So my partner and I got in a fight last night again about the roommate situation. My gf says she resents me for having her room with such terrible people and said I have poor boundaries and make bad choices of friends. She says she also feels like I dismiss her a lot about Lexi, which I don’t. I jus...

To be honest, I don't feel a lot of reciprocity. The most reciprocity she gives is inviting me to hang outs with her, but sometimes I feel like it's because she wants a ride for them. I used to feel more reciprocity in the beginning of our friendship. But now she's just kind of threw me to the side....

I do feel like Lexi is self-centered and messy. But I do enjoy spending time with her. Just limited time because it can drain me due to her taking too much space with me constantly having to assert myself. I'm confused about whether my relationship with Lexi is reciprocal because I don't know whethe...

I don't necessarily feel taken advantage of when she asks for rides, but I do feel burnt out because I have to drive more than I usually do in order to accommodate her which costs me time and money. And she kind of just expects it from me, so it makes me feel obligated to give it to her when I don't...

So my girlfriend now doesn’t like Lexi. She thinks Lexi is taking advantage of me and using me. The reason she thinks is this is because I have a car and Lexi expects me to drive her around everywhere. All of her other friends also have cars too and she expects the same. She doesn’t have a car and c...

That’s a good idea. What other accommodations are there to help her?

I have a friend who I love but who has extreme hygiene issues, specifically concerning their poop. She tells me she has diarrhea problems and has been having these issues for a long time so she’s going to see a doctor soon about it. But I’m concerned her issue is worse because she can’t seem to hold...

Yea that makes total sense. Do you have some advice on how I can move on from such a toxic friendship? I’m feeling like pretty depressed about everything that happened and would like to find some healthy ways to cope.

I think we’ll definitely be making our own friends and community. I really don’t want to associate myself with them anymore considering abusive and controlling they’re behaving. I’ve already made new friends at work and my girlfriend is making friends at the campus organizations she’s a part of. And...

Honestly, I’m now completely okay with not being friends with Haris. The management gave them until this Sunday to move out and Haris became furious. Haris has now been spreading rumors and lies in the community about me, my best friend, and gf. They got us removed from a friend group and are now te...

So my partner is getting more and more anxious rooming with Haris. The management hasn't moved them out and my gf is really upset. The other roommates also aren't really pressuring management. And now my gf says she wants me to stop talking to Haris altogether because she feels Haris is abusing her ...

Most definitely. They just talked to the manager of the apartment and they said they’re going to try their best to get Haris removed.

They don’t feel any safer unfortunately. They’re currently talking to the apartment right now. The apartment they live in is student apartments, but it’s not official university housing. They’re graduate students and had to live off campus because they had no space on campus to house them. I’m not q...

The problem is they’ve tried many times, and each time it gets worse and worse. Yesterday happened because my gf tried to talk to Haris about their problematic behavior. They’re genuinely scared to talk to Haris now.

We’re going to create a safety plan for both of them in case things escalate again. Do you have any resources for that? Also, I honestly have a gut feeling Haris is emotionally abusing my gf and best friend. After talking to Lexi, and also trying to piece things together, it seems like Harris has be...

I really hope so. If it’s not possible, I’m honestly not sure what’s going to happen. I’m very worried.

Lexi, my gf, and the other roommate are going to talk to the office of the student apartments to see if they can get Haris removed from the apartment because they feel unsafe after the huge argument that happened last night. I honestly don’t know if they have a mediator or someone who can intervene ...

So things took a drastic turn today. It turns out my partner does really like one of my friends, let’s call her Lexi. It’s just she was frustrated with a few things but it got cleared up. Things became extremely heated between my other friend (Haris), her, and Lexi. Apparently Harris has been doing ...

I’ve been in a long distance relationship with my partner for almost two years. She finally moved to my city and is currently rooming with my friends to save money, but she does not like them. I really thought they would love each other and get along, but it’s the total opposite. She says they’re an...