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- Fri Jun 21, 2024 5:34 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Challenges with exploring my sexuality
- Replies: 7
- Views: 177
Re: Challenges with exploring my sexuality
Sure, what is your specific question regarding birth control? Every option does come with pros and cons. And of course, I think what Sam meant by "physically intimate" is if the person asks you if you're okay with a hug, holding hands, kissing, cuddling, etc. Those things require consent t...
- Fri Jun 21, 2024 4:23 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Challenges with exploring my sexuality
- Replies: 7
- Views: 177
Re: Challenges with exploring my sexuality
Hi Rose 99, I can understand your concerns, and I just would like to reiterate what Sam said earlier: Until you're in different headspace in terms of your trust of a partner and your comfort with risk, being sexual with another person just isn't going to be a sound choice in terms of being kind to y...
- Wed Jun 19, 2024 5:52 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Can I be pregnant?
- Replies: 1
- Views: 81
Re: Can I be pregnant?
Hi Claire2swag,
Plan B can sometimes cause some spotting, or irregular bleeding. Even without the plan B, there is no possible way you could be pregnant because sperm cannot pass through even one layer of clothing. No worries there!
Plan B can sometimes cause some spotting, or irregular bleeding. Even without the plan B, there is no possible way you could be pregnant because sperm cannot pass through even one layer of clothing. No worries there!
- Wed Jun 19, 2024 3:14 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Confusion about PIV...
- Replies: 15
- Views: 18215
Re: Confusion about PIV...
Hi, MistahCFS! I've been catching up on this thread and I want to applaud you for asking so many great questions! It's great to see folks challenging the dominant culture around sex and relationships. To answer your question, yes, I think "pleasure gap" would be a much better name for this...
- Sat Mar 30, 2024 6:40 am
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: im lesbian but i have thoughts
- Replies: 1
- Views: 2560
Re: im lesbian but i have thoughts
Hi Aomi, Welcome to the boards! I can definitely understand why these questions may feel overwhelming to you! I'm so sorry you experienced sexual assault at such a young age. If that's a reason why the thought of being with men makes you uncomfortable, that is totally okay. If not, it's still absolu...
- Wed Mar 27, 2024 6:51 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Which fetish is fine?
- Replies: 3
- Views: 3681
Re: Which fetish is fine?
Here's a post on the topic of kinks, and it mentions fetish as well: Working The Kinks Out. You can also use the search bar to find discussions about fetishes in the boards.
- Wed Mar 27, 2024 6:42 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Weird Relationship Advice: I have no idea what just happened
- Replies: 2
- Views: 5174
Re: Weird Relationship Advice: I have no idea what just happened
Hi Raine, Welcome to the boards! Wow, I'm sorry you had such a confusing experience! It never feels good to be ghosted. Firstly, you did absolutely nothing wrong. Sounds like she wasn't ready to communicate her feelings maturely, so she took the easy way out, which was to disappear. That's disappoin...
- Tue Mar 26, 2024 2:09 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Which fetish is fine?
- Replies: 3
- Views: 3681
Re: Which fetish is fine?
Hi Mika.M, There are no fetishes that are inherently wrong or bad. People disapprove of things they don't understand or personally find distasteful, and a lot of people hold the belief that someone's fetish or fantasies determine their character or their actions, which is untrue. Fetishes are a wond...
- Wed Feb 21, 2024 6:38 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Fantasy issues
- Replies: 33
- Views: 4459
Re: Fantasy issues
Okay, I understand! Firstly, I want to make sure that you know that it's very common for people to have extreme fantasies that they would never want to act out in real life, and even fantasies that go against their values. I absolutely understand where the shame is coming from, but know that your fa...
- Wed Feb 21, 2024 5:12 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Fantasy issues
- Replies: 33
- Views: 4459
Re: Fantasy issues
Hi iLilli,
Welcome to the boards!
Just to clarify: the content of your fantasies is distressing for you to think about objectively, or does shame for enjoying these fantasies play a role in your distress?
Welcome to the boards!
Just to clarify: the content of your fantasies is distressing for you to think about objectively, or does shame for enjoying these fantasies play a role in your distress?
- Fri Feb 16, 2024 7:54 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Forgive my rapist?
- Replies: 1
- Views: 612
Re: Forgive my rapist?
Hi Ocelot741, Welcome to the boards. Firstly, I am so sorry that he did that to you. I'm glad you've been seeking therapy to process it, and I hope you continue on that path. I want to reaffirm this for you, based on what you've written: you did not consent and he knew that. If you don't remember sa...
- Sun Feb 11, 2024 10:47 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: how to be more open minded
- Replies: 3
- Views: 1604
Re: how to be more open minded
Hi Naurmi008, I think it's great that you're in a place where you want to start healing that internalized shame. Did the article Willa shared offer anything beneficial for you? Also, I've found that making connections with other queer people who can relate can be a huge relief. Do you have any frien...
- Fri Feb 02, 2024 2:16 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: idk if i’m ace or if it’s my medicine
- Replies: 6
- Views: 1833
Re: idk if i’m ace or if it’s my medicine
Hi itzxnikki,
There's definitely no pressure to go any farther or step outside of your comfort zone. If it happens that one day you're comfortable exploring more or experience sexual desire, then it happens! What's important is that you feel safe and fulfilled with your partner.
There's definitely no pressure to go any farther or step outside of your comfort zone. If it happens that one day you're comfortable exploring more or experience sexual desire, then it happens! What's important is that you feel safe and fulfilled with your partner.
- Sun Jan 14, 2024 7:59 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Self Harm Fetish
- Replies: 9
- Views: 5068
Re: Self Harm Fetish
Hi Suomi,
I'd love to help. Could you describe this a bit more? Is this a fetish that remains in the realm of fantasy (imagination) for you, or are you concerned about physically hurting yourself?
I'd love to help. Could you describe this a bit more? Is this a fetish that remains in the realm of fantasy (imagination) for you, or are you concerned about physically hurting yourself?
- Sun Jan 14, 2024 7:43 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Pee vs squirt?
- Replies: 1
- Views: 1588
Re: Pee vs squirt?
Hi looking4advice, Welcome to the boards! What you are describing sounds like ejaculation, or "squirting," which is not the same as urinating. While it appears that this kind of ejaculation is a function of the paraurethral glands (like the Skene's glands) which comes through the urethra -...
- Sat Jan 13, 2024 7:56 am
- Forum: Sexual Health
- Topic: Depressed on birth control
- Replies: 17
- Views: 14292
Re: Depressed on birth control
Hi Jay27, I'm so sorry that you're having that experience. I can relate, my birth control pills affected my mood in a big way. It sucks! You are still on the same progestin-only pill as before, correct? There are plenty of other forms of birth control you could try that reduce PMS symptoms like cram...
- Sat Jan 13, 2024 7:36 am
- Forum: Bodies
- Topic: Eating Spicy Food
- Replies: 1
- Views: 3686
Re: Eating Spicy Food
Hi bluespreadsheet, Just did some quick research on this - Keeping the area clean and dry will help, with some mild soap and warm water. Creams with calamine will soothe the itching and burning. Eating fiber before or after your spicy meal can help too, and drinking plenty of water. Also, milk! Dair...
- Tue Dec 26, 2023 10:31 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Withdrawal Bleeding or Period?
- Replies: 4
- Views: 7563
Re: Withdrawal Bleeding or Period?
Hi cyprns,
Welcome to the boards!
What you've described do sound like a side effect of the yuzpe method, but given the timing, there is also a chance that it could be a period. Have you noticed any symptoms that usually come with your period (like cramps, irritability, breast tenderness, etc)?
Welcome to the boards!
What you've described do sound like a side effect of the yuzpe method, but given the timing, there is also a chance that it could be a period. Have you noticed any symptoms that usually come with your period (like cramps, irritability, breast tenderness, etc)?
- Tue Dec 26, 2023 8:34 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Condom fell off when he pulled out and I had cum on inner leg. Help!
- Replies: 6
- Views: 1845
Re: Condom fell off when he pulled out and I had cum on inner leg. Help!
Hi Runmelon51, Glad you were able to get on BC! Birth control pills are effective immediately only if you start them during the first few days of your period, but the emergency contraceptive should have been effective since you took it right away. Like Sam said, you lowered your risk as much as you ...
- Wed Dec 20, 2023 10:50 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Delaying masturbation
- Replies: 17
- Views: 17199
Re: Delaying masturbation
But there are times when you feel out of control, like you are acting against your own wishes?
- Wed Dec 20, 2023 10:33 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Delaying masturbation
- Replies: 17
- Views: 17199
Re: Delaying masturbation
To be sure I’m understanding how this is for you, what happens when you want to masturbate, but choose not to? Can you make that choice and just not do it, even if it feels uncomfortable? Or do you literally feel like your hands do things even when you don’t want them to?
- Wed Dec 20, 2023 9:20 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Delaying masturbation
- Replies: 17
- Views: 17199
Re: Delaying masturbation
Okay, got it. If you are struggling with compulsive sexual behavior, it would be in your best interest to seek treatment from a mental healthcare professional. Is that a service you have access to?
- Wed Dec 20, 2023 8:39 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Delaying masturbation
- Replies: 17
- Views: 17199
Re: Delaying masturbation
Hi Mika.M,
If I may ask, do you feel that masturbation is interfering with your everyday life, or is a compulsive behavior that is causing you distress? Otherwise, there is no need to control or suppress your sexual desires.
If I may ask, do you feel that masturbation is interfering with your everyday life, or is a compulsive behavior that is causing you distress? Otherwise, there is no need to control or suppress your sexual desires.
- Wed Dec 20, 2023 8:28 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Anxiety with Penetration
- Replies: 8
- Views: 17317
Re: Anxiety with Penetration
Hi SolarExlipse1, Welcome to the boards! It's possible that overthinking about your vagina or putting pressure on yourself is making it difficult for you to relax during masturbation. Sometimes extended foreplay can help relax the vaginal muscles before inserting fingers, or even having a clitoral o...
- Wed Dec 20, 2023 7:39 am
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: Condom base rolled up a bit during sex and I’m stressing.
- Replies: 1
- Views: 6272
Re: Condom base rolled up a bit during sex and I’m stressing.
Hi Runmelon51, Welcome to the boards! Based on what you're describing, the chance that you could be pregnant is very low. Condom slippages are only a problem if they slip completely off, partly off or most of the way down the penis, but it is safest for him to withdraw before ejaculation. Because yo...