for 4.5 months, it's hard for me to move on because I am hoping he will come back. Even though he has said we do not have personalities which are compatible. Also Even though he's seeing her, h...

Thank you. It's just when I think of intimacy, I think of him which then makes me sad. I don't know how to separate the 2 as he's my only real experience.
What do you mean by tune into your body' non sexual responses?

I don't get aroused as much as I used to before I found out he's dating someone. Since then all I really do is cry in my room.

Thank you.
Can you please help with point 3?

1. The guy I want is now being physical with someone else and I hate it. 2. I compare her to me. When I was with him, he didn't really go down on me but I fear he's going down on her. 3. I try to make myself cum but can't keep my mind on the sensation. Its like I'm trying to force myself to focus. 4...

Can you please also give any advice on my 2nd question ?

2. I don't feel a sensation in touching my clit when the whole area is incredibly wet, and I don't want to finger myself.

I'm really hoping it'll be different when I'm with a partner otherwise it'd be weird.

Thank you for the link and advice. I will definitely try without so many layers next time.

I didn't orgasm so I don't think it's that. I was talking it through with a friend, and am wondering maybe I was overly hot? Not in a sexual way, but in a covered under too many layers way, so maybe my hand rubbing against my skin caused sweat?

Hi Heather, Thank you for your response. But wouldn't I then be wet in my vagina too? I mean I didn't touch the inside but just the entrance to get some wetness, rubbed in on my clit in circles or whatever I did, and then my lips got wet but the vagina dried up? How can it be the vulva is wet but no...

It definitely wasn't urine. So this happened yesterday evening, but in the morning when it happened I could feel my clit going in and my outer lips closing if that makes sense?

Hello, Something new happened when I touched myself and now I'm worried. I was rubbing my vulva yesterday which became incredibly wet, but noticed the wetness wasn't from my vagina as that was fairly dry. Also the consistency was very different. This wetness felt more like sweat? I'm worried because...

Hi Sam, I think the best option would be to take a break as this will help me mentally. I posted this in another post with the same title which I'm assuming was deleted as it was repetitive, but lately (for example the past week or so) I've been touching myself when not turned on or mentally simulat...

Hi, I have been able to orgasm before, but it has happened so rarely. So for example, since December 2022 I have tried touching myself with the showerhead or my fingers. I have gone through periods of around 6 or so weeks where I haven't tried, or on other occasions have been incredibly stressed so ...

Thinking about this I remember I had the same issue early in the year, whereby I was stressing over it all and trying to force an orgasm. I decided to give it a mental break (which I want to do again) and only try when I'm in a sexual mood. After my break, I was able to orgasm (by taking my time and...

Hi, Thank you for the advice. 1. I have felt it become harder. I guess my expectations were higher so this isn't a concern I have anymore. 2. I think my life circumstances were different. Also, I feel like back then I wasn't putting pressure on myself so was going with what my body wanted. 3. That i...

"Firstly, with something often as personal and intimate as sex or masturbation it is difficult to get enough data to even know what is more usual and what isn’t among people..." This makes so much sense! It gives a feeing that because there are so many people out in the world, there must b...

So for example, in this context questions that I've obsessed over: - my clit doesn't feel like it enlarges when turned on. Is there something wrong with me? - Reasons why something might not be working whilst it did last time - I bet everyone else knows what they're doing and always come when they t...

Hi,

I've read that article before! I do refer to the 4 stages in my mind. The issue is I am an overthinker. Especially when it comes to intimacy, pleasure and men. Otherwise I'd love to follow your idea..

help lol