why does society generally seem to view female masturbation as alluring and sensual while male masturbation is seen as passionless and gross? is this an example of heteronormativity, sexism, or is there something else I'm missing/a mix of various things?

well it's more a matter of whether you want it. did he ask first?

yes, and I admit I didn't really have anything specific in mind with my original post. Most of the stuff you mentioned I'd already heard here and elsewhere and understood, but I think I still subconsciously had this idea you talk about of it being a "very big deal" I didn't really need any...

or maybe I'm rambling on about nothing

hmmm, I don't have much experience with it personally that's motivating me, but like ways to help, information as a loved one of someone with a vagina going through a period. I know that you can't say "what to do", and what I'm asking for really is like a "possible things to do for SO...

I don't really know, and no, no one in particular, It was just sort of random curiosity

I don't know if this is in the right part of the boards. I don't even know if I should or can be asking this, but can you guys possibly consider articles, series etc on periods from a guy's perspective? like, I understand that the majority if not all of things relating to menstruation are only regar...

so yeah in the end you're probably right that its best if i just talk to him

sorry if I'm rambling, contradictory, making this harder for myself etc.

and I've already essentially told him that I don't expect it to last forever, but he's made it clear he has romantic feelings for me, as well as the more general kind of love expressed in the piece you pointed me to, so as I've said before even though i know this isn't binding i subconsciously feel ...

since I've had my fair share of relationships that fell apart because of impossible requests like these, proclamations of unconditional permanent love and the like

thank you, this article helped a lot, and I think what I'm most motivated by here is the fear that I'll somehow let him down, promise more than I can give, and grow more attachment and less love as the article puts it

I'm bi and for the longest time have thought myself to be strictly hetero romantic. I recently went into a relationship with a guy, and I'm convinced he loves me, but I'm not so sure If how I feel about him is "true love" or simply friendship with the added bonus of intimacy and sexuality,...

why do I see so few articles on here about solo prostate play? I know the majority of it has already been covered, but I still feel as though there's an opportunity to educate and help more guys (and possibly trans girls) than you are now. I don't know if this is even in the right place, I'm still f...

lately, to play out my kinky desires I've been almost ejaculating but stopping before i can, seeing how long i can last, does this have any possible negative implications?

that you'll just run out of semen one day. another that at least sounds plausible on the outset is that if you don't use both hands one arm will be super ripped and the other will be weak and lanky

I didn't really have a specific question i mind, come to think of it I really was just sort of posting this as a way to think through it myself rather than to receive advice, sorry for wasting your time

sorry, I meant more specifically the articles with advice regarding intimacy, communication with partners/readiness, and the like

I've learned that I'm attracted to both boys and girls, and not necessarily in the same way or the same amount, and that my anus isn't an off-limits gross zone

I love this site and have read many of your articles on communication and other things, and they seem to have the right idea, but how would all this apply to a long distance relationship with a low likelihood of either partner meeting the other physically?

this is just a general question, do kinks always have a specific "reason?" am I truly into a kink if its main appeal to me is just the taboo factor rather than anything about the kink itself? is this invalidating those who "legitimately" enjoy these things?

I don't really consider myself to have much of one. I just sort of told my close friends casually to positive reactions, and don't feel the need to tell my parents since I know they wouldn't care either way

my "sexy" tends to be similar to the last part of kittens' post, but it also includes traditionally "Feminine" things like panties, as for dances and the like I just can't do it, no sense of rhythm, unless booty-shaking in private counts. also when my partner compliments a specif...

it hasn't really changed for me much, I've always been a cis male, probably always will be, but lately I've become more accepting of forms of expression outside what society deems to be more masculine, yet nothing that id consider girly, just different ways of expressing my male-ness

this is nothing new though, unisex clothing has always existed its just never been pushed like gendered clothing has