Hi Sam, thanks for reply...not sure if others also read this thread but my friend linked me to a really sweet piece about the pace of queer time, and how it is different to straight time. It made me feel better about how I'm doing and maybe someone else may find it useful too :) http://www.autostrad...

Yes, you're right in saying that my friends' life events are not a comment on how I am doing. I guess I feel in myself that I could be further along in the timeline. But to be fair, many of my queer friends are still single and none of them have children yet. I think it feels more urgent as my mum h...

Hi Sam W, Thanks for your reply :) Maybe this sounds really bad? I find both of those situations hard at times. Similar feelings around attending weddings and baby showers too. I know there's fear, insecurity and envy there. I guess I have to keep working in therapy until I feel ready to date one da...

Hi Carmen :) My parents are dismissive during these types of conversations or they use emotional blackmail tactics like playing my mum's chronic illness against me :( It makes me really sad sometimes and after we talk I have to walk away and cry. Its good I have other people in my life who are like ...

Hi Stephanie, thanks for your reply :) Yes, you're right, I do have a little bit of time. I feel overwhelmed when I consider all the options like egg freezing, sperm donors, adoption and fostering, and dating people who already have kids. It's very hard with my parents. I basically told them that if...

Eek, it has been a few years since I have asked for advice on this website! This has been an issue close to my heart as a number of my friends currently are pregnant or have young kids. I also come across many pregnant ladies through my work. Part of me feels excited and happy for them, and loves ba...

Hi again Moonstone7, So you asked me how things turned out in the end. Basically over a number of years, my parents gradually came to understand that I wasn't ready to get married and that it was really stressful for me when they kept pressuring me to meet men. I think they're slowly starting to lov...

Hi MoonStone7 :) Heather asked me to come and talk with you, and perhaps share my own experiences. I was a Scarleteen user a few years ago- I was in my early twenties and my parents were starting to arrange dates for me with guys they had chosen. I was also coming to terms with my identity as a quee...