A full-length mirror is the only way I've ever found to check for panty lines! As for your grandmother finding out, you would have a better idea than we would what her reaction would be likely to be, and what kinds of responses would defuse the situation. I'm guessing she'd likely not be happy, but...

KittyPink wrote:Have any idea how I can check to see if I have an obvious panty line?

Also, if by chance my grandmother finds out, how should I go about handling that?

Have any idea how I can check to see if I have an obvious panty line?

I'm glad you found some underwear you like! Hopefully you'll be able to keep it in a private place where it won't be interfered with. Depending on how much privacy you have in your room (if anyone else comes in to clean/grab laundry/poke around) you might have luck keeping things under your mattres...

If you look up girls underwear you should get the same results, a child size 10-12 large in clothing is the same as a women's extra small. You might want to try a bralette which kind of like a cross between a padded bra and a sports bra or maybe try a camisole tank top undershirt which usually have...

Try googling "paracord dog collar". Obviously, you don't have to use paracord, you can use soft ropes if you prefer. But tutorials on paracord patterns are available everywhere. Since you're looking for show-y styles, this gives you the opportunity to experiment with different patterns, d...

Sam W wrote:There's a decent chance that there would be a youtube tutorial to help you make that one (there are youtube tutorials on seemingly everything).

Ah, okay. Thanks for the help!

Karyn wrote:With the ears at least there might be some simple sewing/crafting patterns or tutorials online; a google search for something like "cat ear pattern" should turn up at least a few results.

What about a collar tutorial?

Sam W wrote:Which items are you thinking you'd make yourself?

Maybe the collar, and ears. The tails are bit of a long shot. The collar would be more of a show collar I can wear in public rather than a functional collar.

KittyPink wrote:

Sam W wrote:That would be the place to look, although you may want to come up with a plan ahead of time for ways to prevent your grandmother or mom from discovering them.

Yeah, my best bet for hiding it would probably be out of sight.

May I ask if anyone may know any good diy tutorials for things like these?

Sam W wrote:That would be the place to look, although you may want to come up with a plan ahead of time for ways to prevent your grandmother or mom from discovering them.

Yeah, my best bet for hiding it would probably be out of sight.

Sam W wrote:Are the items things you could get at more general stores? Or are they specific to fetish or sex toy stores?

Some I could possibly get at general stores (ears, collar, and maybe stuff to DIY the rest of the gear.)

Fair enough, so long as you're taking precautions against injury, you should be set. Most likely, just muscle pulls might happen, except in cases where other hazards exist. (Like possibly a broken bone, sprain, ect. ect.) I've been looking into kitten play info, and I really want to get gear for it...

I don't have any hard data on this but I think it's fairly common for there to be trans girls/women who are butch/tomboyish, or femme trans men - I certainly know a handful. But it's also really common for those people to feel a lot of doubt about either that identity or about going with that sort ...

I'm sorry that feeling keeps cropping up. We may have touched on this before, but have you had any luck using affirmations or reminders (like, physical ones that you can look at and read) that you can look at when you need to counter what your mom is saying? Yes, I have been using affirmations, but...

Like I feel so pressured sometimes to fit into a very tight box of feminity, so much that I feel like I can't ever just feel right with a short feminine cut, if I want one, or with masculine-ish clothes. I feel like this is something that happens a lot with others, but I feel like it's unreasonable ...

Because my mother's consistently said it doesn't exist, and that I lie constantly. (The lying thing had flown over to other things.) And, it really, really fucks with me sometimes. I don't like it, and I really don't know how to keep the thought from recurring.

Sam W wrote:Fair enough, so long as you're taking precautions against injury, you should be set.

Most likely, just muscle pulls might happen, except in cases where other hazards exist. (Like possibly a broken bone, sprain, ect. ect.)

Okay, so my recommendation would be to see if you can find some information or communities on pet play that you can start getting advice from. It seems like something that could help with bondage comfort might be cushions or similar to help make the positions more comfortable. Well, when I'm doing ...

With pet play, have you found any communities of people engaged in it who you could ask questions of? When you say your bondage choices might be uncomfortable, can you tell me more about that? Pet play is something I've recently got into, so no. And, I mean, like bondage that might... let's say, sq...

So, I have interest in pet play, specifically kitten play, but I'm not sure about ideas with it. And I've been growing in interest for bondage where I have two choices, both of which may be uncomfortable.

Sam W wrote:How so? Are you worried about her being uncomfortable, or something else?

Angry, possibly, uncomfortable, probably.

Sam W wrote:Hi Kittypink,

Ooof, that's always a tricky situation to be in. If you were to tell her, do you think your friendship is in a place where it could recover from her not sharing those feelings?

I'm not sure... I know I could, I'm concerned about her end.

So, I have a friend who I'm growing feelings for again, and we previously had feelings for each other at the same time... She says she doesn't have feelings for me anymore, but some part of me thinks that might be a lie. Either way, me not being able to tell her is killing me.

I would give it a try to see what your options are (if they're your allies, you might be able to bring them in to help convince your grandmother). With the voice coaching, I would see if you can find information from other trans folks online as to whether there is someone in your area who is availa...