ok so, this whole thread came about from young me confusing the fact that mainstream porn intended for straight men naturally would not focus on male masturbation in the same way as with women, with some kind of general indication about culture, combined with general stigma about masturbation going ...

I am far from properly educated on the subject, but if the person is transfem it's more than likely that it was a targeted smear campaign from a very small group who persistently do things like this. it's a fairly well-known phenomenon on tumblr to my knowledge

not so much regret as embarrassment... not fully committed to ditching the handle yet

nope, that link is dead now too

the above reply is basically just me channeling a mini panic attack into a post, so some of it is real some of it is complete nonsense. also only just now realizing I only partly responded to the actual question. I think part of it was spurred on by taking a lot of classes in which media analysis wa...

super late reply and in some ways this thread is not relevant to me currently, but I guess, the not feeling queer enough thing is because I'm in a "straight" relationship with my (trans female) partner, and I"m not super stereotypically effeminate or androgynous in any meaningful way ...

on the topic of kink, dang I really regret this username, is it possible to change it?

so I noticed, in one of the recent advice articles, you had someone asking about learning about kink as a minor, and while the response given was excellent for an all-around understanding, I feel like implicit in that question was some level of specific know how that literally is on mostly 18+ websi...

I really should have said something to her right away but I was very much in the moment. She spent the next few minutes continuing with me til I orgasmed and only told her about the vomit after. She's very upset and feels I prioritized my pleasure over her health. I definitely should have said somet...

I accidentally threw up a tiny bit right at the end when giving my (long time of 6 years, tested) partner (Trans F) oral sex, right before she came. She's very concerned and upset that I could have given her a UTI. What is the risk here and what should we do?

(I know that I have accepted my beard in another post, I often have confusing contradictory feelings)

this is an old-ass thread, but reviving it now: this time the feels are again about the skinniness and thin arms, but 3 other new developments: 1) feeling less of a "man" in terms of maturity looking at my visible ribs and lankiness. Like, I know there's no way I'm supposed to look really ...

btw my partner is a woman now and goes by she/her

apologies all, from current me, for my highly uninformed hot take way back when. I disavow the original post as it was full of shit and doesn't represent what I believe.

this situation changed a lot since I made the post and looking back I was extremely emotional and in a vulnerable place when making it. I ended up not going that time because it really was not safe. Back early pandemic we were all so naive about safety. Since then I've visited for extended stays a f...

for me, my facial hair, jackets, and flannel shirts are very affirming to my masculinity. They're all cliches but I had my own personal journey of allowing myself to feel like I was "worthy" of them and it's like I don't need to be a hulking beefcake or a macho jackass to adopt these thing...

not much more to say, other than a couple weeks ago I went to my primary physician and confirmed my suspicion that I had a small hemorrhoid in my butt that will probably go away on its own with time. it's not painful and it doesn't really interfere with anything and I don't like bleed. All that bein...

oh gosh my partner and I are far too anxious to engage in any kind of even sex-adjacent thing with another person in that capacity, but I definitely would be interested in like, video tutorials, books, or blogs

only just now realizing 2 years later that you probably meant "you got me" on your lie, not on mine lol

dammit I do the same thing! the "step one say yes" thing. also I think that kind of automatic speech is something in general I want to change. I often feel anxious in conversation so I just like laugh or say some pat response to my girlfriend or whoever it is when they say something automa...

something I do a lot is try to set very firm boundaries around having personal time to be alone or to end a conversation with a family member. I cohabit with my family and sometimes it can feel like they want me to be available 24/7, so it's important for me to take my own space and time.

(boyfriend is girlfriend now) currently the big hype thing for me is the concert I'm going to in a few days! small club venue, vax requirement. I'm gonna be seeing The Protomen live and it's so amazing! listened to every single track of theirs and they are just so perfect and it'll be my second live...

OMG it's by Tamsyn Muir and not NK Jemisin I'm so embarrassed sorry!

I've heard Gideon The Ninth by NK Jemisin is fairly queer but I may be confusing it with another book

an update! I've since added to The Goth Outfit™ with an ankh choker and fishnet sleeves! still have yet to wear it outside because of extreme embarrassment and anxiety, plus COVID, but it looks cool as heck in the photos I took of myself in it!