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- Tue Dec 01, 2015 5:10 pm
- Forum: Et Cetera
- Topic: Opportunities in London?
- Replies: 6
- Views: 4748
Re: Opportunities in London?
yeah, fair enough. i also scheduled an appointment with my school's career services office, so hopefully they can help, too. thanks for the links, Heather!
- Sun Nov 29, 2015 4:45 pm
- Forum: Et Cetera
- Topic: Opportunities in London?
- Replies: 6
- Views: 4748
Opportunities in London?
i know this is totally random, but i'm basically asking around everywhere to hear from as many folks as possible. and considering there are lots of cool folks here from all over, i figured it couldn't hurt to ask here! :) long story short, i'm graduating college in May (only one more semester, yay! ...
- Sun Nov 29, 2015 4:13 pm
- Forum: Bodies
- Topic: embarrassing question...
- Replies: 34
- Views: 11506
Re: embarrassing question...
Random Update: so yeah, i don't know what's been going on with the universe lately, but: did you recently happen to write a letter of recommendation about me to some queer folks in my city or something? lol :P if so, thanks so much! haha :D basically, since we last talked my dating life has gotten ...
- Fri Nov 20, 2015 5:39 pm
- Forum: Bodies
- Topic: embarrassing question...
- Replies: 34
- Views: 11506
Re: embarrassing question...
ah yes, I just read it earlier today-- it definitely has some good info in it, so thanks for pointing me that way!
- Thu Nov 19, 2015 7:45 am
- Forum: Bodies
- Topic: embarrassing question...
- Replies: 34
- Views: 11506
Re: embarrassing question...
starting with the first half of your post: yeah, that all makes sense actually, and I could see how you got to reclaiming your sexuality via those points you brought up. and I also think it's really brave of you to have gone after what you wanted despite all those things you mentioned, so I just wan...
- Wed Nov 18, 2015 1:51 pm
- Forum: Bodies
- Topic: embarrassing question...
- Replies: 34
- Views: 11506
Re: embarrassing question...
no, that wasn't too rambly, don't worry about it! thanks :) so like, as far as making queer spaces not feel "alternative" like.... i'm not gonna lie, i know i seem to always talk about this, but race tends to play a part in how comfortable i'm gonna feel in queer spaces. so, if i'm in a sp...
- Wed Nov 18, 2015 10:01 am
- Forum: Bodies
- Topic: embarrassing question...
- Replies: 34
- Views: 11506
Re: embarrassing question...
hey Heather! thanks, i hope for more of the good stuff, too
yeah, sure, if you wanna give any input from that perspective i think that'd be pretty helpful, too. thanks, i appreciate you taking the time to do that!
yeah, sure, if you wanna give any input from that perspective i think that'd be pretty helpful, too. thanks, i appreciate you taking the time to do that!
- Mon Nov 16, 2015 4:33 pm
- Forum: Bodies
- Topic: embarrassing question...
- Replies: 34
- Views: 11506
Re: embarrassing question...
well, anywho, thanks for taking the time to answer my rambling questions and whatnot, Heather. I really appreciate it!
- Mon Nov 16, 2015 4:16 pm
- Forum: Bodies
- Topic: embarrassing question...
- Replies: 34
- Views: 11506
Re: embarrassing question...
oh trust me, i've been trying for a very long time to quiet that inner judge, but they're a persistent pain in my butt. :( and (if you can believe it) even though it's gotten a lot less judge-y about a lot of things, it's continuing to be pretty obnoxious about this part of my life, so... idk, maybe...
- Mon Nov 16, 2015 3:48 pm
- Forum: Bodies
- Topic: embarrassing question...
- Replies: 34
- Views: 11506
Re: embarrassing question...
thanks Heather, that's so nice of you to say, especially considering how bold you are :) I really liked what you said about bringing my writer-self more to my personal-self, but i'm not sure if I can do that, honestly. 'cause when it comes to my writing and my activism, i feel like i'm doing those t...
- Sun Nov 15, 2015 10:28 am
- Forum: Bodies
- Topic: embarrassing question...
- Replies: 34
- Views: 11506
Re: embarrassing question...
I've definitely tried counseling, and I'm currently trying to find a new counselor since I haven't been to therapy in a long time (and it's been really hard finding a counselor I'm compatible with), and it helped me become more confident in being more active in pursuing friendships, but I clearly st...
- Sun Nov 15, 2015 9:49 am
- Forum: Bodies
- Topic: embarrassing question...
- Replies: 34
- Views: 11506
Re: embarrassing question...
to answer your question at the top: yeah, that sounds about right. I mean you're totally right that it's flawed that there's this idea of only one specific way to "look queer" (and it's a rant I go on pretty regularly considering how white-washed that image is anyway), but idk. I'm way too...
- Sun Nov 15, 2015 9:24 am
- Forum: Bodies
- Topic: embarrassing question...
- Replies: 34
- Views: 11506
Re: embarrassing question...
yeah true, there are definitely a lot of those negative messages out there, which intellectually makes total sense but tell that to my feelings. lol hmm, well.... I guess these feelings in part come from those messages, but it's also partly due to the fact that like being sexual with someone else do...
- Sun Nov 15, 2015 8:51 am
- Forum: Bodies
- Topic: embarrassing question...
- Replies: 34
- Views: 11506
embarrassing question...
oh jeez, I don't even know how to broach this in a non-embarrassing way, but here goes... :oops: basically, even though masturbation physically feels good for me, mentally/emotionally it really hasn't been feeling great lately. like, I've recently stopped entirely because it makes me feel, I guess.....
- Wed Oct 07, 2015 7:46 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: This might be a really ridiculous question to ask, but...
- Replies: 16
- Views: 5590
Re: This might be a really ridiculous question to ask, but..
aww, thanks Heather! that's really sweet of you to say about me/my mind mm, I wish I could just easily ditch those things, but it's hard sometimes. maybe I'll get better at it in time, who knows
- Wed Oct 07, 2015 7:06 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: This might be a really ridiculous question to ask, but...
- Replies: 16
- Views: 5590
Re: This might be a really ridiculous question to ask, but..
hey Heather! yup, I always do overthink things, so not surprising I'd do this here either. lol thanks
- Wed Oct 07, 2015 6:28 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: This might be a really ridiculous question to ask, but...
- Replies: 16
- Views: 5590
Re: This might be a really ridiculous question to ask, but..
EDIT: made some edits in the last paragraph to make my thoughts a bit clearer.
- Wed Oct 07, 2015 6:18 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: This might be a really ridiculous question to ask, but...
- Replies: 16
- Views: 5590
Re: This might be a really ridiculous question to ask, but..
So, that'd feel comfortable for you because you feel confident about the likelihood of finding a duet partner and it going well for the both of you? yup, basically! Would it make a difference if there was a piece that used a really obscure other instrument, or that was a really obscure style that n...
- Wed Oct 07, 2015 5:28 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: This might be a really ridiculous question to ask, but...
- Replies: 16
- Views: 5590
Re: This might be a really ridiculous question to ask, but..
oh man, Redskies, you shouldn't have brought the sheet music analogy into this, 'cause now you've really got me thinking-- as is apparent in my username. haha :P i guess for me as a musician with the sheet music example it feels different, 'cause: 1. i've played many, many duets/group pieces with pe...
- Wed Oct 07, 2015 5:07 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: This might be a really ridiculous question to ask, but...
- Replies: 16
- Views: 5590
Re: This might be a really ridiculous question to ask, but..
hmm, maybe I'm just overthinking all this and this shows I shouldn't do it. okay, nevermind anything I asked then, thanks anyway. lol
- Wed Oct 07, 2015 4:55 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: This might be a really ridiculous question to ask, but...
- Replies: 16
- Views: 5590
Re: This might be a really ridiculous question to ask, but..
mm, I guess I kinda get what you're saying. Like, I get choosing not to participate in sexual things with someone (like I choose not to take up those creepy old men on their "offers"/displays of power and entitlement to try and make me feel uncomfortable), but I guess I'm kinda confused by...
- Wed Oct 07, 2015 4:37 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: This might be a really ridiculous question to ask, but...
- Replies: 16
- Views: 5590
Re: This might be a really ridiculous question to ask, but..
Hey Snorkmaiden and Redskies, thanks for your non-judgmental responses! I really appreciate it. :) I see what you're saying Snorkmaiden, but I guess I was wondering if you could clarify this part of your list here for me where you said, "that it may help you feel that sex is something you have ...
- Tue Oct 06, 2015 7:34 pm
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: This might be a really ridiculous question to ask, but...
- Replies: 16
- Views: 5590
This might be a really ridiculous question to ask, but...
I saw the "What's in Your Safer Sex Kit?" thread and I didn't want to derail the conversation with a question over there, so I figure I'd post my question related to the topic here: does it seem like it would make sense to prepare a safer sex kit even if I'm currently not/have never been s...
- Tue Sep 22, 2015 9:25 am
- Forum: Et Cetera
- Topic: New (School) Year's Resolutions?
- Replies: 3
- Views: 2848
Re: New (School) Year's Resolutions?
great topic, Mo! I'd say one of my resolutions is to get more into fitness-- I'm trying to start weightlifting once I get over this flu-thing :( and I also really wanna get into kickboxing since I used to do karate for a while and I really miss combat-type stuff. also, i'm trying to find a new couns...
- Sun Sep 20, 2015 7:16 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: How to deal?
- Replies: 3
- Views: 2299
Re: How to deal?
These were really insightful and helpful answers. Thanks so much for writing back, Mo and Redskies! Y'all gave me a lot to think about regarding forgiveness and what that means.