ok cool . i wanna finger myself tho so i can find out what i like before i have fingered sex with a girl, should i just rub my clit abit until im wet then try to finger myself? thxs

so im abit confused. when i rub my clit i get so horny i cum pretty quickly then if i try to finger myself after that im super turned off and not in the mood anymore. am i supposed to rub my clit for a bit and not orgasm then finger myself? like im confused what im supposed to do first. or do i get ...