Hey there Malla, I’m so glad to hear that was reassuring, and I’d be glad to talk with you about how to create a self-care routine that works for you. Self-care is highly individualized, so it’ll make the most sense for you to sit for a bit and think about what sort of activities or sensations make ...

Hey there Malla_fluff, Yes, Cat is totally right — it is totally okay, normal, and might I say common to combine your kink with other things you find arousing. On top of that, I do think your kink is more normal and common than you may think! Touching on something Jacob said in a previous post, vore...

Hey there Telegram, I’m glad to hear the idea of a letter sounds good to you. I agree with you, it’ll be a good opportunity for you to be able to speak without interruption, and for your mom to read it and process it before reacting. If you’d like help with what to say as you go to write it, we are ...

Hi there Anonlesbian, I am so sorry to hear that your ex chose to assault you. I want to reassure you, first, that you’re not stupid for not getting out sooner or realizing how bad it was — it can be so difficult to see the bigger picture of power and control, and repeated boundary pushing, when you...

Hi Wannabevamp! I’m glad that Ellie’s advice was helpful! To address your concern about being in HS still and people maybe being worried about you actually being a minor, I do think if you search for people relatively close to your age, they’ll likely be more understanding of your exploring sex and ...

Hi there Fresariver, Let’s start with this: there’s nothing gross or dirty about your body for having skin tags. Many, many people have skin tags alongside yourself, especially where the leg folds, and it doesn’t mean you’re not desirable or that anything looks wrong with you. To be honest, skin tag...

Hi Nijahlashae, and welcome to the boards! When inserting anything into the vaginal canal for the first time, it’s important to start slow and with as little insertion as possible to minimize that stretching pain. Your corona (formerly known as the hymen), gently stretches to accommodate more insert...

Hello Rik45, and welcome to the boards :) I’m sorry to hear you’ve been struggling with touching or looking at your vulva to wash it. We can definitely talk about some ways you may be able to wash your vulva without touching or looking at it too much. I do think that a doctor would be a good resourc...

Hello, and welcome to the boards :) There’s not enough information here to tell whether or not the type of sex you had poses a risk to pregnancy, but this may be a good start: Can I Get Pregnant, Or Get Or Pass On An STI From That? . Does going through that article help identify for you whether or n...

Hi there Chy, I’m glad to hear that Jacob’s response helped you reflect on your friendship a bit, and that you’re taking a break for yourself. It’s so important that the relationships in your life are good experiences for you, too, so I think your plan to take a break is a very good one. Is there an...

Hi Jay, I’m glad you and your therapist are discussing alternative ways to get to the doctor! I agree with avoiding the space where the nurse who let that happen is in charge: that’s a very sound step for not only your safety going forward, but also your healing. It’s important always, but especiall...

Hi Catsandboots, I hear you about not wanting to lose relationships if people found out. You know, I do think there’s a difference between experiencing arousal with furry things, and being “gross” or a problem in the community, and it has to do with boundaries. It sounds to me like, while you experi...

Hi Roland, That makes sense! Thank you for clarifying. So, to avoid any potential larger cuts while shaving, make sure to keep the skin moisturized and wet while shaving, following the direction of hair growth to ensure less irritation. Sometimes it can help to gently stretch the skin with one hand,...

Hi Piebymeh,

I’m glad what Andy said was helpful! And if you end up having more questions after looking through the articles they sent and taking a break, we’d be more than happy to discuss them with you.

I’m so glad that helped a bit, and I’m glad your boyfriend is on board! You are so welcome, and it’s not an inconvenience at all. You have a great day, too! <3

Ah, I hear you on that! Thank you for sharing that information, that is really helpful to know. I know it can be so difficult and frustrating to deal with pregnancy anxiety when you’re also struggling with OCD. I do think, in these circumstances, reassurance does more work to continue the cycle of a...

Hi there Cheesepotato, The situation you’re describing here sounds like indirect contact with pre-ejaculate at best, which is not how pregnancy occurs. It sounds, though, like you’re having some persisting anxiety about pregnancy risk. I see that last time, Andy sent you an article on what activitie...

Hi Fresariver, I agree with Andy and I think it’s a great idea to talk with him once he’s feeling a bit better. It sounds like there’s a couple different pieces of information you need from him before you define your relationship, including if he feels ready to be in a relationship, and if he’s will...

Hi Piebymeh, Ah, thank you for clarifying. You know, I don’t think you’re bad or anything for feeling this way. It’s important that you’re recognizing when you feel this way, too. Do you want to talk a bit about how you experience this disgust? Does the disgust make you not want to be around them, o...

Hi Catsandboots, We can certainly talk about finding a balance. Are you feeling like the sexual thoughts are overwhelming the non-sexual side, or is there a reason you’re worried about this particularly now? One immediate thought I have is if you can think of any “triggers” (not in the negative cont...

Hi Bowler, I think one potential avenue is to contact the moderators of whichever group you’re thinking of sharing to, checking that it’s ok to share links and that the content fits their group. I will ask staff, though, if they have more specific suggestions! Edit: I think another good way to think...

Hi there Roland, We can certainly go into some safety tips on shaving to minimize the risk of cuts (though I will say that tiny cuts are common with shaving, and it’s more of how to take care of the skin after shaving). But, before I mention any of that I want to ask: apart from how your partner fee...

Hi Piebymeh, When it comes to something so personal as orientation, the only person who is going to be able to tell you if you’re aromantic is you. Too, identifying as aromantic (or as any other orientation), depends on your comfort with it, not whether or not you “fit” the definition. All that to s...

No worries! I’m glad you’re able to post here for help. For the nervousness and dryness, it may help to go slow, maybe exploring non-insertive sex before inserting anything, and using extra lube. You can read more about that, and more things to consider with painful sex, here: From Ow To Wow! Demyst...

I also want to add that, in the future, after improper condom usage or any sexual activity that poses a risk to pregnancy, your partner can take emergency contraception up to 120 hours, but most effective within 24 hours. You can read more about it here: Birth Control Bingo: Emergency Contraception ...