I want to add that, as someone who grew up with messed up parental relationships, I've managed to have a very fulfilling marriage with a kinky partner for more than a decade. It is entirely possible to have healthy boundaries in your kinky life even if you have not been able to maintain them in your...

So I'm one of those people in Heather's social orbit who can speak from experience on some of these things. I am a cis man, I identify as het, I'm over forty and married, and while in practice as a kinkster I switch, I identify as a bottom with submissive traits and when I'm submissive that's a deep...