I have actually never thought about it that way! I like that. I’ll do my best to remember that when I do.
Thank you!!

So I have talked to my therapist about it and the one thing she mentioned (one of many) was that even though there are times I feel undeserving, whenever I come into situations where my mental health is threatened, I take a step back. She says unconsciously I care about myself enough for that. A for...

I have good friends that really help me in that aspect. I do go to therapy and it is a road ahead of me but it’s slowly unlearning behaviors. That said, I still struggle but remind myself that I am also deserving of love, whether romantic or platonic. And you’re right, we’re all still growing, I’m o...

Hi KierC! I’m pretty observant when in person so I’m thinking I can prepare myself mentally for whatever response. And for the latter, I guess my parents are to blame a little bit, they would often say I don’t know how to love, even familial. They would say that’s the reason I would lose friends con...

Thanks for the response Latha! I think I’m scared of the possibility of my feelings being reciprocated mostly cause I don’t think I deserve it? And I don’t mean specifically from him but from anyone. I like liking people but the moment they confess to me, I get confused and deny it. I’ve thought abo...

I am pretty sure what I feel for my friend is romantic and I want to confess to get it over with but I’m scared. He is currently in med school so he doesn’t have a lot of time to talk or chat since he’s very focused on his studies. I’m also pretty sure he knows I like him but I also don’t want to “o...

Thank you Jacob!
You’re right, in the end, it’s my friendships. It’s a tough pill to swallow so accept changes especially when you thought you’d be friends for life but c’est la vie.
I appreciate your words! Thank you!

Yeah, C is incredibly supportive especially after realizing what kind of person he is. We do hangouts every week and it’s just so peaceful with the two of us. I guess I wish things can be the same but such is life. I always try and rationalize that I should be the bigger person and just put up with ...

It is difficult to maintain these friendships, it takes time and effort and obviously as we grow older, we have to accept that there is so much out of our control. One thing that seems to bother me though is the effort put in. I already don’t feel as close to (A) or the other members of the group be...

Thank you for responding Latha! So for the first part, yes. He actively attends events with the group. After I cut him off, our mutual, (A), had her birthday party and I attended knowing he was going to be there. I thought I would be okay but the night ended with me having a panic attack. Since then...

I have this friend group where we’ve been friends since Covid (I felt our relationship was strengthened during it) so about a year ago, my friend (A) introduced a high school friend of hers, (B) to our group and he was difficult to get along with, I felt like I hard arguments every time with him and...

Thank you so much! I think this definitely gives me a much better idea of what I want.

Thank you for responding Latha! I’d like to think in an ideal relationship, I would like just respecting my boundaries as it has been a constant in past relationships where they don’t. And I did read up on queerplatonic relationships and I feel seen with it. There’s still a lot I’m trying to underst...

I read over the first link you provided and that was really helpful! Personally, I don’t know what I would want in a relationship, I assume maybe something like respect and care but not sure. Most people around me talk about sex, talk about marriage and other life events and I honestly don’t want th...

Hi Ro S! Thanks for providing me those resources, I will definitely give them a read. I guess I would like advice on how to go about this understanding. And yes! The people I’ve dated don’t really posses the same “ideals” for a lack Of a better term to what I want and it always ends up in a break up...

I get confused with myself sometimes in which I think I am aromantic. I’ve dated people in the past but nothing ever really worked out. Every time I’ve had anyone confess their feelings to me, I’ve had a visceral reaction in which I cry and have to be left alone for a min. I’ve confessed to people a...