Hi anonymous2354, Welcome to the Boards! Thank you so much for sharing how you are feeling. It can be extremely difficult to have someone in your life you are close to and admire, but can not help comparing yourself to. When I was your age I felt similarly about myself and my best friend, and I felt...

Hi Ryan111, Welcome to the Boards! Sperm are very delicate, so they can only survive outside the body for so long and could not survive the trip from the penis to the hand to the condom to the vagina. The only time there is a risk of pregnancy is if there is direct genital-to-genital contact or if e...

Hi Cool-person-22, Welcome to the Boards! What you are experiencing is unfortunately a relatively common aspect of growing up and becoming comfortable with one's sexuality. Due to things like sexist body standards, depictions in media, or just societal myths- many people are often left unfairly comp...

Hi Chailover2, I know we have discussed in the past that you were searching for professional help for your anxiety- how has that search been going? It seems like your anxiety is taking a significant toll on your life as well as your relationship. Also, did you want to expand on how you feel not bein...

Hi Mreoww, Let us know if you would like any help or advice in either finding a doctor or talking to a parent about receiving medical care for these symptoms. Also taking a look at the post that Sofi linked for you can give you a good idea of how to proceed safely with these forms of DIY toys that y...

Hi Chailover2! In general, in romantic relationships, it is very normal to develop crushes on other people. There are so many people in the world there is nothing wrong with acknowledging attraction to others, even if we have no plans to act on it and are secure in our current relationship. That bei...

Hi Thisisplore, Welcome to the Boards There is no risk of pregnancy in this scenario. Sperm cells are very fragile and can not survive the trip from the penis to the hand to the vagina. The only time there is a risk for pregnancy is when there is direct contact between genitals or direct contact of ...

Hi Girll18, Off the bat some things to keep in mind are making sure that both parties in your relationship are equally enthusiastic as well as have taken the time to think of what they are personally comfortable so that you can develop boundaries for the event. Things like touching, talking, looking...

Hi Mreoww, Thank you for the added context, that is helpful. Were you able to take a look at the resource I posted for you? Taking a look at that and telling me what you think could help understand more how to tackle this problem. There is some advice and other links toward the end of the article, e...

Hi Mreoww, Welcome to the boards When you say you are sexually frustrated and masturbating is not helping- does this mean you are not reaching orgasm or just that masturbating is not pleasurable? It can take some time to learn what works for your body and what is pleasurable for you. One thing I wou...

Hi Skybushh, That is good you feel happy and safe with your partner. Communication with your partner seems to continue to be a point of stress for you, based on your posts. Were you able to communicate what you were discussing in your last post about sexual attraction and fantasies? Having a partner...

Hi Usernamehere, Sexual incompatibility can be a very difficult hurtle in relationships of any kind, and I want to say that there is nothing wrong with wanting to make sure both parties are having pleasurable and positive experiences. To start I would say clear communication and advocating for one's...

Hi Lorelailuv, I'm sorry this has been a stressful process for you! Firstly Lovehoney is a large enough company that it is unlikely that they would be selling used toys back to customers, however you do not have to use any toy that will cause yourself worry or discomfort. I was wondering if you coul...

Hi Hillosash, welcome to the boards! Grinding while both partners are fully clothed can not cause pregnancy, whether there was ejaculation or not. For there to be a risk of pregnancy there needs to be direct genital to genital contact or ejeculate making direct contact with the vulva or vaginal open...

Hi Wavesaround! Welcome to the boards. It seems like you are experiences some levels of discomfort or anxiety surrounding your sexuality- would you say that seems accurate to you? Many aspects of sexuality, whether that is queerness or masturbation, have been deemed dirty or wrong by society so it i...

Hi Runmelon51, I'm sorry this has been so stressful for you. I was wondering if you could expand more on what you mean when you say that you don't trust people or that they "secretly wish bad for you." Have things happened to make you feel this way? It seems like there is a level of anxiet...

Hi Androidgf, I was not there, so only the two of you have the experience of the level of physical cues you were giving your partner. In general we owe it to ourselves as well as our partners to be as communicative as possible during experiences like these, but of course there are often situations w...

Hi Rosa, I'm sorry your boyfriend's family is not supportive, maybe he could explore online options for handling anxiety? If this is something he is open to we do have resources here at Scarleteen that may be helpful. In terms of pregnancy risk can I ask what forms of contraception you are using if ...

Hi Thisisacoolsite, Did you read the resource that Sam provided for you? There is no one way to masturbate that is more correct, it is about doing that feels comfortable and pleasurable for you personally. If you want to experiment with penetration, then steps to make that a more comfortable experie...

Hi Froggymayhem, I am not sure of the boundaries of your relationship but from your post it seems like you understand that looking through your partners personal belongings like their phone is a violation of trust and a generally not ok thing to do. As you said in your message crushes are natural an...

Hi Androidgf, I am so sorry that happened and that it has been so difficult for you. It sounds like you are trying very hard to advocate for yourself and communicate what you need, which I commend you on. With situations like this it is very important to remember that consent from both parties needs...

Shy1, Another possibility was that your vagina was not in a relaxed or aroused enough state to fully receive penetration, resulting in an insufficient production or presence of lubrication. Even if he was "gentle", without foreplay often times many individuals with vaginas find penetration...

Hi Coolrainbow111, Thank you so much for sharing. I wonder going forward what would be the most helpful for you as a next step. Would you like to discuss resources for calming these anxiety responses? Or more general resources that talk about pregnancy as an intrusive anxiety thought? With the fear ...

Hi Coolrainbow111, Happy New Year! I am very sorry that this has been causing you so much stress and anxiety. I think you did the right thing taking a step back with your boyfriend until you have a better understanding of how to curb these intrusive anxieties. To start can I ask what some of the big...

Hi Shy1, I'm sorry that your first experience was so painful and scary. That amount of blood coupled with your description of the clots definitely was not normal and may be indicative of some sort of internal injury. Do you still experience any pain or blood during penetration? Also have you ever fo...