Hi Bowler, responding in the order you wrote your post, 1) As cliche as it may seem, everyone experiences sexuality and masturbation differently, and what might make no difference to one person might be the ultimate turn-on for someone else, so although silky sheets and candles don't do it for you, ...

Hi Nadia, that sounds really difficult. I understand how it feels to be just devastated after a really hard breakup and feel like all you can do is cry, trust me I've been there. I agree with Caitlin in their assumption that your trouble becoming aroused and masturbating probably comes from external...

Hi Sandrah, I'm sorry you're experiencing such anxiety around this. Hannah is correct in saying that in your situation, with precum on someone's hand from adjusting their penis and then fingering you, there is a pretty much 0% chance of risk of pregnancy. In this situation, taking Plan B is unnecess...

Hi Michael, Right off the bat, I want to say you're right, these are highly politicized as well as taboo topics at the moment so It can be really hard to talk about them with our community members, and we're glad that you are seeking sexual health professionals for information! To get all of this ri...

Hi Lexie05, I totally understand that worry of "well, what do I bring to the table that he'll notice?" but I think you're definitely on the right track by trying to find a time that you can talk to one another. I think once you have a chance to chat for the first time, you'll both be bette...

Hi Jellyfish4, You're totally on the right track by framing asexuality as a spectrum. Asexuality can be many different things to different people and can show up for periods of time and shift as we grow older and change as people. Spectrums are great ways for us to communicate about the fluidity of ...

Hi Jimfeli, Welcome to the boards! I'm glad you've already looked into some of our articles so my apologies if I suggest any that you've already read through. First of all, I want to hopefully put your anxiety to rest by saying I do not believe there is any real risk in the experience as you describ...

Hi OpossUM?, I'm glad you've been finding some of our articles helpful! I apologize in advance if any of the suggestions I give you have already read, so feel free to let me know if that's the case. I want to start by addressing some of the masturbation stuff, then I'll move on to talking about the ...

Hi sky, What I'm hearing is that you are feeling ready to put yourself out there romantically but you also are conscious of your desire to wait to have sex until you feel safe and loved, and those things feel conflicting to you because of the age group you occupy within the dating pool. I can totall...

Hi elliohnnie, We're so happy to have you, and I'm glad you feel you can talk through all of this here, this space is for you . First, I hear that you're struggling with this fear of men that you mentioned, and feeling isolated not only because of physical distance but also because of the scary real...

Hi Jasonrossi, Welcome to the boards, we're happy to have you. First of all, I'm so sorry you're going through this difficult and stressful situation. Your parent threatening to hurt you or physically hurting you is never okay and never justified. Parental power and the abuse of that power can be a ...

Hi Jay, That does sound really stressful. I won't claim to know your exact experience, but it sounds very similar to what I've experienced in my life as well. I use they/them pronouns and have for almost 3 years! It feels exciting to even say. I feel so proud of myself in the past for being able to ...

Hi Sillyboy_Finn, Our bodies go through natural phases of increased and decreased physical sensation based on many things. Consistent stimulation to any one part of the body, regardless of whether it is a sexual organ or not can change the way that body part feels, and sometimes decrease the sensati...

Hi Maxipad101, What I'm hearing from you is that when you went to your close friends to share an exciting moment with them, you didn't feel the love that you were hoping for, specifically from S, and that this isn't the first time they have been openly unkind or invalidating of your experiences, lea...

Hi Lyle Lanley, I totally get what you're saying about feeling like you've missed out on crucial relationship experiences because of one that was so long during your teen years. I have definitely felt the same way, but the truth is there really is no "should" when it comes to how we learn ...

Hi Blanketghost, Welcome to the boards! I first want to ask about the context of sitting on your partner's lap. It'll help me understand your situation if I can know if sitting with your partner is a physical intimacy thing, or if this position is one you use during sex and would like help making mo...

Hi Cy, Yes, wearing 100% cotton or just more loose-fitting, breathable underwear will help with natural airflow that can minimize the buildup you're noticing. Genitals are self-cleaning organs, so it is already doing a bulk of the work for you in terms of cleaning, but it can also be a good practice...

Hi, friends of Scarleteen! We want YOUR input! We are currently on the search for like-minded resources that focus on queerness, sex education, bodies, and relationships to add to our constellation of knowledge and external resources. We would like to know from YOU what places, websites, organizatio...

Hi Astra, no need for an apology! We are happy to help. What I’m hearing from you is that you still desire vaginal penetration, but haven’t found a way to act on it due to both genital insensitivity as well as some pain when you introduce more than one finger to the vagina. Just want to say right ou...

I'm four years into polyamory and still on my search for good polyamory resources, especially those that go deeper into the psychology of relationship structuring and problem-solving for complex non-monogamous relationships, but I keep running into the same wall. It seems like everyone on a platform...