I understand now. Thank you for the help. Feel a little bad that I misunderstood that but I’ll try and view it as a lesson.

I understand now. I thought it was something that did. We’ve set boundaries around actions I know those well, I guess I falsely assumed they extended to thought as well.

Thank you. Do you, think it would be helpful to have a conversation with my partner about what the boundaries actually are? Because I realize from all of this that I’m not actually sure. Not to bring this up but to, understand the situation. Or should I just not mention it since it’s only regarding ...

I’ve been thinking about it, and it was never once my intention to make my partner look bad. So, I realize that conclusion was an overreaction. I definitely took some information and altered it in my head which I realize is completely on me. I take the responsibility for that and I apologize for any...

I put these expectations on myself. Because I always thought something was wrong with me if I ever found anyone else attractive. Which is incredibly unrealistic. I. Just feel so incredibly awful for making my partner sound like she was the problem this whole time. Even if I didn’t fully understand u...

I just realized that I’ve misunderstood everything this whole time. I’ve been making my partner look like the problem the whole time when it’s been me. They never had a problem with me finding other people attractive, just when I talked about it. At the beginning of our relationship I was even more ...

Not really. It kind of just shows up. I usually don’t feel like I deserve to be with her. Like I’ve done something wrong, that I’m keeping things from her. Sometimes I feel like she’ll learn who I really am and leave me. So I assume that’s where the feeling is from. I never feel like I deserve what ...

I think it’s also that, even if I do understand how to approach conflict. I, struggle with finding out what’s actually needing to be talked about. I realize that I have a feeling I need to speak about something but I have no idea what it’s about. I can’t believe I’m about to say this but. I think I ...

I remember looking at it when it was sent. I’d have to reread it to remember. I’ll give it a try. If not for me than for the both of us. It does seem that the way I go about trying to, resolve things could be improved. I probably do more harm than good when I don’t say anything.

It does make sense. I’ll think about it. I don’t, like expressing when I might have a problem. It, feels a lot easier to just drop things than. Fight about it. So, it might be hard. I decided a little while back that I’d accept my partner for everything. They do treat me well. If there ever is a pro...

I think I do yes. I don’t want to sound like I’m blaming my partner though that’s not intended. I’ve given her reasons not to trust me, not that I’ve cheated. But I’ve made her feel insecure about this topic in the past. And I have no intention of ever doing so again, I still feel completely awful t...

They’ve never told me that I’m not allowed to. That’s my fault for making it sound like they were trying to control me. Just that they want it to be about them. I think it’s just that I’ve made a lot of mistakes and I, hate hurting people. I usually worry a lot about if what I’m doing is okay or not...

If my partner doesn’t like when I think that way about anyone else, which is completely valid. Should I not have any of those thoughts or fantasies? I feel extremely bad when I do. and especially when I want to have them. I think I’m just curious to explore my sexuality as it’s always been something...

Hello. I’ve recently discovered a lot about myself, at least in the past months. Learning what I have about myself and who I actually am made me, curious to explore the parts I hadn’t. One of these has been my gender. I was born male, although I was never quite sure it fit me. When I was younger, so...

I guess I’m wondering what I should do. When I get those thoughts that. Tell me I don’t deserve my relationship. I have talked with my partner about it, and they’re a big help. I still find myself struggling though. I wish I knew why.

Hello. I, was hoping I would be able to figure things out myself but. All I’ve been able to do is figure out the problem. Which I guess is a step in itself. I love my partner. I really want to stay with them, as long as I can. We, haven’t always had it easy. It’s been a lot of work. But we love each...

I think I figured out what I’m going to do. I have a lot to learn of course, I find it quite enjoyable however. I realize that if I come from a place of wanting to understand my partner, wanting to accept and love them. Things start to make a whole lot more sense, and they start to feel better too. ...

I will work on that. I agree it’s something I need to learn on. I think I figured out that I don’t really feel like any of my needs are met in this relationship and that’s why I’m struggling to give my partner there’s. It feels like everytime I try to stand up for myself I end up making everything w...

I want to create a safe place for my partner and I want to improve our relationship. But I’ve found as of late that I’m doing even worse than usual. My anxiety’s been more intense, I’m not really caring for myself very well. I know these are probably my problems and I want to fix them but I. can’t s...

We’ve had discussions about this in the past. And I’m trying to find a time to talk about us now. We, haven’t been able to settle anything yet however. I haven’t done a good enough job of making my partner feel comfortable talking to me about things. I’ve found that my partner is still affected by t...

I feel kinda bad saying this but. I guess I kinda wish we had more quality time together and. showed each other more affection. I feel we have it when we’re together, in person. But when we’re apart, or especially with the long distance things seem different.

I’m not sure. I think that might be it? I’ve been trying to think about it but it’s all kind of new. There’s definitely some things that I wish were a bit different. But I realize that has nothing to do with my partner like I thought it did.

My sessions have been going well. I think I can definitely find a way to better utilize them though. I’ve always had this desire to solve my problems by myself which I realize can be detrimental. So I’ll work on that. I realized recently that I might be trying to change my partner. Not who they are ...

I do understand what you’re saying. and I’m trying to accept it for myself. And yes, I’ve always had a fear of being a bad person. pretty much as long as I can remember. I’ve also had this fear that I’m not enough for a long time. And I have a feeling it gets triggered a little more than it actually...

I’m pretty sure it comes from me. I made a lot of mistakes in the past and wasn’t really a great partner. I’ve been able to learn from everything, and I’m getting a lot better. but it took me a long time. And I can’t stop thinking about everything I did wrong. or everything I might have done that I ...