This guy fr, oh damn, I am trying to get into hobbies to keep my mind from wandering off and thinking about him. Also a friend of mine told me to not run away from these feelings, and just cry if i want to, but she also said that whenever i miss him or want to text him, I should sit and make a list ...

Hey again, I know we've been at this for long and y'all are probably wondering whats up with me, but I really need to get this off my chest because I don't want to send him long ass paragraphs. So this guy talked to me telling me that the past few days we haven't been together he's been very free. L...

I think I agree on the attachment part because I've been constantly begging and begging to be treated right and giving and giving and I don't know how, I was willing to give even more... I really really wished he'd change but clearly he cannot, yeah I think I'm ready to go through all this, because ...

Hey, Thank you for making me feel like I am not alone... I haven't been able to reach out to anybody to say I'm sad or anything because I just can't.. I had flipped out there for a moment and I've been asking myself, when do these tears come to an end because damn, and today I've really fought texti...

Thank you, I woke up at 4am started crying again... Yk what hurts is that as much as i knew this relationship wasn't for me was that I still held on to thefact that maybe he'd change and be the one for me. Feelings don't fade as fast and I really love this guy, why did he have to hurt me, I gave my ...

So uuum hey again, remember how I said I'll break up with him, apparently i was too attached and couldn't let go so decided to do some inner work and detachment and uum he broke up with me some few minutes ago and now I can't stop crying, like damn he didn't even think twice, I'm kind of attached to...

Heavy on the devastating consequences. Thank you so much, I feel so much better, and thank you to all those who were in this chat for the advice

When you said you doubt he'll be crummy to me because you don't think he's invested, daamnThat is enough for mee.
Thank you so much Heather for your assistance

Thank heavens because I really thought I am going crazy with all the calling, but it does make sense, Heather, also uum how'd you know😂he sells marijuana that's why people come to his place. So at first this guy was the dream, I am a hopeless romantic, he was this sweet guy, respectful, showed me a ...

How about some advice or articles about anxious attachment styles. I think I'm getting out of hand, i find myself wanting to call him, text him, visiting him, every time. He once told me he'd come in a few minutes, took like 1hour, I got a mini anxiety attack thinking about whether he's with other g...

Hey there,
No, I don't know what to do next, I'm so confused because I really like this guy, to worsen the situation, I'm anxiously attached, I really want to call him, text him, go to him, even after he told me that, I'm going through it.

Hi Sofi, So, I did it, I had the conversation with him, I told him he should be upfront with me instead of taking me in circles telling me about gradual cut offs, and other things. I also addressed the how he's making girls or rather his female friends and male friends comfortable at his place, yet ...

Oh Heather and Latha, I may have to screenshot this to read over and over again. And yes Heather it does seem confusing about how he communicated with her, yet she doesn't know who she is... I really swallowed my pride there otherwise the girl would have gone home crying. I feel like there's a lot o...

Nope, he's not the same guy I've talked about in the past... This girl is friends with him and his roommate as well, he claimed she had asked them whether she could stay there for a couple of hours because her roommate was having a boy over for a few hours, so she spent the whole afternoon there. Uu...

So a while back i told y'all this is my first healthy relationship but i feel like I'm ruining it. Well, thing is, Yes, I still think I'm ruining it. A while back I went to visit my guy. He lives like 5minutes away from my place. He has a roommate, i found this girl at their place... The girl looked...

Sorry for the long post scarleteen. So about 2weeks ago I said to myself I'm in a healthy relationship, the first relationship I've spoken up about what's bothering me, even sensitive matters and not be yelled at or given the silence treatment, it's just amazing. The problem is, i think I'm ruining ...

Hello, thanks for your response. I may sound a little bit stupid asking this but while i take my time away from him do i need to have a conversation with him telling him that, or should I just distance myself and just quit replying to his texts and all that?

Honestly, he's the first person I've stayed with for a long time in a relationship, I guess I'm being friends with him because I'm afraid of being alone. I had built my entire personality based on him, and I am kind of scared to be alone and it's so hard admitting this to myself.

Hey, I broke up with my bf because he was narcissistic. When in the relationship I was basically tied to him, basically i did everything to make him happy, took fault for everything, chose not to say some things which would make him angry. After the breakup he reached out and we decided to be friend...

Yeaahhhh I get it now.
Thankyou

Layers?? I don't think so... This is something that I actually struggle with... I know the conversations about who's the best doesn't end well, but I have this urge or need to feel like the best.... To feel like I'm the only one, I dunno why, and it really messes my mind and I can just start unneces...

Hey, uuum am I too emotional and problematic, see, I tend to create scenarios out of simple conversations that just brings about issues in my relationship. So a few minutes ago I was having this conversation with my boyfriend about how we have been the best for each other so far and he was like, &qu...

Oh wow.... I really love the guy so this is going to be hard for me... I will have a conversation with him, if he doesn't listen then I'll end things... Thank you

Yeah... whenever we try to have vaginal sex, I am not usually nervous about the pain mostly it's whether I'll disappoint him or not... Today, we could've actually done it if only he was patient, because I wanted to just take things slow you know.... now he's disappointed he hasn't talked to me for h...

Also I was trying to tell him to wait so that I can get a little bit comfortable because he had said I had put him in an uncomfortable position and he just didn't and I couldn't keep still or stay in a proper position coz i was feeling the pain then he just unerected and then made me feel bad about ...