Hi Celeste, First, I want to emphasize to you that there really is no "normal." There is no normal way to have sex, no normal way to be in love, no normal way to be in a relationship, and let alone no normal way to be a woman, or just a person! But gosh it is hard to fully accept this when...

Hi moonlight, I love all these thoughts you've just expressed. There really is no one way a relationship "should" look. Rather, just like you said, relationships are a byproduct of the people and the circumstances involved. A relationship can involve looking towards the future, or, as Sam ...

Hi bb2509, Welcome to Scarleteen! There is no answer we can give you as to why this is happening - your doctor is going to be the rest resource for that. However, I can assure you that fluctuation in period flow, spotting, and cramping is totally normal and something the majority of people with vagi...

Hi yay.hamlett, Welcome to Scarleteen! This is a really difficult situation to be in. I first want to commend you on understanding where you stand and knowing what you are and are not comfortable with in a relationship. However, I'd urge you to really fight the feeling of guilt. We do not choose who...

What do you think is causing it to still itch at your mind? (Are you noticing any physical/verbal cues from your partner that insinuate that it is bothering him? Or, on the other hand, are there any reasons that might be causing you to be thinking of yourself as a burden even if you know it is not t...

I want to tackle this idea of being jealous of her - because I think it is never as simple as that. Jealousy is like a signal that something is off, that something is making you uncomfortable or not completely safe in your relationship. Maybe it is a lack of trust, an insecurity, a need or want that...

Hi kindascared, It sounds like you are still dealing with uncertainty or jealousy regarding the relationship. Have you thought about any potential ways that this jealousy could be something else (manifesting itself into the feelings of jealousy, like Karyn explained)? And have you thought about any ...

Hi Lucli, As Karyn said, you want to wait a minimum of 14 days since sexual contact - and usually one can be fairly sure those results are accurate. However, to verify the results, if that is something you want to do, you can take another test the following week if your period has still not come. An...

Are there strategies or self-care mechanisms you have found that work for you? In regards to reminding to reaffirm yourself, give yourself love, and reflect - I think journaling is always an amazing option. Just sitting down and spending even just ten minutes a day writing - whether about your day, ...

Hi Arasia, Have you ever tried to have a conversation with your boyfriend about these kind of thoughts regarding porn? I think giving him some history and background on why porn makes you feel so uncomfortable could help him understand - even if it does feel like a ramble to you. I find it is always...

Hi Athrun,

There really are not any specific reasons that someone is not supposed to have sex or masturbate unless they don't want to or consent is not given. It is a decision that is completely up to you (and your partner if they are involved).

Hello, I am glad you reached out to us - those are all scary feelings to have. The internet is an endless, and often dark, pit hole when it comes to trying to self-diagnose anything. But we can help talk through what is going on and different ways you may be able to reach out for support. I also wan...

Hi BisexualFish, I am so sorry to hear your parents are trying to tell you what you are or are not - and that is completely not okay. I am also sorry they are not listening to you and are being hypocritical in the open-mindedness they claim to have. I want to check in about: 1) taking care of yourse...

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Hi lucli, I'm glad that first article was useful for you. In seeking out a therapist, do you think you would prefer to figure out a way to approach the subject with your mom (i.e. trying to explain to her that seeing a therapist doesn't mean someone is not happy, is unhealthy, is not grateful, etc. ...

You are the person that knows your body and your periods best - we can't make that call for you.

Hi Star19,

Yes, emergency contraception should have the same effectiveness no matter where one is in their cycle (as it delays or inhibits ovulation).
(more info here: Emergency Contraception)

Hi Yoda90, Ugh! It is so frustrating how difficult people can make our efforts to take care of ourselves... I am sorry you had such a bad experience with the doctor :( Are there any other resources you have in mind as of now? Maybe you could check back in with the lady you mentioned in your first po...

Hi kat_lear, One of the things I find makes starting hard conversations easiest (and the article onionpie sent talks about this too) is "I statements." - finding a moment that feels comfortable for you (eating, driving, watching tv, beginning to kiss, etc.), and expressing your own feeling...

Hi Choka,
I am so glad that this website and community have been able to support and help you When you say you need to act now, what actions do you want to take (or already have taken)?
And let us know if there are any other aspects of this situation that you want to talk out.

Hi Karebearr, I am so sorry this happened to you. First of all I want to make sure you know that his behavior was completely unacceptable and a form of sexual assault. Second, that is was in absolutely no way your fault. Do you have any friends or family you have been able to talk to about this? And...

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Hi 8888, I am so sorry you have gone and are going through this. When you say you worry if you are still being abused, what do you mean? What makes you unsure (or sure)? I read in some of your previous posts that you have a doctor you see and are on medication, have you talked to your doctor about t...

Hi 8888, There really is no how-to guide for having sex - it is different for everyone! (and by the way, there is never any stupid sex question! I'm glad you asked :) ) Here is a good reading to get you started, What's Sex? Also yes we happen to have a great recommendation for a sex ed book :) http:...

Yes I totally agree. I was just reading an article about the plethora of made up problems that consumerism creates in order to sell us more products. The example they used was underwear lines - who decided that underwear lines were a problem?? Whoever did sure created a HUGE market for new kinds of ...