So I can't find a way to reply to your message, but in response to it I'd like to stick with this account. I do see general therapists, I've seen a few different ones over the years and they help me with unrelated issues although I've spoken to them about these problems and they haven't been much he...

Well, I've masturbated and focused on my breathing only instead of other thoughts, but then I need to imagine erotic scenarios in order to get turned on. Like I said in a previous post I do have sex toys, including a very powerful wand vibrator and dildos and butt plugs and things. Casual one time p...

So when I'm masturbating, what should I think about to stimulate myself if I shouldn't use fantasy? Do I think about nothing at all when touching myself? I'm not capable of getting anything other than a casual one-time partner, so it's just me. How do I build a sexual life for myself, alone, that do...

I'm not sure how to base my sexual life just on myself, I'm not stimulated by thoughts of myself, so I have to seek external sources of sexual stimulation. For me that is fantasies, porn and so on. As for a partner, I occasionally have casual sex with people from online but that's never been very st...

How do you find new things?

What do you mean by having a sexual life based on reality? As in amateur porn?

Hmm, well I've tried different sex toys and ways of stimulating myself and techniques, and I've explored different kinds of porn and fantasies, I don't know what else to do, is there even anything else to do?

I see, thanks.

The exact same things turn me on, but physically my reactions are nowhere near as strong as they were, one of the physical reactions being my vagina not being anywhere near as lubricated/swollen as it would once get. Oh well.

When I was younger I used to get a lot more wet and turned on, but now that I'm in my early twenties I can't get as wet. I used to be able to get turned on just by reading erotic things or seeing people kissing or watching porn. I quit porn a couple of years ago but it hasn't helped. Is it just a no...