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by S88
Wed Jul 17, 2024 9:06 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Advice on how to get better
Replies: 24
Views: 7086

Re: Advice on how to get better

Hi Jacob,
Got your email, sent you a reply in case yours also ends up the same.
I also sent one to the art therapist as well. Thank you
by S88
Tue Jul 16, 2024 9:48 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Advice on how to get better
Replies: 24
Views: 7086

Re: Advice on how to get better

Hi Jacob, Yeah it’s a juggle. If I also mention the phrase PIP renewal I’m sure you will have heard the stories enough to know the amazing joy that brings (in case it’s unclear from text amazing joy is very sarcastic). Yes I’m ok for you to send me that email and proceed from there. Out of curiosity...
by S88
Tue Jul 16, 2024 4:51 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Advice on how to get better
Replies: 24
Views: 7086

Re: Advice on how to get better

Hi I’m very sorry, I wasn’t ignoring this. I had another family death to deal with (4 this year) and it was a bit much. Jacob, yes that would be ok, how would it work? Sam, I think I’ll come back to the conversation when things have settled down a bit, it got a bit much with stuff in general. I do a...
by S88
Fri Jun 28, 2024 2:22 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Advice on how to get better
Replies: 24
Views: 7086

Re: Advice on how to get better

Sorry for delayed reply, I had a busy day. In one way that could be why I feel more guilty currently. I already have the association that it’s pleasurable for me to give him oral sex and so feel like when I can’t go through with the inverse I’m denying him a pleasure he likes to do. I think that’s t...
by S88
Wed Jun 26, 2024 9:15 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Advice on how to get better
Replies: 24
Views: 7086

Re: Advice on how to get better

Thank you for answering that question. Yeah, experience in always being overly aware in communication helps. I also used to run a society at university to help those with hidden disabilities so have a fair bit of experience communicating at lots of levels. The tricky bit of communication is neurotyp...
by S88
Tue Jun 25, 2024 1:27 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Advice on how to get better
Replies: 24
Views: 7086

Re: Advice on how to get better

To both Sam and Jacob, Sam, thank you for those links. I’d prefer read them before I say anything about them, I just wanted to acknowledge I have seen them and appreciate you sharing them. Jacob I wasn’t sure the boundaries for discussion hence I said I understood if it needed removing to follow for...
by S88
Mon Jun 24, 2024 8:15 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Advice on how to get better
Replies: 24
Views: 7086

Re: Advice on how to get better

Hi Jacob, Thanks for your message and for asking about uk support sources. I’m aware I’ve come a way from where I was. I know you might need to edit this bit out but I’m going to type it here for you to see anyway. Last may I was planning my death in total honestly. I was stuck living with an abusiv...
by S88
Mon Jun 24, 2024 2:51 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Advice on how to get better
Replies: 24
Views: 7086

Re: Advice on how to get better

Unfortunately yes it’s pretty common to be told no we can’t help you. I did actually try some of the uk based location specific services designed for autism and also got told we can’t help by them too. So if you do hear of any it would be great to know they exist. Thanks for asking. Being able to ge...
by S88
Mon Jun 24, 2024 12:30 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Advice on how to get better
Replies: 24
Views: 7086

Re: Advice on how to get better

Well I’m not 100% sure exactly how relevant all theories I’ve studied are but I’ll mention them so you know what I’m aware of. CBT( cognitive behavioural therapy) definitely doesn’t work on me. While it was administered poorly the methodology didn’t particularly click well with me. While I can play ...
by S88
Mon Jun 24, 2024 7:54 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Advice on how to get better
Replies: 24
Views: 7086

Re: Advice on how to get better

Hi Sam W, Thank you for replying. My partner is aware about my past. In fact he’s one of the reasons I learnt not as bad doesn’t mean it’s acceptable. We have been friends for a very long time before we ended up in a relationship. We used to game together a lot and he used to visit me to cheer me up...
by S88
Sun Jun 23, 2024 8:28 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Advice on how to get better
Replies: 24
Views: 7086

Advice on how to get better

I’m afraid this post is probably a long one so I apologise in advance. I also wanted to clarify a couple of things at the start. Firstly I’m in a safe place now and I have a very loving and supportive partner who is very patient with me. It’s in part to be a better partner to them I feel I’d like to...