1) I mostly just give it a go in my room or the bathroom. I've never understood the candles and velvet sheet stereotype. (is that a real thing or just something niche for folks who enjoy it?) 2) I dunno, I used to have like. Audiobooks or something? I try focusing on those, I try focusing on the wor...

I mean, I feel what I believe is horniness. Can't really be much else. I go to do my business, but it's just so.. mundane, I guess? I don't know. I'm trans and AFAB, which doesn't help matters. But unless like, the depressiveness of it all is impacting how I physically feel pleasure, I don't know ho...

Oh, before I forget, do you know where I can advertise a space like this? Like, it's not sexual enough to put in the sexual groups online, but it's not really for kids either. I'm just not sure where it belongs.

Interesting thank you, I'll give the language thing a shot, and I'll try making my own community. (To be clear: I don't mind interacting with folks who engage with it sensually, but I don't like feeling forced to. like i dislike the idea that it needs to be behind closed doors as something inherentl...

1. I guess that's complicated. I like the fashion in leather, for example, and I would feel so comfortable wearing certain garments, but at the same time grossed out. Like, the desire is certainly there, there's just an underlying "eugh" to it that I don't understand. Like something scream...

Hello! I guess I was wondering about some things. I realize i'm getting into the meat of this kind of quick but I also just have a lot of thoughts running through my head. i find myself super repulsed by sexuality, but at the same time find great comfort in it, in some weird nonerotic way. I feel dr...

I personally don't feel like the Olympics as a concept is an automatic negative, meant for discrimination. Having a singular event for the world to come together, once in a while, helps promote a sense of community and world peace, I feel, but that doesn't mean it isn't racist/transphobic/classist, ...

If this perspective helps, as an alternative: You don't need to "know" what your labels are, if you don't want to label your experiences. I am someone who is often referred to by the 'transmasculine' label, but it is not something I would call myself on my own terms. You can be a man witho...

I guess like. I partially don't care if it makes people uncomfortable? Because the reasons they are uncomfortable are generally bad ones (I've spoken to one of these people before, it's just them refusing to overcome their own biases). I just worry about experiencing violence or strange looks. But t...

yeah, mostly wearing certain things, a harness being among them. (And perhaps a leash to that harness). I guess I'm just unsure how to navigate.. any of this. I don't feel safe but I don't feel "right" or like myself, if I don't have it. It's an important part of my identity. It's not inna...

There are a few things I enjoy that have a loooong history with the kink community, but I don't enjoy them in a sexual manner. (Technically speaking I can, but like.. The same can be said for any of my other interests.) And I don't mind the history, I don't mind it being associated with kink. I thin...

I've struggled with hypersexuality a lot, over the years. It has very little to do with actual libido (it relates more to compulsions and intrusive thoughts) although libido can make it worse. I dislike the feelings that come with it, and really don't want to experience it more than I have to. I jus...

Ahhhh you folks are great, thanks a ton!!!

I uh, intend on keeping the name I've used, on this site, and would prefer to not be affiliated with it directly. If possible, anyway, I would much prefer "Bowler" as my username. Thank you in advance.

I don't feel safe there. Harassment/generally unwelcome. Apologies.

Fair enough, that last comment offered some valuable perspective to it. I guess I just feel like "Jacking off" so to speak, has always seemed like a rather boring experience? And all the information I see online about making it interesting just wouldn't apply post bottom surgery. Is there ...

As a trans person pre surgery, masturbation is already kind of meh, I enjoy it, but only to get off. There's not really anything fundamentally fulfilling about it. Bottom surgery seems to offer a more emotionally fulfilling (AKA less dysphoric experience), but it looks to be incredibly mundane and u...

This is more of a general question, but I'm curious. There's not really a g-spot there, to my knowledge, no parts or junk there either, I can imagine it being fun, but the sexual pleasure gained eludes me. I'm just interested, thanks.

Yeah, that's helpful, thank you!

Ok! thank you. It's still a bit tender, but a friend said something that sort of worried me, something about breaking my hymen? "popping the cherry", as they put it? Like. A day or two ago I gave it another shot because the pain went down, which ended in me bleeding a tad. The next day a b...

Hey! I recently found a friend who got me into ERP, and we've had a lot of fun with it. Though I've been really frequent with the physical aspects of it, and uh. I think I'm just. Really sore. I used to think "fuck you raw" was just a phrase, but now I sort of wonder if it's a real thing, ...

I have actually been thinking about seeing a sex therapist for a while, haha. It's not of access to me, no, but in the future it may be, and that's something I'm interested in looking at. Thanks for telling me that it's worth a shot though.

I guess so. thank you.

I just don't like the feelings to begin with. I don't want to have to sit there helplessly for them to go away, I'm tired of just squirming around waiting for it to leave, I want to do something to fix it.