Hi there cityofthedead, These are some interesting points that you brought up, and I'd like to unpack some of them with you a little. So one of the first things that you mentioned was that "women have so many rights over their minds and bodies", said in contrast with the idea that they wer...

We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who have not been involved in pregnancy. Please do not post this kind of question. If you are seeing this text, and your thread is locked, it is because you have posted this kind of...

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Hi I'm back! So those changes that I mentioned get detailed in the With Pleasure article, but basically when someone with a vulva gets aroused, a lot of blood flow is directed towards the labia, clitoris, other parts of the vulva, which makes them swell up and become super sensitive, and, as you kno...

Hi there capablehippie, Unfortunately, what you're describing is an experience that a lot of folks write in about, especially when they're having penetrative sex for the first time. That's because the vulva and the vagina have to go through some physical changes in order for penetrative sex to be a)...

Hi Charliex, We try to maintain across the site that manual sex is not considered to be a risk for pregnancy. Heather has already shared with you the main resource that we direct folks to when they have questions about the relative risk of certain activities: Can I Get Pregnant Or Get Or Pass On An ...

Hi there TooWorry, You should check in with your provider to make sure that the dosage you're using will be effective as contraception, but yes, that's absolutely right. In most cases, that's all birth control is - hormones that prevent an egg from being released in the first place. And when there's...

Hi there SuzE,

There aren't any barrier methods that will completely cover the genital area and protect against HPV transmission, but you can read about how to reduce your risk of contracting HPV over at HPV & Herpes: Why Safer Sex Isn't Always Enough.

We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual pregnancy. Please do not post this kind of question. If you are seeing this text, and your thread is loc...

We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual pregnancy. Please do not post this kind of question. If you are seeing this text, and your thread is loc...

Hi Jackson17, As Heather said the last time that you posted questions about survival of sperm cells and theoretical risk of pregnancy, we've set a limit about answering questions like this, because they contribute to patterns of anxiety rather than making them better. Aside from saying that our reso...

Hi there rhnoo, Occasional spotting during your cycles is usually nothing to be concerned about - as long as you aren't experiencing other symptoms like pain or lots of bright red blood. You can read more about what's normal and not normal during menstrual cycles over at On the Rag: A Guide to Menst...

Hi there LesbianPanic, and welcome to Scarleteen! I'm glad you feel that your girlfriend would be respectful to you, but I have to ask - are you interested in becoming sexually active? Just because she has had multiple sexual partners before doesn't mean that you need to start doing something that y...

Hi there ballerina, First of all, it's awesome that you and your brother are close to each other and that he feels like he can confide in you. You did the right thing in terms of reassuring him that masturbation is perfectly normal and nothing to be ashamed of - that's the exact same thing that we w...

Hi there anixt, and welcome to Scarleteen! You're right in that birth control (especially hormonal types) can change the consistency of discharge, which will also vary naturally at different points in the menstrual cycle. Most of these changes are nothing to be concerned about, except if they were t...

Red, I'm so sorry that this happened to you, and that things feel so difficult right now. What your mom did was not right - when you told her about what your brother had done, you should have been met with support and caring, not being chastised or being forced to continue to live with someone deter...

Hi there Hannah, What's more likely is that your cycle was disrupted because of the sudden influx of hormones from the implant. It will probably take a little bit (possibly a few months!) for your cycles to restabilize (or even disappear!), although it is advertised as fully effective just 5 days af...

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Hi there salasss, Technically, it is possible to have an involuntary orgasm (when you're not necessarily aroused and/or wanting to), but if I understand your question correctly, it seems like the situation that you're more concerned about is one in which you aren't feeling aroused or 'into it', but ...

Hi there clvmsy, The relative effectiveness of the pill when first starting it varies a little from person to person (and from pill to pill), but it's usually said to reach full effectiveness at around 7 days of consistent use (more on that here: Birth Control Bingo: The Pill ). However, we usually ...

Hi there salasss, and welcome to Scarleteen! As you may have read in our message board guidelines when you were registering, we do have a fairly strict Pregnancy Fear and Anxiety policy , specifically because we get a lot of message board users that aren't pregnant, couldn't have gotten pregnant, an...

Hi Reader, I'm jumping back in here with a few thoughts! I'm glad to hear that they're starting up a GSA at your school. It may take a little bit (a few weekly meetings, etc) for it to really be established and for folks to regularly attend. Assuming that that goes well, what aspects of the prospect...

Good! I'm glad to hear that you were able to check in with her, and that a provider has your situation in mind. I think it's important for you to also keep in mind that the possibility of this being a symptom of pregnancy is something that she would think about, because she's trained to think about ...

Hi CornSurprise, Thanks for your patience and for your post! There were a couple of thoughts that I had that I wanted to reflect back to you: First of all - have you talked to your boyfriend about this at all? Has he said anything about virginity (either his, his ex's, or yours) that contributed to ...