Hi Jacob, Thank you, it does clarify a lot when you said "Usually it's about sharing something with a partner that both parties feel actively good about." I can imagine it as a stronger form of head pats rather than what I used to think. I just have to calmly take more time and understand ...

Hi Sam W, I sort of figured out why I thought the way I thought. Because in porn and stuff girls acted so happy and cheerful while giving a blowjob or taking an Eiffel tower inside them. I was so confused because I know how horrible and humiliating it feels to give a blowjob or be penetrated. It wou...

Hi Sam W, This may sound weird to you but, I didn't think of it as a trauma, just something that happened to me. I was really little and at the time my thinking was more like "i shouldn't have to go to a psychiatrist, he should, something is wrong with him, not me!". I thought it thoroughl...

Hi Sam W. thank you, it wouldn't be much helpful since I've accepted it that despite what happened, my life after that would have been the same regardless. It's been 10+ years, i don't think it affects my daily life at all. I did plan on visiting the college counselor once i make it to it, right now...

Hi Sam W, I am still living at home, I don't see my brother on a regular basis, but I had to for few years after that, I tried to talk about this with a friend years later, not very helpful, I visited a psychiatrist who listened to my story but he went on to treat a different problem I had at that t...

Hi Sam W, It's been few weeks and after thinking through all of this, I have come to the conclusion that I am fine with sex as long as both wants it and its ethically sound. So if only one of them wants it or they are forcing themselves on to other, that's not right. And if they have partners and ev...

Hi Sam W, Thanks, It is going to take a while for me and I do have to sit with that to fully come to terms with the biggest one. I think it did take influence from the fact that even the normal form of porn I have consumed has elements of maledom within it and not any neutral side of it and after be...

I feel uncomfortable that my sisters and older female friends are getting married. I feel weird that they going to have sex with their partners and then talk to me as if nothing happened, and I am supposed to behave as if its okay. I don't know if I feel anger or jealous or just sad. I'm asking this...