Thanks for all the ideas guys! Although we did solve the problem already. her grandfather talked with her dad and so he agreed to stop and promised he will never spank or embarrass her again, he was worried about her future and so wanted her to take this more serious. But thankfully he stopped and I...

I don't think you can stop her Dad, unfortunately. I think the best you can do is support her, help her with her grades and do what you can to identify and connect her with people who likely CAN have that kind of power and influence, like her grandfather. I know that's obviously not what you want, ...

Well, just FYI, someone who abuses anyone and chooses to humiliate them on purpose IS an angry person, nut perhaps what you're saying is that while he takes that out on your girlfriend (and maybe others in the family) you do not feel he'd take it out on you. But it does also sound like, by making y...

I understand, and again, I'm so glad that she has you in her life, since it's very clear you care deeply for her. I think the first question is a bit easier to tackle than the second: does it sounds doable to you, if and when her grades come in (or she does anything else that her father feels justi...

I'm so sorry to hear that this is happening in your girlfriend's family, but I am very happy to hear that it sounds like, in you, she has someone who is very supportive of her and cares for her deeply, someone who finds this kind of abuse her father is engaging in -- and trying to even get you to d...

So I have a question about spanking but to fully understand it you have to hear the story first. Yesterday was report card day, I am a 15 years old boy and I learn in 9th class as well as my girlfried, I always get good grades on my report card, but unfortunately my girlfriend doesn't. But don't get...