Hey Jay27, Like Caitlin mentioned, you don't have to make this shift into anything big if you don't want it that way. I think it's wise of you to know the appropriate time to tell others - it seems to me like you're already everything you can to introduce this change to your friends. Agreeing with H...

Given your past experiences, it totally makes sense that you'd want to wait til you're home alone. Sorry that you're in a situation where you feel restricted in when and where you can comfortably masturbate at home. I'm glad you're taking care to find as much comfortability as possible, though. Than...

Hey sarxzer, Thank you for explaining your situation for me. It sounds like there's a lot of barriers to having a private and comfortable space at home too. How have you gone about using or trying out your toys in the past? I want to address your initial question again. You mentioned that you're fee...

Hey there reapergirl, I'm glad to hear what Hannah offered landed well with you! I wanted to jump in here to add that sometimes going back to the "basics" actually allows us to re-connect deeper with our partners and oftentimes can lead to feeling more comfortable with trying out new thing...

Glad to hear you're feeling a little better about it! I hear what you're saying with the social norms of masturbation. I think you're doing a great job of feeling what is good and pleasurable for you! I see! It seems you find yourself feeling repeatedly aroused at school and it sounds like it can be...

Hi sarxzer, I get the sense that you're finding a mismatch between what you want to use your toy for versus how you see it represented online or with others. I understand that the lack of visual representation on how dildos get used for anal play may be affecting the way that you think about what us...

Of course! Feel free to reach out again if anything else comes up!

Thanks for clarifying for me about the lube! I would say to avoid pushing past your limit when it comes to inserting the dildo. If you're experiencing pain it's probably good to take a break. I want to add that it's not an uncommon experience to have a limit of what feels good with penetration espec...

hey there, I totally understand your hesitancy to send a message over IG since you've only had one interaction in person and it was pretty short. I would say that if you're really interested in getting to know her more but aren't able to find activities or friends in common at school, reaching out v...

hey there FormlessEntity and welcome to the boards! So, I can think of some things that might be making the transition to your new dildo a bit more difficult than expected. For one, silicone tends to stick more than glass and often can cause some drag on the skin unless lube is used. It also seems t...

Hey there randomname13 , Thanks for reaching out to us with your question! Sounds you've been spending a lot of time thinking about this girl you saw at school. I think it's pretty common nowadays to find people online to get a better sense of them but I understand that you're wanting more of an in-...

Hey there lovelyflowers, Thanks for asking your question - I'm sure many others will benefit from your question and replies! I wanted to chime in as someone who is in a ldr at the moment and has tried many ways to do partnered/ solo activities. I think one way to bring it up to your partner could be...

veilsan13, I think that you're already taking the first step of understanding a bit more through readings and reaching out to us. I would recommend taking some time to really consider if any of the things listed in the resources I sent resonate with you and your experience. I don't think anyone but ...

Hey there veilsan13 and welcome to the boards! I want to start off by saying that there is nothing weird or wrong about any of the things you've described on your post. Thank you for your vulnerability sharing with us despite all the overwhelming feelings of weirdness or confusion. I do also get tha...

Hi sky, Thank you for sitting with my questions and taking time to answer. The reason I asked for you to bring the focus back to yourself is so that you have reminders of how there's lots of safety and pleasure when you're alone. The thing is, sky, that when the mind is going a mile a minute and we'...

I totally understand that this all feels so overwhelming! I think that you taking the time to voice it all out to us and your therapist is a really crucial step. Just as I mentioned before, let's do things slowly, ok? I know that there may be a sense of urgency because of how overwhelming talking ab...

Hey there, Thank you for clarifying that for me - really helps to know exactly what's going on! I think it's interesting that you mentioned surrendering because I think that a useful way to create space between past experiences and the now is to loosen the grip (even if just a tiny bit) on all the p...

Hey there sky, I really sense that there's a lot of confusion and frustration that comes up for you in regards to thinking about / engaging in dating. I get that this topic may feel really overwhelming and like you just don't even know where to start because it's bringing up a lot of emotions. So, l...

hey there! Thanks for taking the time to really consider what comes up for you and what's fearful about intense arousal! It sounds to me like you're drawing from past experiences of pain and discomfort during masturbation as a measure of how things might feel now. Am I catching on to that correctly?...

Hi sky, I'm really sorry that you're going through such a difficult time and feel like you don't have any support through this tough time. I totally understand what you mean. It feels really isolating when you're not able to share how you're feeling with others. I'm curious as to why you think you'r...

Hey there sky, I love the baby wins! I think that mentality of celebrating the small wins and progress, however small, is fantastic! I am excited and happy to hear that you're starting to feel more comfortable with your therapist and are feeling safe enough to fully express your emotions in sessions...

Hey, I'm sorry it feels like you can't speak to your parents about how you're feeling about your gender. Thank you for sharing all of your feelings and recent thoughts with us here though! I get that speaking with them about this topic is not safe so let's discuss things in a way that's more helpful...

Hey there, Thanks so much for the reply! I think it's pretty common for a lot of feelings to come up during/after masturbation. Anger and sadness I've seen as very common! Masturbation can get us to spend time with ourselves and often times when the physical release happens during orgasm, emotional ...

Hey there Foreverl0st, Could you describe the ways you feel after masturbation to me? You mentioned it's overwhelming and I'm wondering if I can provide any advice based on what you're feeling afterwards. I want to acknowledge that masturbating can take up a lot of our physical and mental energy so ...

Hi Foreverl0st, Thank you for sharing your experiences and what you've been struggling with lately here. I am so sorry that you feel like you can't wear what makes you feel confident and secure in your body because of parental expectations. I can see how that would be frustrating and not very helpfu...