And okay! One last question then before I start filling you in on some options and things to think about (and maybe also talk about with your partner): in that time in between, and since, what would you say you've done for yourself or with the help of any professionals when it came to healing? I'd ...

To do that, what I'd first need to know is what, if anything, you've done already. It'd also be helpful to know if, however awesome your current partner may be, you still feel any of that same obligation to do sexual things (from your first post, it sounds like you might still, as you seem express ...

I think what sounds more likely than needing a toy -- not to say it's not fine to get and try toys for any reason you want, mind! -- is that you are NOT past this. What you are describing here -- doing things you didn't want to sexually because you didn't feel you were allowed to say no -- almost a...

..or with that previous partner? I ask because it sounds like your change in how genital, sexual touch feels this started either during or right after you were with that guy. Can I also ask if this is ONLY genital? In other words, do you experience touch that gives you physical and emotional pleasu...

Hi tlcat, That sounds like a stressful and frustrating situation. One thing to try, if you haven't already, is to experiment with different motions, sensations, and positions, or even bring in something like a sex toy to introduce new and varied feelings. Also, to clarify, is it a painful sensation...

Hi, so I'm new here because I haven't found any answers to my question anywhere at all. The thing is, I haven't been able to feel anything sexually at all in over a year. I used to be able to touch myself and get a very pleasurable feeling and orgasm. But, after I dated a guy two years ago, my abili...