Sam, I think to a certain extent I lacked clarity about what aspects with girls I am facing issue and I think I have a better idea now that's why my previous sessions weren't very helpful. Thanks to the team pointing out and advising on my concerns.

Karyn in addition you mentioned that my Friend might be attracted to a range of people but choose to express affection to a certain group. I find the wanting to break out into a big wide smile too automatic amd fast. How do I learn to choose and control how I act on my emotions then? I think by now ...

Hi Karyn, Yes I am seeing a professional counsellor but I think she isn't well equipped to handle such issues and I don't seem to be getting the answers pertaining to my queries. I thought you guys were doing fairly well in your responses. I'm considering seeing a sex therapist if that is appropriate.

Heather thanks for the reply. That was enlightening. As mentioned earlier by Scarlett I'm entitled to show my liking but not make the other party uncomfortable. I do believe my smiling due to interest is overtly obvious and I believe I do cause undue stress to younger girls. My Friend has this sort ...

Sam, actually I do see a professional. I think my concern would not be comparison but rather how to have self esteem such that comparisons wouldn't affect me. Secondly, I think you're spot on with regards to playing mind games. Unfortunately I feel I'm being sucked into this game and it's tough bein...

Well Sam, I don't focus any energy on my Brother per se anymore cause I have started work. I'm happy with my progress ie salary etc but nonetheless comparison is a never ending game, I know that there will always be people who are better off or more successful. It is just that my upbringing somehow ...

Hi, it's due to upbringing where I always get compared to my Brother that I'm not good enough despite what I do and at a point I did become not good enough because of my academic grades. Also in life I had good friends, but I never really felt like loved by many people. I know it might be how I inte...

I am afraid to express my liking for girls via smiling to myself as I'm happy or sexually attracted.Especially so if the girls are much younger as I am afraid people will Judge me negatively to be paedophilia or immature as older men seem more composed and don't react when they see a hot girl. Is sm...