Hi there fernstalk, Firstly, I'm glad to hear that your relationship has been going well! Secondly, everything you're sharing makes a lot of sense, and it's very understandable that it's been confusing. Let me start by saying very clearly: there's nothing faulty with you or your body. We tend to get...

Welcome back, sof_ia44! I completely get that it can feel confusing to understand our sexuality, especially when it comes to labels and confusing feelings that might come up. As Latha mentioned in a previous thread, no one can tell you what your sexual orientation is but you. So if you are only attr...

Hi narumi008,

Yes, PMS symptoms can change from cycle to cycle. You may notice you get the same symptoms each cycle, or different ones over the course of your lifetime. So it's nothing to worry about.

Hi there Dhruval,

Welcome to the boards! From what you've shared, it sounds like there is a chance of pregnancy, but a low one. The chances would also be impacted by where your girlfriend is in her cycle.

Hi there rainysky, I'm sorry you've been feeling awful and that things ended on bad terms with your ex. goes away with time Generally, I'll say that it's totally okay to fantasize or think about anything or anyone, even if it's an ex who you otherwise wouldn't want to be with anymore, a person who h...

Hi rainysky, Yes, it's true that there is still a smaller risk of getting it, even when the person is asymptomatic. And I get that it can sound scary. We often are told that all STIs are risky and threatening to our health, and there's certainly a lot of stigma and shame surrounding herpes. But the ...

Hi there Kpanganib,

Could you share a bit more about why you're concerned about HIV specifically? Is the person you fingered HIV positive?

Hey there rainysky, Welcome to the boards! Unfortunately, if she has a herpes outbreak/active sores on her mouth, there is no way to kiss without risking you getting it as well. You'll have to wait until the herpes is no longer active to kiss without risk. I'd recommend checking out this page with m...

Hi there Viennakuko, Welcome to the boards! It can definitely be confusing when you’re expecting a specific outcome or experience when masturbating. I want to point out that each person’s body is different, and that while we get told a lot of messages about what pleasure or orgasm ‘should’ feel like...

Hi there FullOfQuestions, Firstly, welcome to the boards! It's definitely okay to reach out with any questions you have - we are happy to answer them! I'm sorry that you've struggled with guilt around masturbation over the years, and that you were shamed for exploring your body. It's completely unde...

Hi there diegoneedshelp, From what you’ve shared, it could be that the bumps and discharge on your mons pubis are a pimple or inflamed glans. This could be caused by something like folliculitis for instance, and can cause itchiness as well. It should usually go away on its own soon. In terms of your...

Hi eziver12, Thanks for sharing all that. Like CaitlinEve shared, while masturbation can be a way to explore our own bodies, desires and sexualities safely and on our own terms, masturbation isn’t a rite of passage or a requirement. It’s totally up to you to decide if you want to do it, and if you’r...

Hi mreoww,

Yes, that's right, you can use it as a condom replacement if you make sure to cover the toy properly.

Hi hillsash - Since she's confirmed that it's her regular period, there's no need to worry. And it sounds like a good call that you've decided to take a step back from sexual activity for now since it's been causing you to worry so much.

Hi Littlebee, welcome to the boards! Let me reassure you that she cannot get pregnant based on what you shared. Here are some helpful resources to better understand what can and can't cause pregnancy, and how long sperm can survive outside the body: Can I Get Pregnant or Get or Pass On an STI from T...

It could be that you were very warm, so do see if it feels different next time when you have fewer layers. And as Heather said, sweat can be released when aroused anyway. I will note, though, that ejaculation from the vulva isn't necessarily related to orgasm - it can actually happen without any org...

Hi Nadia91, Do you think this could possibly be ejaculation? With ejaculation, the fluid is released from the urethra - where we urinate - though the liquid itself is not urine. And this would be unrelated to your vagina being wet. I recommend checking this piece out for more on ejaculation, and you...

Hi there coldpeper, I'm glad you found Latha's response helpful! As she mentioned, pre-cum can, in some situations, lead to a low chance of pregnancy. But from what you've shared with us, there isn't a chance of pregnancy in your situation. I also second what Latha said about you coming to the right...

Welcome to the boards, pabbas! It can be confusing when things are going well but you’re not feeling attracted... It does sound like you’ve been making an effort to try to see where things go and have been open to things developing, but the fact is we can’t always control how we feel. It’s really up...

Hi Skybushh, I get that you’re feeling scared. Like Willa shared, it can be uncomfortable and hard to have these kinds of conversations with others. And getting used to having them takes time and practice. To reiterate Willa’s points, I think the scope of the conversation with your girlfriend should...

Hi there someplacelese, I get that this has been bothering you, and trying to figure out our bodies can certainly be a frustrating and confusing process. It’s important to keep in mind that each person’s body is different, and so for some people, inserting fingers or objects may feel pleasurable, wh...

Hi there jonnyw, So, to answer your question of whether virginity is something you should care about and if it is valid for you to be upset: You can care about your own virginity if you choose to, but it isn’t valid to be upset about someone else’s sexual experiences outside the context of your rela...

Welcome to the boards, Usernamehere! First off, I want to reassure you that there is nothing to feel embarrassed about. A lot of people, including many adults, have the same questions and concerns that you’re sharing, and many people unfortunately don’t receive comprehensive sex education or an oppo...

Hi kilasm, I'm glad to hear you aren't experiencing any discomfort or pain! From what you've described, there isn't anything to worry about. That all sounds like typical discharge. It's definitely great that you're paying attention to your discharge and noticing changes in it. Getting to know your d...

Hi there TristanJPercy, I’m sorry you’re still not feeling so great. It sounds like maybe you needed a bit more time to recover before giving it another shot? In terms of “breaking your hymen” or “popping your cherry”, there’s nothing medically factual about these concepts. Hymens - thin tissue teth...