Then it sounds like exploring some written sexy stuff might be worth a try (if standard romance novels aren't your thing, there's plenty of sexy anthologies out there and, of course, the wide world of fanfiction). The question is less about other things that arouse you per se and more about things ...

Ah, okay, thank you for clarifying. I wonder, would it be worth trying with your current partner a few days of focusing only on figuring out what things (even if there's only a few of them) do give you pleasure? Just exploring as much as you can to see if anything hits the "ooh, nice" but...

Hi abbykeen, It sounds like there's a lot going on here, and a I'm glad to hear you're going to see a therapist. They can help you around a lot of the trauma based stuff you're experiencing. I will say that dealing with someone like your first partner can affect your sex drive for years after. So e...

Side note, I have gotten a few pap smears, not for this issue, but I think it's safe to say that she didn't notice anything obviously wrong. She mentioned that I have a tilted uterus, but that's common. I just thought I'd mention that.

Okay, I am going to do my best to make this straight forward and not jump around too much. I know you guys have other topics about not feeling anything during sex but I feel like my situation is a little too specific for that so I wanted to type it all out and see what you guys thought. When I was 1...