I have decided to wait. He gave me a date when he will be done with writing. I feel like that is him setting a boundary. That he doesn’t have any brain power to spare and I think I should respect that. If I happen to see him before then, I’m going to try and casually mention that I think we misunder...

I did ask if he was gonna be around his phone today so I could ask him a question. He is busy writing today as he has a big deadline soon. He told me to leave a voice note. I think this might be a bad time to bring this up. He needs to use all of his energy to write I feel it’s wrong to distract him...

I don’t know if that text is too much/too serious. Sex is way less of a big deal to him than it is to me. I don’t want to come across as weird and obsessive. I created a more casual text below. Does that one seem better? Im afraid a text seems weird but I’m also afraid to wait until I see him in per...

“S****, I’m confused and I need you to clear things up. I need to send this in text to communicate it effectively. I keep thinking about the text you sent about physical connection. The “no non-sexual” connection. Can you please explain this text to me. I am attracted to you and I thought you were a...

That would be very helpful! I feel I need to text him soon because it’s been a week since he sent that text in response to mine. I’m feeling panicked inside because he now most likely thinks I don’t desire a sexual relationship at all. He may also not care at this point and has moved on. Sex isn’t a...

Is this a conversation I can have over the text? The question about clarification about what he said/his wording/what he meant. I know topics like this should be in person to be clear of confusion, but seeing as I have failed to communicate in person multiple times maybe this is better than nothing?...

You misunderstand. He is no longer my roommate. He now lives 40 miles away. At the end of the summer he will move 400 miles away. All of what I described happened when we were living together. As far as communication during sex, I know what I want and I know what I don’t want. I am very clear with s...

I’m also embarrassed that I’m still realizing things about myself. I am envious of those who have figured things out. I am envious of those who can share intimacy with others freely. It feels like I have to wait until I have to figure everything out before I can proceed or experiment, which doesn’t ...

The reason why I feel like i have missed the proper window of time is that I although we have known of each other through a friend for years, I moved into the house where him and a friend were living in February. We still didn’t get to know each other until the end of March. I think maybe I should h...

Admittedly I need to work on communication. I also second guess myself, because I have judged situations incorrectly in the past. I also am unsure because he hasn’t tried/asked to touch me other than hugs that mostly I initiate. Maybe he is a person who likes to be told? Maybe he is waiting out of r...

Thank you so much for your reply! I feel very honored that he has made me his chosen family. I am really happy that we have become friends. The missing a chance feeling i tied to how I feel about him and what I want to share with him. I mostly want him to know that I am attracted to him and if he is...

Recently I’ve grown close to an acquaintance who is a cis gay man. Im afab and have fluctuated with my gender identity and expression over the years. I find myself very attracted to him but I have had trouble finding the words to express this. Although I’ve been sleeping with people since my early 2...