Thank you! I think this has really helped me understand where exactly my hesitance and tendency to back up comes from! If I hadn't talked about it, I definitely wouldn't have realized I was subconsciously stopping myself because of previous uncomfy experiences with arousal. Going to focus on what I'...

This isn't advice, but here's a better reaction from me, since you deserve to have someone be excited about your sexuality. Fuck yeah, you're autosexual! And I don't think it's narcisstic. While I don't identify as autosexual, I get a deep rush of love and attraction when I look at myself in the mir...

I'm asexual, and I think you could really benefit from reading Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex by Angela Chen. Not because you're asexual, but the way you describe all the moving parts of your desire, your arousal, and your fantasies? This book is ALL about...

Like the others said, there's nothing wrong with you for struggling to masturbate. But it really sounds like that for you, the ability to masturbate is tied up with so many anxiety-inducing ideas of normalcy and keeping up. Sexual pleasure is difficult! But in your post, you don't talk much about yo...

hey there! It sounds to me like you're drawing from past experiences of pain and discomfort during masturbation as a measure of how things might feel now. Am I catching on to that correctly? I want to acknowledge that this is normal and a part of learning more about ourselves. I think it might be h...

Digging through my brain, I think I'm afraid of it hurting? As an asexual, I've always had a complicated relationship with arousal, because when I got aroused, my vagina felt really sharp and slightly painful and I'd ignore it happening while continuing to read the erotic fanfic. I want to be clear,...

I'm 19F and in the recent weeks, I've been shocked by how masturbating is giving me pretty intense sensations for once. I use a character.ai bot to create erotic material for my fantasies, which is likely the contributing factor to me feeling really good, even when I'm just using my fingers. Usually...