Hey Malla_Fluff, I wish I had a fix-it answer for you that would help immediately. As is, I think the process of becoming more accepting of your own sexuality and fetishes is exactly that; a process! Ultimately, kinks and fetishes can be very private to you (depending, of course, on your wishes). Wh...

Hey catsandboots,

I like the rituals you've come up with! As for the mantras, you could try rephrasing them to center yourself. For example, 'it's okay for me to do this now' both centers you and reassures you that it's okay.

Hi naurmi008, What you’ve described does not pose a risk, and so I would recommend that you do not take Plan B considering your concerns about the impact on your cycle. I would like to bring your attention to the last line you wrote in your post; ‘should i save it for next time when there’s an actua...

Hi dayriri, I want to start out by saying that I know this is frustrating and I'm sorry you're dealing with it! I have some questions for you, so we know where to start with this. In the mean time, I'll link to 3 columns regarding users with similar issues that you can take a look at and compare to ...

Hey Malla_Fluff, You are NOT doomed! Your kink is not an uncommon one; the nice thing about human nature is that pretty much any kink you can have is one that other people have as well. That doesn't mean that it's odd for you to be feeling self-conscious about it though; that is totally valid! I'm g...

Hey psysharm, welcome to Scarleteen! I have a few questions for you regarding these fissures. Are they painful in any way, or itchy? Is urination painful and/or have you experienced any burning sensations? And what do you mean by delicate? In terms of possibilities, if your answer for the above ques...

Hey sparklingstar, People start having sex at many different ages; just because you haven't had sex yet in your life doesn't mean that it's something you won't be able to do in the future, or that delaying penetrative sex will negative impact your experience. I'm glad to hear that you have had the o...

Hey crwx, Masturbation can be complicated, especially when it's something you haven't really had the chance to explore before. I know you mentioned researching how to do it, but have you had a chance to check out related articles on Scarleteen such as Going Solo: The Basics of Masturbation ? You may...

Hi mika.m, Fingering yourself can be a bit of trial and error. If it hurts, it's okay to take a break and try again at another point. It's also okay if you discover that prostate stimulation isn't something you're interested in. I will say that it is unlikely that you will injure yourself with your ...

Hi Leonor,

Did you get a chance to check out the article with non-therapy suggestions and resources for managing your anxiety that HannaP linked in one of her earlier responses? Hearing your thoughts on those could help us provide more specific suggestions for you!

Yes, diet and exercise can also play a role in menstruation. Doubling mileage is a lot, so I'm definitely inclined to believe that is what has affected her! Running, particularly, has a documented effect on someone's cycle and there are communities online where your girlfriend may find specific advi...

Hi Mediapd!

From what you've described (sex with a barrier and no ejaculation), it sounds like there is little to no 'real' risk of pregnancy at this time. Other factors can affect menstrual cycles, such as stress, which could explain the lack of symptoms.

Hey abruss11, Your stress could definitely have something to do with it! Although birth control can help normalize periods, and it sounds like that's what it's been doing for you for some time now, stress absolutely affects your cycle. It can make it early or late, light or heavy, and just generally...

Hi Cy, I'm glad you've been reading up and taking advice from the forum and taking the time to get to know yourself, physically and mentally! Physiologically, the clit and penis develop from the same structure. So, from what it sounds like, your clit appearing purplish and swollen out past the hood ...

Hey naurmi008, It sounds (from this post as well as your last) that you have a lot of anxiety that revolves around the idea of pregnancy, which isn't uncommon and is understandable! Unfortunately, since they don't sell Plan B over-the-counter in Indonesia, we likely can't help you find any that woul...

Hi, Our minds can be rude and mean to us sometimes and it's not uncommon to have that anxiety. You're definitely not alone in this! Even if his genitals did brush over yours, brushing is not enough to cause a pregnancy. Sperm is very fragile! I have another article for you if you'd like to read more...

Hey lem1105! Luckily, taking Prozac does not inherently mean that you will have problems with arousal/orgasm! It's definitely possible, though; in your personal experience have you noticed it impacting your libido before? Honestly, the only way to tell definitively would be to try it and see; and if...

Starfire, Do you work up to digital insertion, like making sure your body is properly lubricated and ready? It may help to try focusing more on clitoral stimulation, as some people just don't derive pleasure from penetration. From what you said in point 3, it sounds like you may be using too much fo...

Hey phenolphtalein, I'm sorry to hear that you're having a hard time! That's a fair reason to not want to share details on the message board. Unfortunately, as it's Sunday, the live chat function isn't online as those who run it aren't on shift. However, it will be online tomorrow from 10am to 1pm P...

Hey naurmi008,

It's okay to be worried about this stuff, but don't stress yourself out too much because what you've described cannot result in a pregnancy. This article may help you with your anxiety regarding pregnancy risk!

Hey Glorious! You are absolutely not alone; mixed sexuality/orientation relationships are pretty common and with the right communication & boundaries, absolutely possible and sustainable! Am I correct in understanding that your partner is not sex-repulsed? If you're having trouble picking up on ...

I do think that would count as 18+, as nsfw spaces are (typically) 18+ online/exclude minors!

That's a fair concern! I won't tell you whether or not to tell him, I just want you to think about the possibility and what could happen. I do have two things for you to think about... if he doesn't want to be friends if he knows how old you are... 1). then maybe he's not a friend you'd want to have...

Hello fresariver! That's a tricky question, honestly! I think the biggest question here is; do you feel like it would be safe to tell him that you're a minor? Do you trust him with that information, assuming it's not common public knowledge on your account? As long as you're not having sexual conver...

Hey ConfusedGrape! I'm glad you had a conversation with your partner about your feelings, but I'm sorry to hear that the physical pleasure imbalance is still there. If you're comfortable answering; do you ever orgasm from partnered sex? What about masturbation? Just because something works for you s...