Yes, but even if they say they're looking for something serious, they're not looking for something serious with YOU. I've asked guys out when out for coffee with them or at a bar or when I'm over at their house or after a meet up if I know them from a meet up group I'm part of like life drawing sket...

Depends, sometimes they act like they want to go on a get-to-know-you kind of date but really they just want sex. And most of them are upfront about wanting something casual.

He offered after I complained about being a virgin but not wanting to lose it to some online stranger.

That would just be a very awkward elongated hug from a friend.

Both.

My sexual history is: Lost virginity to a friend who agreed to take my virginity, at the age of 21. Then online hookups mostly, and a one night stand with a guy from club, and then the aformentioned rape by a "friend". My friends do hug, but only short hugs and they're not very cuddly. On ...

You're right that my need to feel wanted doesn't factor in the other person in that equation, but unfortunately this is what I feel the need for. In fact if someone were to just express a liking for me in that way it would probably do the trick, without the relationship business. And maybe if they g...

The thing is that I don't think I'll be able to get that kind of sex.

I could very easily get fucked up on drugs and alcohol and have sex with a whole bunch of different guys this summer but it still won't make me feel any better or any less lonely.

Oh well alright, I admit that I may be emotionally compromised because of what happened. But I don't like to think of it that way, it was just a thing that happened to me and my negative feelings are from thinking about it too much. I don't know if I want to talk to other people who have been sexual...

Sorry, I meant I wouldn't mind you doing that

I'm not sure, I was hoping you'd know what would help with these feelings that doesn't involve friends or relationships.

I wouldn't :]

I'm not sure what would help with these feelings.

I don't know why people valuing me as a friend isn't enough. But it's not enough.

I think most people have gotten relationships by the age of 25 though

I feel like if someone saw me as more than just a receptacle for cum I would feel a whole lot better about myself.

I'm in my early twenties and I've been trying for over a decade now, so I don't think I'll ever get a partner, even though I meet cool people all the time through socialising.

I've never been on a date before but I have a pretty active social life. I go to bars with friends, a few clubs/meet up groups, house parties etc. I occasionally ask guys out but I get politely rejected.

I've been going out a lot the past week and it's great most of the time, my friends have been extra supportive

But this weekend when my friends were all together talking about their significant others or cuddling with each other I started crying and had to walk out into the garden for a bit.

Can you get me a boyfriend? Haha I know you can't provide that service, but the feeling of loneliness has been stronger over the past week because of what happened, I've never had a boyfriend before, guys don't want me in a romantic way and I wish they did. But I don't think there's anything anyone ...

I don't have to go there at all, but it's an area where I like to spend a lot of my free time. If he wanted to seek me out there's no way he could without some seriously extensive digging to locate me, and I know him well enough to know that he's far too lazy to do that. I feel pretty sure that he w...

I don't feel safe in the area he lives in without being with someone else, so if he does appear he can't do the same thing. But in other places I have no problem being by myself. Ah, at the clinic I got tested at they asked me the same thing, so if I ever feel like I needed that kind of resource I k...

I see.

As for resources to access, well, I've already taken the morning after pill and went to get tested for STDs, and I'm not going anywhere near where it happened in case I stumble into the guy.

Should I feel upset over being raped? I don't but I feel like I should.

I'm not angry or upset, but should I be? It happened a week ago.