I just discovered this Cyndi Lauper song about a childhood friend who died from an illegal abortion. It's a sad song, but it's an important reminder of what can happen when we don't have access to the healthcare we need.

Hi Cas, I would not recommend ordering from EdenFantasys. They have a history of mistreating their affiliates, sending indiscreet mail to customers, and I've even heard rumors about them selling used sex toys. They have an F on their Better Business Bureau page. [Edit: we can't really recommend spec...

Hi Lyle, I wanted to add that this is a feeling I have seen many bisexual sapphic people have. I think it is important to remember that who we feel attracted to isn't a choice, that no attraction or orientation is better or worse than the others, and that we don't have to date or have sex with every...

Hi Jay27, This is actually very common in the lesbian community and history. Lesbians who only enjoy giving sexually are sometimes called stone, or stone butches. Here is an Autostraddle article with some information about the stone identity and its history. And if you're into reading novels, Stone ...

There's also S.E.X.: The All-You-Need-To-Know Sexuality Guide to Get You Through Your Teens and Twenties, written by our very own founder Heather Corinna! Another book specifically about masturbation is Betty Dodson's Sex for One: The Joy of Selfloving.

Hi catgirl, Is it possible for you to distract yourself from those feelings when they're inconvenient? Focusing on something like a project, a TV show, or exercise might help to take your mind off of the sexual frustration. It also might help to practice mindfulness; thinking about how this is just ...

Hi Luna, Our article Becoming Out: A Totally Non-Exhaustive, Step by Step Guide to Coming Out can help you develop a plan to come out to your parents. Specifically, the questions in the 4th paragraph: What do you want to happen in this conversation? What are you afraid will happen? Are those desires...

Hi mika.m, Well, I can tell you that group sex is absolutely normal and natural. Not only is it practiced by several other species of animals, but references to group sex have been found in ancient Roman and Egyptian literature and art. So we know that humans are not the only species who has group s...

Hi snakesarecool,

Are you using lube when you masturbate? And have you tried things besides fingering yourself, such as rubbing the clitoris or other parts of your body?

Hi Luna, Ultimately, the only person who can tell what sexual orientation you are is yourself. I know that can be difficult to figure out. Our article The Rainbow Connection: Orientation for Everyone has a lot of good information about orientation and identity, but the section titled "How and W...

Hi Shoelaces, In addition to what Willa said, I'd like to add that you can wear a pantiliner to absorb the discharge. Some people do this every day because it feels more comfortable for them. You also want to wear breathable cotton underwear and change it if it gets soaked. Wearing wet underwear (or...

Hi mika.m, This article might be helpful for you: I'm an introvert, but I want to start dating. Speaking as someone who is also an introvert, I also find it easier to meet and talk to people online than in person. I met a lot of my local friends online and then we started hanging out in person. Ther...

Yes, you are not at risk for HIV from this. The virus can't be transmitted through small cuts on your fingers or nails, and it definitely can't be transmitted through unbroken skin.

Hi Ginger, I agree with Latha that using the vibrator through your underwear or a blanket or towel is a good way to prevent overstimulation. Some people also prefer to use vibrators on top of the clitoral hood--although not everyone has the anatomy to do this. Also, many people find that they are mo...

Hi Terence, First of all, I don't think that closing your door or blinds makes it obvious that you're masturbating. You could also be changing clothes, trying to prevent distractions while studying, or even something else for all your family knows. Having said that, would it be possible to masturbat...

Hi Laavaa, Welcome to the boards. You're in the right place--our site has a ton of information about sex and everything related to it! Is there anything specific you're curious or confused about? I can help point you in the right direction if you're getting overwhelmed trying to do the research by y...

Hi chuairos, First of all, I am so sorry to see that someone hurt you in that way. It sounds to me like you didn't understand what had happened to you or what you were asking your brother to do at the time. This doesn't seem like you were abusing your brother. It is very common for sexual assault vi...

Hi Julia, If you want to be sure that the condoms are protecting you from pregnancy and STIs, they need to be worn the entire time you have penis-in-vagina sex. Infections can still be transmitted without ejaculation happening, and although it is rare, pre-ejaculate can contain sperm cells. I recomm...

Hi elilieeli, Check out our D.I.Y. Sex Toys: Self-Love Edition article for ideas about sex toys you can find or make yourself. Also take a look at Lube 101: A Slick Little primer for more info on choosing and acquiring lube. Also, there are no age restrictions on buying lube or condoms. Many health ...

Hey Catgirl, The good news is that many sex stores have tester models, or the staff will be happy to open toys and let you feel the strength of the vibration on your hand and hear how loud the toy is. You could let your friend know that you want something strong and quiet, and they can be on the loo...

Hi booknerd, I'm also autistic so I thought I'd comment on this. There is a friendship and dating app for autistic people called Hiki . I haven't tried this app personally, but I've heard good things about it from the autistic community, and in my experience, I find that the most successful relation...

Hey chailover2, Communication with your partner is important! Check out our Be a Blabbermouth! The Whats, Whys and Hows of Talking About Sex With a Partner article for some tips on how to bring up your sexual needs with a partner. Also, appreciating intimacy, whether during sex or otherwise, is a go...

Hi Tristan, Have you considered whether you are on the asexual spectrum? It's very common for asexual people to feel physical arousal, but not sexual attraction. Here is a good article about asexuality: Am I Asexual? Even if you don't feel like this describes you, it may be helpful to read about oth...