Hi there Ash51, No need to apologize! So, it sounds like there is no risk of pregnancy here. Even if there was pre-ejaculate on your hands, that would be indirect contact with pre-ejaculate, which doesn’t pose a risk to pregnancy. Pre-ejaculate can contain sperm (not always), but those sperm cells a...

Hi there Anne Janne, So, as long as there was no direct contact with ejaculate and your vulva or vagina, as in, your partner did not ejaculate onto your genitals, there is no risk of pregnancy. If it helps, though, sometimes taking a pregnancy test and actually seeing the result can help quell some ...

I’m glad I could help! Finding a therapist who you can talk to about these things sounds like a good step forward — I hear you that it can be hard to bring up things we feel shame or anxiety about, and sometimes it takes the right person or the right specialty… even the right time. Too, if it helps,...

Hi there Jrjamwswright74, As a gentle reminder, we ask that users not make multiple posts to encourage a quicker response. In this case, as Sam said, you can assume that the condom did its job to protect you from STIs. Too, if anxiety around things like STI transmission continues to pose a concern, ...

Hi there Koh123, I’m glad to hear that you’ve checked in with your healthcare providers about your family history and current symptoms — they would be a good place to start if and when you do want to seek mental healthcare. Too, we can help you start the process of finding a mental healthcare provid...

Hi Kitties774, and welcome to the boards! First, your formatting looks great, no worries! And I’m glad to hear you’re seeking safer items to use. Before we talk about talking with your mom, I do want to send this resource your way, in case making a safer-to-use DIY toy is something you may want to t...

Hi PleaseHelp ASAP, I hear you when you say you feel tense when the throbbing starts and the pleasure goes away, and it sounds like this has been a difficult thing to deal with for awhile. I see you’ve been doing a lot of work on this too: you’ve tried different methods, it sounds like lube hasn’t w...

Hi Jasscales, and welcome to the boards!

When you say none of it feels good, is it a painful feeling? Numb? Just not pleasurable? There’s a few things I can recommend but I want to make sure I’m understanding what you’re experiencing first!

Hi everyone! Recently, a friend of mine asked me: If you had to make a playlist about sex ed, what songs would be on it? This question was a little confusing at first. Was my friend asking for “songs about intercourse”? Songs about identity? Songs about consent? Songs about the history of women’s se...

I was about to make a post on making media and figured I would revive this thread! I practice multimedia art therapy and I’ve found that making things like paintings, sculptures, and pieces of furniture has been a really bountiful experience in terms of not only discovering more about how I feel abo...

Hi snakesarecoolB), First, I’m really glad to hear you’re starting to discover language to describe your identity that make you feel comfortable! 1. I want to reassure you that there is nothing wrong or abnormal about feeling ambiguous or even ambivalent when it comes to your gender identity. You ar...

Hi Dollybeats, I want to link you to this article first: From OW! to WOW! Demystifying Painful Intercourse It’s a really great introduction to some of the experiences you’re reporting including the tightness and pain, but the section on getting ready for vaginal entry (including during masturbation)...

I’ve been doing a lot of reading on how to cope with the pain I experience in my body as a result of experiencing patriarchal trauma, and in doing so I’m always led, almost cosmically, to the words of Audre Lorde. Specifically, Audre Lorde delivered a really powerful speech called “The Transformatio...