Hi Mika.m, Noticing someone in a public place and noticing a physical feature you like it not against her privacy, as that is how she chose to present herself. Like Latha said it is about balancing this noticing and attraction with knowing it is not respectful to overly stare at just a physical aspe...

Hi Demigirl! Sorry I didn't send the sources right away! I just wanted to check in first and see if that would be something that your godfather would be open to, because you know him best and what his threshold is. Were you able to take a look at the source Andy sent? I do think that source would be...

Hi Transman, Touching on what Sam was discussing being comfortable and confident can definitely affect how we see ourselves and our openness to thinks such as crushes, attraction, or relationships. While no one needs to have these things figured out to seek out relationships, sometimes investing in ...

Hi Shoelaces99, Discharge can often change throughout your menstrual cycle, for example around ovulation the discharge can become more thin and clear while later in your cycle it is normal for the discharge to thicken or change in color to more white or yellow. One source I can give you to give some...

Hi Chelsealewis! Thank you for sharing all of that, and I can see why that would be confusing! I want to start by saying everyone at all weights and body sizes deserves to feel desired and respected by the people they chose to engage in sexuality activity with. It can be so difficult to work through...

Hi Ginger, There is no one way to define sexting, but usually it is understood as discussing or sharing things of a sexual nature in the efforts to arouse both partners. What you are talking about seems more like just a discussion between friends about mutual experiences of sexual nature, which defi...

Hi Demigirl09, I am very sorry that you are not feeling heard by your godfather. You deserve respect and affirmation from not just members of your family but also members of the queer community as well. Would you say that the conflict originates from your godfather's ignorance about different identi...

Hi Pompom, thank you for the added context! It is very normal to begin to notice different people in a "more than a friend way", but still not be necessarily thinking about sex. It sounds like you felt an attraction to some of these people, whether that was personality wise or physically. ...

Hi Shamed, I'm sorry you experienced this messaging when you were younger. While it can be very difficult to undo the stigma placed by society's prejudices, it is important to remember masturbation is a normal and healthy part of life. The first source I am going to give you to look over is https://...

Hi Laayiv, Even if you feel like your self-depreciation comes from a place of "honesty" we can get stuck in thought patterns like this that end up hurting us much more than they help us. It seems like this is also intertwined with your thoughts/feelings/attention to this character as well....

Hi Darbby, Yes, as Sam said there were no conditions for pregnancy to have been a risk (direct contact between ejaculate/pre-ejaculate and the vulva or vagina). I am going to link a source for you to look at that will go into a more in-depth explanation of the fragility of sperm cells, and why the s...

Hi Kpanganib, Is there a reason you believe she would not be truthful with you? Lying about STI status is extremely serious and a violation of trust and consent between partners. That being said HIV is possibly spread from contact between fluids such as vaginal fluids and a cut or open sore. I will ...

Hi Demigirl09, Is it accurate to say that watching this type of porn is the source of your dysphoria because it no longer feels like it represents your interests/sexuality/gender? I understand how it can be difficult to let go of a type of media that is reliable in terms of arousal, but if watching ...

Hi Darbby, Welcome to the Boards! In general, pre-ejaculate has a very low count of sperm. In addition, sperm are extremely fragile, and can not survive outside the body for long. The combination of the temperature of the water and the soap from the bubbles would render an environment that would kil...

Hi Xiaoge, That is true, it is healthy to have an understanding before engaging in sexual activity with another person that there is always some level of risk involved. Is there anything that would make you more comfortable with the idea? It is ultimately a personal decision but the best way to star...

Hi Hobogirl, If you are together and using a vibrator with or without other stimulation, then that is just as valid of an orgasm as an orgasm from oral or PIV intercourse. As Sam said to you it may be worth it to explore the things that do make you feel good rather than trying to force other things ...

Hi Riya.xo, Even when one is mentally in a state of arousal, it can sometimes take a build-up of physical stimulation to reach a state of physical arousal. You can start with these imagined scenarios or novels by stimulating other parts of the body first: chest, face, arms etc. Taking the time to se...

Hi itznikki, When you say "can't finish from this" are you referring to your boyfriend inserting a finger? Sometimes trying something new can be anxiety-inducing and taking the time to calm the body and the mind and let go of preconceived notions or expectations can help on the road to exp...

Hi iLilli, It totally makes sense to feel overwhelmed with trying something new you feel so unsure or uneducated about. Luckily we at Scarleteen are here to help you with any questions you may have. Is there anything in particular you feel anxious about having a "lack of knowledge" about? ...

Hi Mika.m,

The risk of using the same condom for oral as for insertion would be that there may be some slight damage either from the teeth or friction during oral. If you would like to be extra safe then it is perfectly fine to switch condoms when transitioning from oral sex to PIV intercourse.

Hi Lyle Lanley, Could you frame this issue to your mother that you would like to see if anything is wrong now so that you can know if tampons are a comfortable option by the time summer comes around? You can also say that you are feeling nervous something else is happening and would like the reassur...

Hi Tarobubbleteaaa, Lubricant is available at sex stores but also in stores such as Walgreens and CVS. Many sex toys will come with instructions on the type of lubricant that is most compatible but in general, it is best to avoid silicone-based lubes if your toy is made of silicone itself. As for us...

Hi iLilli, I'm sorry this has been such a difficult process for you. It can be frustrating when things such as guilt and shame influence our ability to experience pleasure. I want to make the space here if it is something that would be helpful to you, for you to expand on some of these early experie...

Hi Ayn 534, It seems like staying with your friend for the time being is the safest and most preferable option for you at the moment. Going forward I would like to ask what you feel would be the most helpful for you as the next steps with us. We are more than able to continue discussing and aiding i...

It is relatively normal when trying a new method of masturbation for it to feel more intense, especially if you are newly directly stimulating such a sensitive area such as the glans. A good rule of thumb for masturbating is to focus on what feels good and comfortable, and if things become uncomfort...