I don’t think I’ve had a general health checkup, but I’m sure another appointment will arise at some point. Only two things are that one of my parents will probably be there with me, and can I talk to any doctor about it? Won’t they tell my parents after anyway as well? Ok, that’s something I’ll def...

It could be, yeah, but my parents are big on lying, and I don’t think they’d like either of the options. I don’t know if I want to go to the doctor either, like it’s not a massive urge to cut I feel like I’m just doing it cuz maybe I like the idea of having that secret to hide or smth

That was a really good metaphor, thanks. That would make sense about depression - I had (not diagnosed but there were symptoms) that before but it was a bit worse. It has actually been better (not fully but better). And I haven’t self harmed as much. I would be open to going to a doctor but I don’t ...

Since the replies can be disjointed cuz of different time zones I’m going to add another thought I had. Cutting makes me feel guilty because it’s like I don’t have a valid reason to, like I’m just doing it to get that conversation. This is also why I’m terrified of my parents finding out because I d...

About the breakup we didn’t see each other very often so I wasn’t very sad, more like disappointed I think? Yeah I feel tired after the day, not exactly sure why. I feel like I am putting on a happier mood for other people though, so maybe that’s it. I’m not really comfortable talking to most of my ...

I feel fine, or at least I should. There’s not really any significant issues going on maybe there’s a few smaller ones. I did break up with my gf and obviously I’m sad but I don’t think that’s the reason I’m self-harming. I’m also pretty tired after most days and feel like I’m forcing a happier mood...

I decided to ask prior and she asked what it wanted to be, and we both agreed on a date.

Thanks!

Ok, sounds good.

I think I want this to be a date.

I was over at a friends house and bored, snapping back and forth with a girl who also had some friends over. They were messing around over text and eventually she said do you want to hang out. The next morning I asked if she was serious and she said yes, and then she suggested going go karting or ic...

Ok, thanks.

Yes, I think they would listen, but I can’t recall other times.

Alright, that sounds like a good idea. I’ll see what they do. How do I approach it if they don’t knock?

Ok, that sounds good.

My family normally does ask a lot of questions, and I don’t normally do things like this, so I feel like they might find it a bit weird and maybe make assumptions. I closed my door earlier today for noise, and my mum walked in without knocking. I know I want to set a boundary but I feel like I’m a b...

Yeah I do have a light. I feel like it makes it harder to make an excuse though.

That sounds like a good idea, thanks. Just another thing I forgot that might complicate things - when I close my blinds, I don’t get any light at all, which makes it a bit stranger.

Thanks, that article was really helpful.

Yeah ok, that’s a good point.

I find in the shower masturbating takes a while, and I feel like the length would be noticeable. In the bath is another option however I don’t have baths often and sometimes getting a position is uncomfortable + cleaning up.

Hi, Sometimes I find it hard to find a space to comfortably masturbate, as I’m rarely home alone. I have a room with a large open window, and closing the blinds is a bit obvious when I’m inside. I also don’t normally close my door, which would raise questions. I know I should be allowed this privacy...

Ok, sounds good. Latex gloves can work but avoid bags.

Thank you both for your help!

Yeah ok. I think they wouldn’t mind.

Ah ok, that’s another option. Are there household alternatives for an easier option?

Those options work well.

Thanks, In terms of what I’m worried about with my parents, it’s mostly about the embarrassment, but I’m not sure whether or not they might not like it. Thanks for the lube alternatives and condom options, although I don’t think that service is available for me as I can’t get out there. I do have my...

Hi, I’ve wanted to try using toys to masturbate but there are a few complications that I want to see if I can work around. First of all I lack materials. A lot of stuff online needs lube and condoms, both of which are really hard to get around parents, so I was wondering if there are alternatives th...

Ah ok, thanks!

That makes a lot of sense. Is that all I have to look out for?

Hello!

I’m wondering about how much porn consumption is too much, especially when masturbating, as I’ve heard it can have effects on arousal and things? I often use porn while masturbating, but I try and not use it too often.

Thanks