That sounds great. Thanks so much! I have therapy on Thursday so I have lots to talk abt! Stay awesome

Thanks :,) things are looking up. I was a little hard on myself few days ago. Like why do i still get anxious? Why am i still like this? Being harder on myself just made me feel worse and my friends and loved ones as well.. If I were to get tested though, I should wait for a few weeks right? I recal...

Hello KierC! I think with my partner having no sexual experience or activities with anyone prior to our sexual acts kind of makes me confident that I’m at no risk of an STI. Plus, we’ve been performing oral sex on each other for months. Not that we’re not cautious, but I know that STI’s don’t pop ou...

Sorry for another comment. Our sexual acts were all our firsts with each other. We both haven’t had any partners prior to do sexual acts.

Hello. So I gave my partner oral sex through cullingus. However, she peed before hand and it tasted really salty. I’m wondering if peeing before giving oral sex put me at risk of any infection. If the answer is no, then do I still need to worry? We are each other’s one and only sexual partner in our...

She’s told me that sometimes she feels overwhelmed by my issues, needing to take breaks. It makes me sad that I made her get to such a state. That she can’t handle me anymore. Though, we’ve been through so much. I don’t know :,) Of course I would help her if she was the anxious one, but with life ge...

I don’t know if it’s just me, but I feel like i have been causing a lot of stress for not only my family, but my gf. This anxiety and worries I have make me feel like I’m being monitored and taken care of, rather than us helping each other. It seems like my gf is always having to check on me or reas...

My therapist had to cancel for another week..so yes I’d love some recommendations. She said her period will be due in November, and that’s a long wait. Idk if my anxious self will be able to tolerate that :,)

I haven’t been able to talk about it recently, as my therapist is having personal issues. However, the last time he talked with me, he said me fear of pregnancy came from something else, not from the fear of pregnancy itself. And he let me think about it until our next session. I think what triggers...

For self care I like to watch my comfort shows and play games with my friends. I also draw as well!! However, when i go to sleep, I’m unable to distract myself from what scares me. It’s very embarrassing as you know, because my worries of pregnancy are nonexistant

I discussed with my partner about aftercare and it was very reassuring! I’ve learned to tell my boundaries and we established an official aftercare system! However, my anxieties are still here! I did use your resources, but that feeling id still lingering..I didnt sleep straight for the past two days

So how would I ease my anxiety besides aftercare (btw very informative i’ll discuss it w my partner)? Should I stop going to sites to stop the reassurance seeking cycle?

I have talked w my partner about this. The last time we did anything sexual was in September. She advised I take small steps like kissing, masturbating and such. It’s until now i’ve reached fingering and I was pretty confident, until I worried a lot last night. Whenever i’ve felt ready, the feelings...

I have no idea. For me, i love these intimate moments, but its the past events that make me feel like something bad will happen again. Like what if she’s late again? And that results in me worrying for weeks again? On the other hand, I just don’t want to let her down..she’s not pressuring me or anyt...

I am a little bit yes. I was trying to push myself past my anxieties after a few weeks of building my confidence up to fingering (masturbating, dry humping). However, fingering is what got me again I guess. Mainly because my gf had a scare and was two weeks late AFTER i fingered her. So i just think...

Does fingering have a risk of pregnancy if beforehand you wash your hands with soap and water? I was also fully clothed while doing the act. Thanks!

That sounds good yeah..I’ll try to fight the urge. I’ve read your guy’s resources a lot they are really helpful!! I go to anxiety group therapy tomorrow so I’ll discuss these.

Do you have some advice on how to stop seeking reassurance? I keep asking my gf or sites over and over the same questions, but i am not satisfied. I know the answer is correct, but my body feels like its not.

I’m going to yes. I have group therapy on friday and an individual on Tuesday. I’m very sorry that my questions were stupid or annoying. A lot of people say my thinking is stupid and I should just enjoy the sexual moments, but here I am!

I’ve only had two so far. I had three counselors due to conflicting schedules, but hopefully this one will stay :,)

Ok i’ll try to ease my anxiety by engaging with my fears so I know there’s nothing to worry about.

My fear is that when i get confident with masturbation and more comfortable enough to try with my partner, my fear will reappear again. It’s happened every single time. Sorry for a double post my connection made it submit without me actually pressing it :,)

So…I should try masturbation again? Because i also hears that when you avoid a fear, you’re not fixing it but actually reinforcing it

I haven’t i’m scared of medications. I have another question. I have urges sexually that i want to release like masturbating and such, however i am nervous to do so. Do you have any ways I can not worry if i were to masturbate?

I apologize for my “existing” line. It was me trying to reassure myself I wholeheartedly didn’t mean it in a negative way. I’ll try to know that there’s no risk because there ISNT any, whenever my mind wanders again. I usually struggle with my catastrophic thinking. Usually with my social life and r...

I’d like to read them yes.

The scare really screwed me up. It just makes me scared of pregnancy caused by basically existing. And..it’s the fact i’ve used lotion for awhile and in the bathtub (cleaned lf course) and nothing bad happened. Because nothing will happen