I learned that I am not a horrible person and that I have a chance at love. I learned that just because I love talking about sex doesn't make me a terrible perverted person. But, most of all, I've begun to learn (and am still learning) that I can be a sexy person who enjoys themselves sexually.

For me, queer represents my feelings and attractions towards others in both a romantic and sexual sense. Growing up, while I felt comfortable with my gender identity, I couldn't reconcile my attractions with any of the labels I knew. To state who I love and want to be loved by feels constrained by t...